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So my dad asked me if I really wanted to go out in public as my right gender and i said yeah so he as an acxwoting father and my accepting mother are going with me to shop for a whole new girl wardrobe I'm so happy also im not post op my picture is me as a guy dressed as a girl so I havent transitioned yet lol its my natural look as the female I am

Pics of me here
http://m1230.photobucket.com/albums/mellie121/ (http://m1230.photobucket.com/albums/mellie121/)

Do post pics!

And give your Mom and Dad a couple of hugs.

We like to get existential, you ain't a man dressed as a girl, that's 100% female in that picture! Congratulations, friend. I'll be around here to help, should your road get rocky.

Thats you in the avatar?
Your body looks so smuuuuve.
creepcreepcreepcreepcreepcreep
I'm so hairy :X

You look great too!
i'm glad you're taking a big step in buying female clothes with your parents approval.

that wouldn't be a problem for me if i had any moola.

Thanks Emma I'm here for you to whenever your in need of help or to talk and as for anyone else:) I'm here for you but I need to know if I start hormones now I'm a junior in highschool will it prevent me from gaining that man shape and will it have more effect to shaping me rather then starting at 20

Yes the avatar is me ill change the picture so you can examine my body frame

You sooooo need to post pics! Also I'm really happy for you :). I'm going shopping for my first shred of female clothing in a few days myself, but you're getting a whole wardrobe. I can only imagine how excited you must be!

Quote from: mellissa on October 19, 2011, 08:31:37 PM
Thanks Emma I'm here for you to whenever your in need of help or to talk and as for anyone else:) I'm here for you but I need to know if I start hormones now I'm a junior in highschool will it prevent me from gaining that man shape and will it have more effect to shaping me rather then starting at 20

Start now, all it takes is a couple of years for your bones to set. Prevents facial hair too, being younger.

Alright ill start now:) when I find a therapists

Sadie I'm very excited :) because I can then get the clothing switch to a different school since ill drive the. I can live as a female that I am with a new start:) and you must be happy to !

Uh.
Your body isn't even shaped male.

gawd bless your little lucky soul.

Why thank you:) but yeah the full transformation starts now ! Wish me luck

Quote from: mellissa on October 19, 2011, 08:38:06 PM
Alright ill start now:) when I find a therapists

We can help with that too, where's your nearest major city? (be back in 30)

I live in the capital city of south carolina which is Columbia

Pics of me here:
http://m1230.photobucket.com/albums/mellie121/ (http://m1230.photobucket.com/albums/mellie121/)

you look really good, not even considering you're pre-HRT. Do it now if you can, or it will get worse before it gets better. I could pass pretty well 5 years ago, but I waited and now it's going to take some surgery, the 20s are not kind.

Okay ill get started asi just need to find a psychiatrists

http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_results.php?city=West+Columbia&county=Lexington&state=SC&spec=172 (http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_results.php?city=West+Columbia&county=Lexington&state=SC&spec=172)
They seem to be at the same practice, contact them and see if they can assist you with a gender transition, if they won't, fire them and call the next one.

Thanks:) Emma your the best!

Quote from: mellissa on October 19, 2011, 10:01:44 PM
Thanks:) Emma your the best!

This is why wiki staff rule ;) We got your info, free! BTW, if you go into chat by any chance, Flan Princess is awesome too.

Are those trusted therapists lol

Lol Idk how to work the chat thing its just a black screen

I live in CA, I have no experience with those therapists and I cannot endorse them.

Perhaps you should start a thread asking other members if they have contacted a therapist near where you are.

Chat should be up now....

I downloaded Icechat, added the susan's server, and log in through that application- it seems I'm having complications getting in through the forum navigation as well.

If you want to get set up through icechat you can PM me and I will walk you through.

SCALE

-> This situation
-> Super amazing
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This is REALLY AMAZING. You are super lucky. You have a close to perfect body and your family is so nice, and you're so young. Keep moving forward... But keep in mind that I hate you. Just 'cause I'm jealous. D:

I'm lying. Anyway, yes, hormones must be started as soon as possible. Every month you wait is a great deal of effectiveness you lose at your age.

