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If Beauty is pain.........  Wow my future looks so beautiful! (Painful) I am not a big fan of pain in any way physical or emmotional, I try to avoid it as much as possible! But all I read about here says how "beautiful" my transition will be, tweezing, waxing, lazer, Electrolysis, tracheal shave, BA, FFS,SRS,......WOW! It makes me so scared and unwilling to come out or even go get these things done.   Yeah..so... I think I need a hug.

It's really easy to get overwhelmed, seriously. Just take it a piece at a time and it wont seem so bad. Yeah, laser sucks, but seeing the hair fall out in clumps is SO worth it!  In all honesty, transition has made me into a tough chicka. Pain? Bring it on!   >:-)

I hear you there. I really hate pain myself (even though I put up a pretty good tough guy/girl act), but when it comes to something important like this I think to myself, "Sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do." And trust me, emotional pain is one of the worst things for me!

For example, since I've started working my feet (high arches) and my back have been killing me. I just keep telling myself to deal with it and hope that I'll get over it eventually. Sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do, even if it means you don't want to do it. Think of the results and you'll get through it!

In an odd way, even though being in physical pain is draining, I kind of like it. It feels like I am burning away my old body to create something new that really belongs to me.

^ I concur.

"Beauty is pain" I said that last month when I got my face waxed. I'm going again this Sunday it is worth it. I plan to move up to electrolysis in the future. The pain will end on my face and start somewhere else. I'm glad there are brakes in between.

Quote from: Renesayer on October 06, 2011, 09:41:05 PM
It's really easy to get overwhelmed, seriously. Just take it a piece at a time and it wont seem so bad. Yeah, laser sucks, but seeing the hair fall out in clumps is SO worth it!  In all honesty, transition has made me into a tough chicka. Pain? Bring it on!   >:-)

thank you for seeing that I'm a bit overwhelmed with all this. But even taking it a piece at a time sounds like prolonging and stretching out the pain! I'm glad your feeling good and doing it! You have a great attitude. Guess I'm not a tough chicka yet...great now I feel like a wimp! Waah! ;)

Quote from: Fighter Sadie on October 07, 2011, 07:01:56 AM
I hear you there. I really hate pain myself (even though I put up a pretty good tough guy/girl act), but when it comes to something important like this I think to myself, "Sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do." And trust me, emotional pain is one of the worst things for me!

For example, since I've started working my feet (high arches) and my back have been killing me. I just keep telling myself to deal with it and hope that I'll get over it eventually. Sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do, even if it means you don't want to do it. Think of the results and you'll get through it!

I put a a pretty good tough guy act at work too; I have to in my profession, I share the same thought process with you" you gotta do what you gotta do" but when it comes to this, I just don't know. Thank you for your advise I really liked the" just think of the end results!"

Quote from: Sarah7 on October 07, 2011, 08:29:17 AM
In an odd way, even though being in physical pain is draining, I kind of like it. It feels like I am burning away my old body to create something new that really belongs to me.

My S.O. loved your response! But it just scared me more lol! Burning! Ouch! But I do like your way of looking at it! Out with the old me in with the new! Got it!

Quote from: jainie marlena on October 07, 2011, 11:26:03 AM
"Beauty is pain" I said that last month when I got my face waxed. I'm going again this Sunday it is worth it. I plan to move up to electrolysis in the future. The pain will end on my face and start somewhere else. I'm glad there are brakes in between.

Well I guess maybe the taking it in pieces/steps is good, at least we get a break from the pain and enjoy the end results.  Does the end results of one motivate you to go on to the next pain?





Thank you all for your replies its really interesting to see how each of us copes or sees this! I hope to get more replies to encourage me.

"Well I guess maybe the taking it in pieces/steps is good, at least we get a break from the pain and enjoy the end results.  Does the end results of one motivate you to go on to the next pain?"

@Jen-Jen, yes. I'm looking forward to it. I'm not getting my face waxed like I thought. Someone has helped me to move up to the next level. I don't know what to think about it really? I'm happier than words can express at the moment.

Quote from: jainie marlena on October 09, 2011, 03:41:57 AM
"Well I guess maybe the taking it in pieces/steps is good, at least we get a break from the pain and enjoy the end results.  Does the end results of one motivate you to go on to the next pain?"

@Jen-Jen, yes. I'm looking forward to it. I'm not getting my face waxed like I thought. Someone has helped me to move up to the next level. I don't know what to think about it really? I'm happier than words can express at the moment.

