Community Conversation => Transitioning => Hormone replacement therapy => Topic started by: rothkokid on November 03, 2011, 06:16:07 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Question about obtaining T at a young age, custody issues
Post by: rothkokid on November 03, 2011, 06:16:07 PM
Post by: rothkokid on November 03, 2011, 06:16:07 PM
Hello! I'm within a week of turning ..., and I'm a transmasculine person. My gender dysphoria has been at all all-time high. I can't look at myself in the mirror without becoming very anxious. I absolutely cannot STAND the sight of my own body. I haven't gone to school the past few days because the dysphoria is too intense. I am trying not to hurt myself, though the want is definitely there. My dysphoria is--as usual--exacerbating my anxiety disorder and depression.
I have a gender therapist and she's told me she would absolutely write me a letter for T, and that the main struggle would be finding an endo who would prescribe it to a young person. She also told me about estrogen-blockers I could take in the meantime that aren't prescription-only. I'm not quite certain of what effect the estrogen-blockers would have at my present age, but I'm beyond willing to take them if there are no other options.
The biggest issue I'm having in this hormone discussion is my mother, who is unsupportive of my being trans*, and beyond unsupportive of my medically transitioning. The thing is that my parents are divorced, and my father is supportive of my taking hormones. I live with my father full-time, and have for seven months, but legally, my parents see me on a 50/50 schedule. I'm not at all worried about hurting my mother's feelings by starting hormones, as it IS my body, and I can't live like this anymore. I need to be able to function and not absolutely hate every movement my body makes. I know, however, that if I start T without her consent (even if I have my father's), she will make the argument that she has just as much a say in my body as my father does (which is a creepy as hell sentence, but let's ignore that).
My question is how I can legally obtain hormones without my mother's consent. Can I obtain hormones if my just father consents (which he will)? Is it illegal for me to begin HRT without her permission, due to her legally having joint custody with my father?
To sum up, my father and gender therapist are supportive of my going on T, but my mother (who I do not live with, but who I legally do) isn't, and I am wondering how to go about this.
(And I don't know why I didn't include this earlier, but I live in Southern California and go to Kaiser.)
Thank you!
I have a gender therapist and she's told me she would absolutely write me a letter for T, and that the main struggle would be finding an endo who would prescribe it to a young person. She also told me about estrogen-blockers I could take in the meantime that aren't prescription-only. I'm not quite certain of what effect the estrogen-blockers would have at my present age, but I'm beyond willing to take them if there are no other options.
The biggest issue I'm having in this hormone discussion is my mother, who is unsupportive of my being trans*, and beyond unsupportive of my medically transitioning. The thing is that my parents are divorced, and my father is supportive of my taking hormones. I live with my father full-time, and have for seven months, but legally, my parents see me on a 50/50 schedule. I'm not at all worried about hurting my mother's feelings by starting hormones, as it IS my body, and I can't live like this anymore. I need to be able to function and not absolutely hate every movement my body makes. I know, however, that if I start T without her consent (even if I have my father's), she will make the argument that she has just as much a say in my body as my father does (which is a creepy as hell sentence, but let's ignore that).
My question is how I can legally obtain hormones without my mother's consent. Can I obtain hormones if my just father consents (which he will)? Is it illegal for me to begin HRT without her permission, due to her legally having joint custody with my father?
To sum up, my father and gender therapist are supportive of my going on T, but my mother (who I do not live with, but who I legally do) isn't, and I am wondering how to go about this.
(And I don't know why I didn't include this earlier, but I live in Southern California and go to Kaiser.)
Thank you!