Quote from: mellissa on October 19, 2011, 08:14:48 PM
So my dad asked me if I really wanted to go out in public as my right gender and i said yeah so he as an acxwoting father and my accepting mother are going with me to shop for a whole new girl wardrobe I'm so happy also im not post op my picture is me as a guy dressed as a girl so I havent transitioned yet lol its my natural look as the female I am

Pics of me here
http://m1230.photobucket.com/albums/mellie121/ (http://m1230.photobucket.com/albums/mellie121/)

Yay!! That's wonderful mellissa, stay in school! - xo

So I'm thinking of starting hormones January would that be bad because i still need to find a therapists

If you could start hormones in January, it would be great. But just asking for hormones will not give them to you right away. It all depends on the therapist and doctor and such, but I started asking two years ago. I could only see the right psychiatrist in January this year. I still have nothing. Maybe I'm an extreme case, but keep in mind that you're most probably going to get stalled. So you should start to look as fast as possible.

Not gonna lie girl, I wish I looked half as good as you when I was your age (about 2-3 years ago lol). My body frame is like the exact opposite of yours!

Also your clothes look great. You must be way excited! Also if you can get those hormones soon. Male puberty is a bitch (or bastard maybe?), and the sooner you can kill that beast the better!

Quote from: Fighter Sadie on October 20, 2011, 08:05:53 AMMale puberty is a bitch (or bastard maybe?)

That's definitely an understatement right there.

Every day of my life I wish I would've had the guts to speak up before puberty hit me with a concrete brick. It's done so much damage and it's just gonna be a pain to fix it all.

Quote from: Lynn on October 20, 2011, 08:08:42 AM
That's definitely an understatement right there.

Every day of my life I wish I would've had the guts to speak up before puberty hit me with a concrete brick. It's done so much damage and it's just gonna be a pain to fix it all.

Tell me about it :(. Though to be honest I think that I would have a much harder time getting people to believe me before puberty. I still remember when I wanted to transition before going to high school so it would be easier to be stealth. Oh well, time wasted isn't time to be dwelled upon I guess.

Quote from: mellissa on October 19, 2011, 08:14:48 PM
So my dad asked me if I really wanted to go out in public as my right gender and i said yeah so he as an acxwoting father and my accepting mother are going with me to shop for a whole new girl wardrobe I'm so happy also im not post op my picture is me as a guy dressed as a girl so I havent transitioned yet lol its my natural look as the female I am

Pics of me here
http://m1230.photobucket.com/albums/mellie121/ (http://m1230.photobucket.com/albums/mellie121/)

YAY! Shopping spree!!! Woohoo!!! Have fun!

you should lower your flash a little :P

Lol yes! Shoppimg spree I'm so hapoy I can hust be like mom dad I need.to see a thrrapists and just come out its akot easier when you have support I thought I was going to be sad foreveer but once i heard we know your depressed we can tell I finally realized I have great understanding parents but Yall made me worry about hormones so now lol im having anxiety because I don't want my puberty to make me man like when I  need to stop is now when exactly would be the dead like for young 20? Or would it be harder when im 20 and start it now at 16

Sorry if some of my words messed up I'm on my phone

If you wait until you're 20 you'll probably have lost about 50% of the nice body features you have right now. I swear it's more than urgent.

Oh okay ill get a therapists starting monday but will they give me hormones the first day?

Quote from: mellissa on October 20, 2011, 04:39:02 PM
Oh okay ill get a therapists starting monday but will they give me hormones the first day?

They won't, but the sooner you see a therapist, the sooner you will be able to start hormones so it's still good to go ASAP.

Oh, and by the way, you need to speak to a doctor as fast as possible, too. It's not therapists that prescribe, it's doctors.

When will they give me hormones? After a month or a year

Quote from: A on October 20, 2011, 04:57:47 PM
Oh, and by the way, you need to speak to a doctor as fast as possible, too. It's not therapists that prescribe, it's doctors.

They may be wary if there was not a 3 month trans experience precedent. A therapist gives this reassurance, but if you go in as a girl you can probably get them straight away with informed consent. Age might be an issue. Old rules have a habit of dying hard...