Glad to know it at least motivates you to go on to the next,  its nice to hear your happy at the moment, I can feel your excitement and happines in your response. Let me know how it goes!

I have been told by g-girls that beauty is painfull and uncomfortable..

Waxing and keeping yourself pretty is a pain, but worth it.. when you look good..... even growing breasts entails some pain...


also the more uncomforable clothes are, the better you look... I have this one stapless bra, it feels very uncomfortable.. but my breasts look great in them...but I still wear the bra..

and heels, yes they can be uncomfortable and hurt your feet.. but I think my legs look better in them .. so I wear them...

Yes, I do love making myself pretty.

No pain,

Except laser to the upper lip, damn I have to go again.

High heels. so what. You get use to them and they are so gorgeous. Pain? Pleasure. The first second your legs are checked out. Mmmmmmmm


Wax doesn't hurt.

I could go on

Cindy

Sarah7,

I get what you mean.  After I started tucking, I didn't care how much pain I was in because of that or anything I'd have to do to feel the way I want.

Quote from: noleen111 on October 09, 2011, 04:17:55 AM
I have been told by g-girls that beauty is painfull and uncomfortable..

Waxing and keeping yourself pretty is a pain, but worth it.. when you look good..... even growing breasts entails some pain...


also the more uncomforable clothes are, the better you look... I have this one stapless bra, it feels very uncomfortable.. but my breasts look great in them...but I still wear the bra..

and heels, yes they can be uncomfortable and hurt your feet.. but I think my legs look better in them .. so I wear them...

Yes, I do love making myself pretty.

I don't mind the uncomfortable, its pain I don't like. Uncomfortable cloths, heels hurting feet no problem, its the other things that deter me. I like looking pretty too!

Quote from: Cindy James on October 09, 2011, 04:26:49 AM
No pain,

Except laser to the upper lip, damn I have to go again.

High heels. so what. You get use to them and they are so gorgeous. Pain? Pleasure. The first second your legs are checked out. Mmmmmmmm


Wax doesn't hurt.

I could go on

Cindy

no pain??? Upper lip is painful huh? Exactly high heels so what! So your saying the first time my legs get checked out will make up for the pain? Wsx doesn't hurt? As much you mean? Go on!

Quote from: Amaranth on October 09, 2011, 04:28:19 AM
Sarah7,

I get what you mean.  After I started tucking, I didn't care how much pain I was in because of that or anything I'd have to do to feel the way I want.

So tucking hurts too?? Oh Geeze!

Quote from: Jen-Jen on October 09, 2011, 04:43:11 AM
So tucking hurts too?? Oh Geeze!

It doesn't for some...depends on the size of your cojones.  My first time tucking went a little like this:

*tucks*.....*puts on gaff and panties properly for the first time*....*walks up to the mirror, wincing in pain*....."I...look...great >.o"

*collapse*

And I've been doing it 24/7 ever since :) it became completely free of pain and discomfort after a few days....now I get extremely dysphoric when I go about with it untucked.

Quote from: Amaranth on October 09, 2011, 04:50:20 AM
It doesn't for some...depends on the size of your cojones.  My first time tucking went a little like this:

*tucks*.....*puts on gaff and panties properly for the first time*....*walks up to the mirror, wincing in pain*....."I...look...great >.o"

*collapse*

And I've been doing it 24/7 ever since :) it became completely free of pain and discomfort after a few days....now I get extremely dysphoric when I go about with it untucked.

I totally pictured it! -giggles- Thanks for making me smile! Guess I'll find out, thanks for the input!

Come on girls, a little pain for what you get.
Life is sometimes pain, the one who don't want this, doesn't want to live either.
Pain can go togheter with incredible joy, what to think about cis women when they give birth, don't you think they will have pain?
The reward for this will be even bigger.
Just be a big girl and don't cry for a little pain.

Quote from: Jen-Jen on October 09, 2011, 04:57:09 AM
I totally pictured it! -giggles- Thanks for making me smile! Guess I'll find out, thanks for the input!

Any time :)

And if you haven't tried yet, I'd use a gaff from the start (even a homemade one), but that's just my preference.  Contrary to what I've heard, in my experience if you use the right materials it makes tucking more comfortable, physically and mentally.  If you put it on and position it right, it stops your unwanted bits from rubbing on the inside of your thighs, which most underwear aren't wide enough to do, and with a sturdy gaff material and panty you get a look and feel that's unmatched.

