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I call the police to keep my wife from hurting my daughter and I. It seems to have back fired in my face. She found a lawyer to get her out of it. They are going to use what I did over 8 years ago as a diffence to get her out of what she did friday night. Charges are being brought up on me for the past. Even though I did the right thing by not fighting with her. I am still going to be punished for it. I am happy non the less because I know that I will get through this Just as I have everything else this year. I hope for the chance to speak on my behalf before the judge. I cried earlyer because it seems so wrong to go through so much just to go through more. I cant stand the fact she has all these rights just because she is a woman in this state. Cry a little to female lawyer and they begin the witch hunt. I have been a victum my whole life because of this. How can this be? All I keep thinking is I should have call the police 15 years ago when she first hit me.

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I had to put my wife in jail Friday night

Get a lawyer.

I don't know how much comfort this will be but just to give you an example:

About two years ago I shared office space with another company. Well the owner of that company was a capital D-I-C-K and thought just because I was paying him rent he could literally steal my clients that walked through the door. I called a meeting in which myself and one of my employees sat in his office and told him that that was not going to fly.
He started screaming threats and profanities trying to bully his way out of it. My partner (whom is a gg) came into the room to try and disarm the situation only got shoved around and grabbed and when I got in between them to end this I also got pushed around. We left the jerks office and went back to mine only to have him follow us and try to break into my office. When I stood in the doorway and tried to block him he punched me in the face.

We called the cops whom came out and despite 3 of us telling the same story seperately with physical marks to show for it and him having no one to back up his story the cops would not make an arrest and wouldn't even take a police report. Even after my s/o went down to the station the next day the cop that interviewed her basically told her that she was at fault.

Unfortunately the last thing you will find in our justice system is actual justice.

My advice to you is as tough as it may seem, keep your cool and DOCUMENT everything as usually it is he/she with the most paperwork when it comes to court that ends up winning.
Keep your wits about you. You did the right thing and the only court of opinion that really matters at the end of the day is that of your children.

I agree with CYnthia, you need a lawyer asap.

@cinthialee
Get a lawyer is like telling me to find a gender therapist. Money is all that matters which is something I don't have I should have banked  the money that my aunt sent  me instead of getting a car. Good try though at lest you were thinking of me most where I live don't even do that.
@Jaded1 thanks, you are right even if I lose in the end I will win what I care about the most.

I don't know what incident you're referring to that they are going to try to use against you, however, if it was reported back then and a settlement was established and fulfilled, I cannot see it being tried again.  If it was not documented/reported, it's simply hearsay (her word against yours) unless there is specific evidence or witnesses related to that incident in particular.  If there is no evidence/are no witnesses and you do not admit to any guilt to the prior [alleged] incident, it will more than likely flop.  However, if your wife gets out of the most recent incident and you are not charged with anything, you still win in the end.  As stated before, keep your cool even if she doesn't.  You want to remain a calm, clear-minded person regardless of any accusations made by her.  Lastly, I am not one to pry into someone's personal life as far as relationships go, but I cannot advise enough to get out of the relationship based off what I am hearing.  Best of luck.

  You admission of the case before will count against you now.  A lawyer is needed now.  No more specifics please, anything you publish on this or other forums will enable her lawyer to actually press this case against you further. 
  Joelene

ok,

Quote from: Joelene9 on October 31, 2011, 10:25:30 PM
  You admission of the case before will count against you now.  A lawyer is needed now.  No more specifics please, anything you publish on this or other forums will enable her lawyer to actually press this case against you further. 
  Joelene

Per this thread on this forum, I don't see a clear admission; the comment by the OP in this post is circumstantial.  The only thing mentioned thus far in this post by the OP was "what I did 8 years ago," not at all listing specifics and certainly not admitting to any single incident.  I do, however, absolutely agree the OP needs to immediately speak no further on any past matters and a lawyer would be a good idea, though I understand the financial burden as well.

to answer the original topic... Shoot it's Always the wrong thing to do to do the right thing. That's why there are so few good people in the world.

As for the thread, a lawyer will be needed just for simple protection. any statutes after 7 or 10 years cannot be brought back up as well as if you were tried before you cannot be tried again. Money is a HUGE issue unfortunately. If I can find something that can help those without funds I'll let you know. Loves to you and your daughter.

It is all on record. the only thing that is not is what was done to me before  8 years ago. I kept what she did to me to myself that lead up to it. I beat the crap out of her 8 years ago after she jump me. Years of someone smacking you around and not thinking there is a way out gets  to you. Knowing that what I did to her was wrong change me. that is why I called the police instead of fighting back friday. I never dreamed that they would bring charges back up that were dropped.

Quote from: jainie marlena on October 31, 2011, 10:48:08 PM
It is all on record. the only thing that is not is what was done to me before  8 years ago. I kept what she did to me to myself that lead up to it. I beat the crap out of her 8 years ago after she jump me. Years of someone smacking you around and not thinking there is a way out gets  to you. Knowing that what I did to her was wrong change me. that is why I called the police instead of fighting back friday. I never dreamed that they would bring charges back up that were dropped.

Okay, that still doesn't mean you're doomed.  If she is attempting to re-introduce this case [in which was dropped] without anything new to present (evidence mainly) that is relevant, no judge will even be interested in listening.  Furthermore, as mentioned, the statute of limitation may be at play at this point.

Provided no new evidence to the prior case has been presented and the judge does not agree to allow the case reopened; your argument then is one crime does not answer for another.  What happened eight years ago is since passed, and it cannot be used as a justification for the crime that occurred the other night.  Whatever you do, I advise against playing the blame game.  Your goal is to stick with the current incident, arguing that past incidents are irrelevant.  Just an example, someone jumps you and gets arrested/charged.  Eight years later you beat the crap out of that person for whatever reason.  Is it to be believed that because of the past incident you were justified in your actions?  I think not.

Your wife is in a panic and is trying to do whatever possible to be viewed as the victim, which is typical.  You need to show that YOU are the victim, but remember, of this incident only.  Any time they attempt to sway towards past events, remind them those events have already been settled and the court needs to remain speaking of the current events only since it is the current incident that compelled your wife to reintroduce an eight year old case.

As per this incident, you attempted to break up the violence - showing a calm, clear-minded approach on your part.  This, I feel, will play well on your end of the defense.  Her goal is to bring up your violence eight years ago to justify your passive approach this time...likely to confuse people considering she was the aggressor for this current incident.  I would not worry too much, but do not become overconfident either.

I think it is best to end this discussion now, however, for your sake.  Hope I've helped, and best of luck.

@stldrmgrl ok, I see your point. thanks for your words