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Title: suicide attempt
Post by: Marta on October 27, 2011, 06:06:34 PM
Post by: Marta on October 27, 2011, 06:06:34 PM
My aunt has officially been hospitalized since last night. Ive mentioned her on here a couple of times. She is 40 yrs old and started transitioning late last year. She tried to commit suicide last night by taking pills and alcohol. Ive been living with her for a couple of months now basically since last winter, with a lot of disapproval from my family of course. I first started noticing her drinking a bit more heavily back in September, i turned 21 last month so we went to a bar i thought she was just having too much fun and drank a bit more than usual. All my life ive never known her even when she lived as a man to be a heavy drinker. I dont really understand what happened to her, she seemed happier to be able to get started with her transition and come out to everyone that matters to her So far though i have been the only person to accept her the way she is, the majority of my family is opposed to what she is doing. And i can understand if she was depressed because of that but it just seems so sudden. Well anyway im now at the house by myself, and its a bit sad and uncomfortable to be here alone. I dont know how long they will keep her, sadly my aunt has also not changed her name or gender legally yet so she will most likely be referred to as a male there, i hope not because i know she will be very crushed by this. Anyway i just needed to vent, i hope she will be okay :(
Title: Re: suicide attempt
Post by: Devlyn on October 27, 2011, 06:30:46 PM
Post by: Devlyn on October 27, 2011, 06:30:46 PM
Sorry, hon, big hugs! The alcohol use doesn't help with anything. Try to help her get into a program for sobriety. Hugs, Tracey
Title: Re: suicide attempt
Post by: Forever21Chic on October 27, 2011, 07:16:12 PM
Post by: Forever21Chic on October 27, 2011, 07:16:12 PM
I'm so sorry marta, sounds like you really care about your aunt. To put it bluntly, being transgendered is hard. Most people don't understand nor do they want to understand why someone would want to change their sex. I personally hate being trans & i wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. Your aunt might be feeling the samething, alot of us do at some point or another.
I hope your aunt finds the strength to get back on the saddle and resume her transition. - xo
Title: Re: suicide attempt
Post by: JenJen2011 on October 27, 2011, 07:18:32 PM
Post by: JenJen2011 on October 27, 2011, 07:18:32 PM
Quote from: Marta on October 27, 2011, 06:06:34 PM
My aunt has officially been hospitalized since last night. Ive mentioned her on here a couple of times. She is 40 yrs old and started transitioning late last year. She tried to commit suicide last night by taking pills and alcohol. Ive been living with her for a couple of months now basically since last winter, with a lot of disapproval from my family of course. I first started noticing her drinking a bit more heavily back in September, i turned 21 last month so we went to a bar i thought she was just having too much fun and drank a bit more than usual. All my life ive never known her even when she lived as a man to be a heavy drinker. I dont really understand what happened to her, she seemed happier to be able to get started with her transition and come out to everyone that matters to her So far though i have been the only person to accept her the way she is, the majority of my family is opposed to what she is doing. And i can understand if she was depressed because of that but it just seems so sudden. Well anyway im now at the house by myself, and its a bit sad and uncomfortable to be here alone. I dont know how long they will keep her, sadly my aunt has also not changed her name or gender legally yet so she will most likely be referred to as a male there, i hope not because i know she will be very crushed by this. Anyway i just needed to vent, i hope she will be okay :(
Sorry to hear that. She REALLY needs you right now. Continue to be there for her.
Title: Re: suicide attempt
Post by: Constance on October 27, 2011, 08:03:09 PM
Post by: Constance on October 27, 2011, 08:03:09 PM
I'm sorry about your Aunt. We're here for you, Marta.
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
I've never actually attempted suicide, but I had gotten to the planning stage before.
Take care of yourself, and be there for her if you can. You're in a really tough position. Hang in there.
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
I've never actually attempted suicide, but I had gotten to the planning stage before.
Take care of yourself, and be there for her if you can. You're in a really tough position. Hang in there.
Title: Re: suicide attempt
Post by: Renate on October 27, 2011, 08:15:57 PM
Post by: Renate on October 27, 2011, 08:15:57 PM
It's great that she has you at least.
I'm sure that anything that you can do while visiting her will make a big difference.
I'm sure that anything that you can do while visiting her will make a big difference.
Title: Re: suicide attempt
Post by: MarinaM on October 27, 2011, 08:24:12 PM
Post by: MarinaM on October 27, 2011, 08:24:12 PM
You are a-maz-ing
The gravity of her situation can not be clearly expressed. A complicated transition must be felt to understand the inner and outer turmoil it can cause, always centered around the individual, and always pressuring the person to seek a form of escape. When you get her back turn her attention to other things, if you can, something constructive, something creative, or something meaningful.
The gravity of her situation can not be clearly expressed. A complicated transition must be felt to understand the inner and outer turmoil it can cause, always centered around the individual, and always pressuring the person to seek a form of escape. When you get her back turn her attention to other things, if you can, something constructive, something creative, or something meaningful.
Title: Re: suicide attempt
Post by: V M on October 27, 2011, 09:52:57 PM
Post by: V M on October 27, 2011, 09:52:57 PM
Glad you are there for her, that gives you hero status in my book :icon_bunch: best wishes to both of you
Hugs
- Virginia
Hugs
- Virginia
Title: Re: suicide attempt
Post by: Annah on October 27, 2011, 09:58:24 PM
Post by: Annah on October 27, 2011, 09:58:24 PM
She is truly blessed to have someone like you by her side!
I am sure the hospital may try to work out a program for her to curb her drinking too. Depression is so much worse when you come down from being drunk. Trust me. It's not a fun feeling :(
I am sure the hospital may try to work out a program for her to curb her drinking too. Depression is so much worse when you come down from being drunk. Trust me. It's not a fun feeling :(
Title: Re: suicide attempt
Post by: Joelene9 on October 27, 2011, 10:23:35 PM
Post by: Joelene9 on October 27, 2011, 10:23:35 PM
Marta,
Your aunt is going through puberty again and that is the time when family acceptance is needed most. Alcohol and puberty don't mix. Kids, when they are thrown out of the house as teenagers end up doing bad things. But suicides are lower for that group because these kids find others like them in the streets that will accept them. Those kids usually unintentionally OD on something.
I got a supporting niece too. She still call me uncle, but I don't mind. She is also a post-grad psychologist. I also have support of the rest of my family as well. Have your aunt go to the local transgender meetings.
Joelene
Your aunt is going through puberty again and that is the time when family acceptance is needed most. Alcohol and puberty don't mix. Kids, when they are thrown out of the house as teenagers end up doing bad things. But suicides are lower for that group because these kids find others like them in the streets that will accept them. Those kids usually unintentionally OD on something.
I got a supporting niece too. She still call me uncle, but I don't mind. She is also a post-grad psychologist. I also have support of the rest of my family as well. Have your aunt go to the local transgender meetings.
Joelene