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i date her a year she said she love me last night i found that she s a boy and all the pic send me its just from the net !!!!!!!!!!!

I don't really understand the point of this... 

Is this a good or a bad thing to you?  Does this mean she's trans (and not a boy)?

no i never met her i know her from messenger she told me shes a girl and all the year send me her pictures and told me she love me last night i found his a cisguy he told me he s boilogical guy

Quote from: jossef-ftm on November 24, 2011, 05:40:52 AMno i never met her i know her from messenger she told me shes a girl and all the year send me her pictures and told me she love me last night i found his a cisguy he told me he s boilogical guy

Does he still love you?  Was he telling the truth about that?
If he's a cisguy, did he say why he felt the need to present as a girl for the whole year he knew you?

I do not know why he did  that and let  ​​me think that hes a girl hes was sending messages and says he loves me I thought he was a girl I thought I was lucky and she loves me i asked why he said he was just bored and he love to surprise people ???

Perhaps this person is MTF and presents as a cisgirl online to feel comfortable and feel as though they are who they wish to be. They may not be ready to accept themselves just yet. I remember when I was much younger, I mostly portrayed myself as a cisguy to people who I talked to online until I was comfortable enough with myself and trusted those I spoke to enough to tell them that I was FTM.

That, or, he could have just been 'bored' and purposely stringing you along. People do strange things to pass the time. If this is the case, I am sorry to hear things have fallen through.

Quote from: jossef-ftm on November 24, 2011, 05:50:17 AMI do not know why he did  that and let  ​​me think that hes a girl hes was sending messages and says he loves me I thought he was a girl I thought I was lucky and she loves me i asked why he said he was just bored and he love to surprise people ???

He was bored for a whole entire year?  I believe you, I believe what you're saying he said.  But a part of me almost doesn't believe him.

Before I knew I was trans, I presented as a guy online, and I (accidentally) ended up getting into an online relationship with another gay male.  I didn't mean for it to happen, we were just online friends, and then we ended up liking eachother.  and I felt guilty the whole time for basically lying to him and saying I was male.  I even showed him fake pictures on myself.  And then eventually came the time to tell him the truth, and I couldn't say anything other than, "I'm really a girl.  I don't know why I lied, but once I started I couldn't stop."  Needless to say, it didn't go over well.  He blocked me and we never spoke again.  He thought I'd lied about everything, even my feelings for him.  But then a few years later, I came out to myself as trans. 

Now I'm not going to pretend I know your online friend, so I'm not saying he's trans or anything.  I'm just saying, there's got to be more to the story, and maybe he doesn't even know why he did it yet. 

How do you feel about what he did?  What are you going to do about it?

he is not trans hes straight and  have a girlfriend and maybe he did that cause in the chat i was talking in public about my problems and about how hard to have a girlfriend when u r a trans maybe he just want to know how i will feel if i have a girl thats why he lied

Quote from: jossef-ftm on November 24, 2011, 06:07:46 AMhe is not trans hes straight and  have a girlfriend and maybe he did that cause in the chat i was talking in public about my problems and about how hard to have a girlfriend when u r a trans maybe he just want to know how i will feel if i have a girl thats why he lied

Do you think he was telling the truth when he said he loved you?

noooooooo he was lying just to know how i will feel cause i knew him and after 2 days he said he loves me
can somone love an other in 48 hours ?
but i was lonly i said maybe this girl really loves me

Quote from: jossef-ftm on November 24, 2011, 06:16:17 AMnoooooooo he was lying just to know how i will feel cause i knew him and after 2 days he said he loves me
can somone love an other in 48 hours ?
but i was lonly i said maybe this girl really loves me

Well you said you dated him for a year.  After a year you can love someone. 
Do you still talk to him?  Or have you decided to block him?

i blocked him i want a girl not a guy i would let him be my friend but hes a liar

Alright.  Well, man, all i can say is I'm sorry this happened.  Hopefully you can find another friend online who won't do this to you.

