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Title: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Princess of Hearts on November 24, 2011, 07:27:06 PM
Post by: Princess of Hearts on November 24, 2011, 07:27:06 PM
A woman with children would be too old for me, so this question is rather academic for me at the moment.
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Kreuzfidel on November 24, 2011, 08:34:34 PM
Post by: Kreuzfidel on November 24, 2011, 08:34:34 PM
If I were still single then yes, I would date a woman with kids. I want to be a father, so I would enjoy the opportunity. To me, everyone has a past and it would have no bearing on my feelings for someone if they had an ex, debt or kids. As long as she felt the same towards me as I did towards her then I'd be fine.
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Annah on November 24, 2011, 08:50:04 PM
Post by: Annah on November 24, 2011, 08:50:04 PM
I would date someone with or without children if she/he had the qualities that i like. Honesty, integrity, intelligence, stability, and humor
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Keaira on November 24, 2011, 09:07:04 PM
Post by: Keaira on November 24, 2011, 09:07:04 PM
I did date a woman with 2 beautiful little girls 11 years ago. Then I married her. And we had a son together. I can't imagine life without them, though it's not been an easy road to travel. The hardest part so far though has been my transition. Her family is not happy because she has decided to stay with me. The kids are pretty supportive too. And I am truly grateful for that and I know how hard it is on them.
This is the only amazing thing to come out of not transitioning before marriage.
This is the only amazing thing to come out of not transitioning before marriage.
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Lee on November 25, 2011, 12:17:50 AM
Post by: Lee on November 25, 2011, 12:17:50 AM
Yeah, but I would be nervous if things got serious just because I don't know if I would make a decent father at this point in my life.
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Gingertrap on November 25, 2011, 12:34:09 PM
Post by: Gingertrap on November 25, 2011, 12:34:09 PM
No, I personally don't like children and if I did have them, I would want them to be my own and much later in my life.
I want to enjoy this pert of my life without having a being that relies on me 100% of the time.
I want to enjoy this pert of my life without having a being that relies on me 100% of the time.
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Princess of Hearts on November 25, 2011, 05:02:21 PM
Post by: Princess of Hearts on November 25, 2011, 05:02:21 PM
I regret having phrased the question as I have done. It sort of invites a 'yes' or 'no' response, when it is far more subtle and difficult a question. It really comes down to the person who has to make the decision, and the women and children involved. I might say 'no absolutely not', in one case, and say 'I want to spend the rest of my life with this woman and these children', in the next case.
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Sam- on November 26, 2011, 02:44:33 AM
Post by: Sam- on November 26, 2011, 02:44:33 AM
Yes I would. I love kids, and if I liked a woman then her having children wouldn't affect that at all. It would probably actually make me more interested in her, if she was a good mom that is. I wouldn't say women with children are too old for me, because I have plenty of friends between the ages of 19 and 23 that have kids, and I'm 20 myself.
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: noeleena on November 26, 2011, 03:24:17 AM
Post by: noeleena on November 26, 2011, 03:24:17 AM
Hi,
we have 3 grown up adults 33 35 36 , & 9 grand kids. i think im way passed wonting children now or Jos after 37 years together, & as to dateing now dought it, tho we dont live to gether we still do things as just two women / friends that have had a life to gether.
tho i love haveing one neat grand child with us at times & yes we do & go places to gether,
...noeleena...
we have 3 grown up adults 33 35 36 , & 9 grand kids. i think im way passed wonting children now or Jos after 37 years together, & as to dateing now dought it, tho we dont live to gether we still do things as just two women / friends that have had a life to gether.
tho i love haveing one neat grand child with us at times & yes we do & go places to gether,
...noeleena...
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: LordKAT on November 26, 2011, 05:22:00 PM
Post by: LordKAT on November 26, 2011, 05:22:00 PM
Either
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Jennie on November 29, 2011, 03:41:44 AM
Post by: Jennie on November 29, 2011, 03:41:44 AM
Yes I would, if it was the right person. I did in fact date a girl with 1 daughter, I ended up getting married and addopting her daughter, we have been married now for over 23 years and she is very supportive of my very slow transition, even my addopted daughter is very supportive.
It is not always good to just focus on the bagage, you might miss good people.
Aloha.
Jennie
It is not always good to just focus on the bagage, you might miss good people.
Aloha.
Jennie
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Chloe on November 29, 2011, 08:51:10 AM
Post by: Chloe on November 29, 2011, 08:51:10 AM
Quote from: Happy Girl! on November 24, 2011, 07:27:06 PM
A woman with children would be too old for me
lol Would NEVER date another woman, let alone live with one as it kinda defeats the whole purpose of being one myself. All I want is my kids who need me as much as I need them!