One thing that gets me through living in boy mode is doing this.  Once the whole process is done, I feel as if it's just not there.  It's like a superhero's costume....put it on and bam, my (not so) secret identity and manhood are gone.  lol

What a fantastic subject line Jen! It stands alone as a positive affirmation that can bear some repeating throughout the day. Plus sooooo much more beautiful then the alternative "that which does not kill us makes us stronger"

Thank you for the beautiful start to my day

For me, emotional pain is far worse than any physical pain. Physical pain is transitory lasting from a few tens of milli-seconds to maybe a week or two. In many cases readily numbed. In my pre-jurasiac days when I first seriously considered, even experimented with, transition as an option there were many painful wounds still open from childhood and teenage years for being physically different and standing out (aka a big tall fat target). Any laughter heard around me like in a mall would instantly send cold chills up my back, and that was 100 lbs lighter and in guy mode! Only in the past few years have I noticed that for the most part laughter no longer hits me like it did. Back then the prospect of voluntarily leading a life which can expose me to ridicule was one of the primary factors which led me back to try my best at faking being a guy.

*HUGZ!*

Quote from: Cadence Jean on October 09, 2011, 06:37:58 PM
*HUGZ!*

Thank you, your beautiful by the way! Face,hair, body.. wow!

Quote from: Jen-Jen on October 06, 2011, 09:27:55 PM
   Yeah..so... I think I need a hug.

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     JUST FOR YOU !!!

Pain level 1= trivial. 10 = scream and cry and not look forward to it. None of the pain levels approach a burn or a dislocation BTW.

Waxing legs, back arms 2.
Full face laser 8
Repeat laser on high intensity on the upper lip 9-10
ear piercing 1

All day in 2-3 inch heels 5-6 but drops after practice.

Eye brow waxing/plucking/tinting 1

Satisfaction for the above: Total.


Hugs
Cindy

Today was waxing legs - 2.  First time Bikini Line- 11!!!!!
But I will no doubt do it again.  A bit of pain never hurt anybody :laugh:

Karen.

Ok so I tried some hair remover labeled specifically for the upper lip, I followed the instructions.  I tested a small area to see if I got any reactions, waited 24 hrs and was good.  So today I use it on my upper lip, well lets just say it reacted! I now look like Ronald McDonald, not to mention it burns! Ahhh!

Eh, I'm just kind of being dragged along into all of this. No money and no patience, bad skin and lots of little hairs, make this a really tough transition. The big thing is time, everything will take a while. Fortunately, I have like 3 things going for me right now, so hopefully things will change soon.

Quote from: The Passage on November 01, 2011, 10:20:19 PM
Eh, I'm just kind of being dragged along into all of this. No money and no patience, bad skin and lots of little hairs, make this a really tough transition. The big thing is time, everything will take a while. Fortunately, I have like 3 things going for me right now, so hopefully things will change soon.

I don't feel like I'm being dragged into it, but I also have no money and patience, bad skin and lots of little hairs, but mine are thick hairs, so its tough. Thanks for your reply.

Quote from: Jen-Jen on November 01, 2011, 10:14:30 PM
Ok so I tried some hair remover labeled specifically for the upper lip, I followed the instructions.  I tested a small area to see if I got any reactions, waited 24 hrs and was good.  So today I use it on my upper lip, well lets just say it reacted! I now look like Ronald McDonald, not to mention it burns! Ahhh!

Aw damn  >:(

Just remember to keep your head held high and don't look back, the pain is worth every second of it. But sometimes you just need a little push to continue. :)

Quote from: Ava1 on November 02, 2011, 06:23:27 PM
Aw damn  >:(

Just remember to keep your head held high and don't look back, the pain is worth every second of it. But sometimes you just need a little push to continue. :)

uh..yeah ouch! Thank you for the little push! :)

I look forward to it in a way or another, I'm definitely not turned away by pain.

I nearly fell asleep during my Tattoo's, which I may or may not have removed after my transition.

So bring on the pain =)

Well I got my eyebrows waxed today! Ouuuch! But I like the results, I didn't go too femme with them yet though.

Quote from: Jen-Jen on November 01, 2011, 10:14:30 PM
Ok so I tried some hair remover labeled specifically for the upper lip, I followed the instructions.  I tested a small area to see if I got any reactions, waited 24 hrs and was good.  So today I use it on my upper lip, well lets just say it reacted! I now look like Ronald McDonald, not to mention it burns! Ahhh!

Yeah those hair removal creams don't work at all. :(

I am so tempted to just pluck all my hair out... agghhhhhh!!!!

I had my first mud mask today too! I felt like a cupcake getting frosted! Lol