Okay im military my dad is army so would they prescribe me hormones also do i tell my pediatrician or some gender doctor

Quote from: EmmaM on October 20, 2011, 05:44:18 PM
They may be wary if there was not a 3 month trans experience precedent. A therapist gives this reassurance, but if you go in as a girl you can probably get them straight away with informed consent. Age might be an issue. Old rules have a habit of dying hard...

but if you go in as a girl you can probably get them straight away with informed consent.

Thats what I did.
Demand for immediate medication  :D

Quote from: mellissa on October 20, 2011, 07:18:21 PM
Okay im military my dad is army so would they prescribe me hormones also do i tell my pediatrician or some gender doctor

Do military places have different types of doctors?

There are no gender doctors, only therapists. Though, there are doctor's who are sought out specifically as gender specialists, ones that have helped many trans people. I don't know if there are prominent ones in your area.

Quote from: mellissa on October 20, 2011, 07:18:21 PM
im military my dad is army

I'm assuming that you're using Tricare insurance or their On-Post doctors. If that is the case it's unlikely that they prescribe hormones yet*. It's certain that military sponsors cannot get hormonal treatment or surgeries through the Tricare system, and they are also subject to medical discharge (See AR 635-40, AR 635-200, AR 40-501). These don't cover dependents, and I haven't seen anything special about dependent exceptions. You can google a lot of the Tricare benefits.

There shouldn't be any harm in asking if they provide these services as you aren't subject to discharge and it doesn't hurt your father's status. They can probably offer some form of therapy if they do not provide gender specific services, but it's not likely that you will like that approach. Therapists not specializing in gender issues generally aim to "fix" you. If they don't offer what you're looking for, luckily army bases are usually not far from big cities and trans-friendly clinics.

*Not helpful to mellissa unfortunately, but the Veterans Affairs now unilaterally accept those with Gender Dysphoria, and supposedly treat and prescribe, but not surgically operate on patients.

Awwe well ill get a therapists from a civilian hopsital but thanks yall ill go in as a girl and demand for immediate hormones

Also consider hormone blockers if you can't get on estrogen right away, that'll at least stop you from masculinizing any further.

Okay ill get hormone blockers but is 16 to late and when is the dead line of age to start homes before your body turns Eww

in the US, 16 is very early, and a great time to start, earlier is always better, but there are limitations before 18. Since your parents are supportive, you can get past a lot of that with their help. As long as you start soon you'll be fine, it's mostly around the age of 25 when the growth process stops and male genetics set in. None of the numbers you find are exact, some guys go bald by 21, others stay youthful through their 30s, really it's best to start as soon as you can just in case.

Thank you morrigan :) ill start soon

Nothing but happy feelings for you...

it's just hard to read all this. I wished I would have said something when I was 16.

My heart is with you mellissa. good luck :D

Thank you livingingrey:)

Quote from: mellissa on October 21, 2011, 11:41:06 PM
Okay ill get hormone blockers but is 16 to late and when is the dead line of age to start homes before your body turns Eww

i started HRT when I was 35. My HRT worked just fine.

The most important thing about HRT is to take it when you are ready for it and not by how you would perceive your body will be next year without it. It's something you want to discuss with your endo and therapist about

But yeah, if you're ready, go for it

My endo? What's thst

Endo... endocrinologist :P

you know.
the dude who prescribes you the 'pretty pills'.

words cannot describe how freakiing awesome that both your parents are being supportive! too many of us have lost either one or both parents when "coming out".........

Quote from: Lynn on October 20, 2011, 08:08:42 AM

Every day of my life I wish I would've had the guts to speak up before puberty hit me with a concrete brick.

I agree  :P I waited like 2 years too many and by then most of the damage was done

Just looking like any other American teenage girl. Awesome parents you have.

Quote from: mellissa on October 21, 2011, 11:41:06 PM
Okay ill get hormone blockers but is 16 to late and when is the dead line of age to start homes before your body turns Eww

Too late? At 16! Heem, look around at all the trans women on this forum. Most the them didn't start HRT until their 30s, 40s and 50s. There are some very fine looking ladies here.

Relax, you have it made at 16. It's a perfect time. You're very lucky to be able to transition at such a young age.

Okay lol sorry I'm like freaking I need to find a therapists