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Annah on November 29, 2011, 09:24:17 AM
Post by: Annah on November 29, 2011, 09:24:17 AM
Quote from: Kiera on November 29, 2011, 08:51:10 AM
lol Would NEVER date another woman, let alone live with one as it kinda defeats the whole purpose of being one myself.
Can you elaborate on this? From what you stated, you could not live with a woman because you would be confusing yourself because you are trying to be one.
Are did you mean something else?
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: pretty on November 29, 2011, 11:51:32 AM
Post by: pretty on November 29, 2011, 11:51:32 AM
Well I couldn't see myself dating a woman...
If I were single I would not date a man with kids because, honestly, idc if you think I have issues but I think having kids is gross and having kids with someone you're only weakly committed to is even more so.
So they could just go off and instead find someone with as much baggage as them. :D
If I were single I would not date a man with kids because, honestly, idc if you think I have issues but I think having kids is gross and having kids with someone you're only weakly committed to is even more so.
So they could just go off and instead find someone with as much baggage as them. :D
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Joelene9 on November 29, 2011, 09:16:39 PM
Post by: Joelene9 on November 29, 2011, 09:16:39 PM
Probably without, after seeing the effects with my friends who married those with children, at home or grown out of the nest. These mothers have a bond with their children and this adds friction to those marriages. These kids usually don't like the idea of mommy in bed with someone other than dear old daddy. A lot of divorces amongst my friends are from these unions. One friend's wife really gave her kids the riot act about interfering their marriage beforehand. They have been married ~18 years now and my friend gets along with her kids. At my age it is difficult to find a woman who wants a long-term relationship.
Joelene
Joelene
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: JessicaH on November 30, 2011, 01:15:52 AM
Post by: JessicaH on November 30, 2011, 01:15:52 AM
I'd say that "ideally", no. Parenting is hard enough without step and blended families. In reality though, If I loved someone enough to marry them I would would do my best to make it work. It's definately harder way to go but some people (and their kids) are worth it!
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Chloe on December 20, 2011, 10:38:14 AM
Post by: Chloe on December 20, 2011, 10:38:14 AM
Quote from: Annah on November 29, 2011, 09:24:17 AM
Can you elaborate on this? From what you stated, you could not live with a woman because you would be confusing yourself because . . .
because ? ? it confuses OTHERS I have never been so sure my entire life. I am not "gay", am not "lesbian" I identify as a woman who HAS two kids and likes / prefers MEN (lol and cats !)
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Julian on December 20, 2011, 11:21:39 AM
Post by: Julian on December 20, 2011, 11:21:39 AM
I honestly couldn't see myself doing it. I decided early on never to have kids, and I don't think I could raise anyone's kids. However, I'm only 20, so this is mere speculation. I'm still never having kids, but in the distant future I don't think a partner having kids would be a deal-breaker.
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Constance on December 20, 2011, 11:33:15 AM
Post by: Constance on December 20, 2011, 11:33:15 AM
@Happy Girl, by the time our second child was born, my wife was 21 and I was 22 years old. We started young.
Kids or a lack thereof would not be a deal killer for me, although I don't really relish the thought of starting over (my kids are 20 and 22).
To me, what's more important would be the woman's relationship with her kids. I would not want to interfere with such a relationship.
Kids or a lack thereof would not be a deal killer for me, although I don't really relish the thought of starting over (my kids are 20 and 22).
To me, what's more important would be the woman's relationship with her kids. I would not want to interfere with such a relationship.
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: Hikari on December 23, 2011, 03:11:23 PM
Post by: Hikari on December 23, 2011, 03:11:23 PM
Probably, But ideally not. Of course I am taken, so it is a purely academic thought.
I mean the thing is, a relationship with said woman would require some sort of relationship with her children, and the boundary lines are different in every parent-step parent-child relationship and I am not a person who enjoys such ambiguous relationships, this would be ever further ambiguous since it would be a lesbian relationship and society doesn't seem to know how to deal with lesbian families, which could lead to pressure from the children's peers or authority figures as to which one of us is their "real" parent, etc.
I mean the thing is, a relationship with said woman would require some sort of relationship with her children, and the boundary lines are different in every parent-step parent-child relationship and I am not a person who enjoys such ambiguous relationships, this would be ever further ambiguous since it would be a lesbian relationship and society doesn't seem to know how to deal with lesbian families, which could lead to pressure from the children's peers or authority figures as to which one of us is their "real" parent, etc.
Title: Re: Would you date a Woman with or without Children?
Post by: King Malachite on December 31, 2011, 07:25:42 PM
Post by: King Malachite on December 31, 2011, 07:25:42 PM
I have been involved with a woman who had kids and in the end she was just using me but even aside from that I don't want to go down that road again. I can barely take care of myself let alone another person's kids. Most mothers are very mature as well and I am lacking in the mature area so I would want to find a lady who is more or less where I am at in my stage of life.