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Title: Passing, But Not by Appearance
Post by: Constance on November 18, 2011, 11:16:08 AM
Post by: Constance on November 18, 2011, 11:16:08 AM
I was at a work dinner party last week and I suddenly found myself in a girl-talk circle.
I was completely accepted into this circle, and every woman there talking with me had also known me as David. To me, this was an better way to pass than by appearance. To me, I had passed based on who I am, as opposed to who I look like.
I was completely accepted into this circle, and every woman there talking with me had also known me as David. To me, this was an better way to pass than by appearance. To me, I had passed based on who I am, as opposed to who I look like.
Title: Re: Passing, But Not by Appearance
Post by: stldrmgrl on November 18, 2011, 12:10:59 PM
Post by: stldrmgrl on November 18, 2011, 12:10:59 PM
That is awesome, I am happy for you :)
Passing begins with attitude and confidence; without either, presentation is irrelevant.
Passing begins with attitude and confidence; without either, presentation is irrelevant.
Title: Re: Passing, But Not by Appearance
Post by: Mahsa Tezani on November 18, 2011, 12:18:57 PM
Post by: Mahsa Tezani on November 18, 2011, 12:18:57 PM
Women are generally more receptive to that than men.
Title: Re: Passing, But Not by Appearance
Post by: Constance on November 18, 2011, 12:45:05 PM
Post by: Constance on November 18, 2011, 12:45:05 PM
Quote from: stldrmgrl on November 18, 2011, 12:10:59 PMYeah, that pretty much sums it up. For me the attitude followed confidence. Confidence was built by coming out and going out and BEING out.
Passing begins with attitude and confidence; without either, presentation is irrelevant.
Title: Re: Passing, But Not by Appearance
Post by: Lallie on November 30, 2011, 01:18:31 PM
Post by: Lallie on November 30, 2011, 01:18:31 PM
Amen, Shades. I dress to blend with other women, and each time I go out I feel more at ease, and more sure I'm doing the right thing. I'm really looking forward to its becoming humdrum, and I completely forget how I'm presenting. At this point, however, I'm almost hoping for an insult or catcall, because I'd like to get some practice in facing the opposition I will inevitably encounter.
:) Lallie
:) Lallie