you are the same guy that posted a youtube video three weeks ago of you singing a Justin Bieber song while, as you said,  your girlfriend was asleep in the next room. YOU are the liar.
Here's your thread:
www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,109346.msg824216.html#msg824216 (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,109346.msg824216.html#msg824216)

emil yes i had a girlfriend we broq up i ma not a liar i knew him as a friend i didnt said i love him
so ask before u call people liars

you wrote you dated him/her for a year online. I'm not gonna apologize.

yes as a friend not a lover

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dating (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dating) 

Quote from: jossef-ftm on November 24, 2011, 07:11:32 AMyes as a friend not a lover

I can tell English probably isn't your first language.  but, you can only really "date" a boyfriend or girlfriend.  You can't really date a friend.  well you can, but then they wouldn't be your friend anymore, they would be your boyfriend or girlfriend.

yes its not my first language i mean i know him for 1 year not i love him

Quote from: jossef-ftm on November 24, 2011, 07:19:21 AMyes its not my first language i mean i know him for 1 year not i love him

Did you ever date him at all during that year you knew him?  In other words, did you ever consider yourselves boyfriend and girlfriend?

Chill guys, some people have more than one girlfriend at once. No big deal.

my concern was more that his stories weren't lining up (again) than monogamy ;) now that's sorted out but most of the answers in this thread were made based on the assumption that they were dating.

Yes, I have no problem with people having more than one girlfriend at a time. 
I was just trying to understand him, and help him understand where he confused us at by saying he was dating someone he was just friends with.

i dont have 2 girlfriends i had one i broq up with her now i am single that guy told me his a girl then i found his a male i didnt said i love him i thought his a girl and start like her i dont date him or anything i just know him from the chat and he lied that all
peace

Is this the same one that broke your heart a couple weeks ago?
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,110036.msg831135.html#msg831135 (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,110036.msg831135.html#msg831135)

yes its the same sharky and his a boy not girl he said that

Quote from: Morgan (138) on November 24, 2011, 05:55:43 AM
Perhaps this person is MTF and presents as a cisgirl online to feel comfortable and feel as though they are who they wish to be. They may not be ready to accept themselves just yet. I remember when I was much younger, I mostly portrayed myself as a cisguy to people who I talked to online until I was comfortable enough with myself and trusted those I spoke to enough to tell them that I was FTM.

I say I'm a cisguy online around 80% of the time. But I never lead people on like that. Sorry that happened to you Jossef. You should probably ask why the person was really doing that. I don't buy the "I was bored for a whole year" thing either.

U need to be careful with chatting to people online they might not be who they really are jossef sorry it a shock to you.

Quote from: jossef-ftm on November 24, 2011, 06:16:17 AM
noooooooo he was lying just to know how i will feel cause i knew him and after 2 days he said he loves me
can somone love an other in 48 hours ?
but i was lonly i said maybe this girl really loves me

After two days? I could be wrong but he almost sounds like a ->-bleeped-<-->-bleeped-<-.
Lots of ->-bleeped-<-->-bleeped-<-s says those three magic words pretty much to any T-person, and fast as heck too, although it is usually MTF's they chase.
But maybe he found the concept of you exiting or something. :/

Thanks for your responses and your understanding i hope that you understand what happened to me  I think you did .you understand now what I want to say
I did not do anything wrong and I'm not  a liar i met him I thought hes a girl then he said let just be friends i said maybe she love an other guy but after he said his a guy a male thats all
tnx guys and i will be carful this time and sorry for my bad english.

Sounds like an incredibly, almost disturbingly, dedicated troll.

It sounds like the third item off this list applies to you:  http://netpatrol.org/how-to-avoid-online-frauds_12-classic-signs-of-a-love-scam_183.html (http://netpatrol.org/how-to-avoid-online-frauds_12-classic-signs-of-a-love-scam_183.html)  Did anything else happen?