Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: El on November 12, 2011, 10:44:38 AM Return to Full Version

Title: Responsibility to other transgendered people and how it affects my actions.
Post by: El on November 12, 2011, 10:44:38 AM
I dont know if anyone else feels the way i do about responsibility towards other trans-folk. When i am out and about i am acutely aware that many of the people i meet in my day to day life will never have knowingly met a trans person and as such if they "clock me" my actions will be taken as a representation of trans-people as a group. Now sometimes that can be a weight but normally i find it helps me act in a way that i find ethically pleasing. Ill hold doors open for people, ill smile and watch my manners and i try to look my best at all times. Im not really sure where im going with this post, it was just something i was thinking about. Hopefully i have planed the seeds for some acceptance in the future. Anyway your thoughts on teh subject are welcome :)

Id be interested to hear if others feel how i do and if it affects them in the same way.
Title: Re: Responsibility to other transgendered people and how it affects my actions.
Post by: Joeyboo~ :3 on November 12, 2011, 11:08:40 AM
I did the same when I was a gay guy.

I'm still doing the same now that I realized I was a transmexshual.
Kiss ass for respect in the future, whether it's for you or for the whole trans community.
Title: Re: Responsibility to other transgendered people and how it affects my actions.
Post by: tekla on November 12, 2011, 11:18:29 AM
I think about it, and I think about it in terms of all the groups that I might be representing.  I don't think of it as kissing ass, nor do I do it because I'm seeking some future reward.  To me it's just Basic Social Skills 101 (and BSS101 teaches that you do this not for others, but for yourself), the nicer you are to people, the nicer the world you're living in is.
Title: Re: Responsibility to other transgendered people and how it affects my actions.
Post by: eli77 on November 12, 2011, 11:48:06 AM
I can't really try to give a good image of trans people, but I do my best for the andro gay girls! Besides, how much effort does it really take to be polite? It's easy. Hold doors, give up your seat on the bus, smile, say thank you to store clerks and waiters, excuse yourself when you bump into someone... That's about it.
Title: Re: Responsibility to other transgendered people and how it affects my actions.
Post by: El on November 12, 2011, 12:03:35 PM
Dont get me wrong i would try to be nice anyway but its good to have  an extra incentive. God knows after a hard days work it can be hard to be perky!
Title: Re: Responsibility to other transgendered people and how it affects my actions.
Post by: Mahsa Tezani on November 12, 2011, 02:38:43 PM
I don't represent trans people. Thats why unless I am poked, I will not talk about my tsexuality in public or anywhere else. It's not appropriote and I am more than a minuscule part of my identity.

I represent myself. Also, I could care less if transwomen think I am some hyperfeminine slut... cuz it's not easy bein green.
Title: Re: Responsibility to other transgendered people and how it affects my actions.
Post by: GinaDouglas on November 13, 2011, 01:09:32 AM
I am very aware that haters look for excuses to hate people.  I don't give them fuel to use (my actions) that give them justification to be hateful to me, or trans people in general.   I pick my battles very carefully.