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Not sure what to do. Talked to father, he is totally old school, totally against my MTF transition. Mother and Sister are totally onboard and trying to be completely accepting. Father does not want me around in F-mode and does not want me telling extended family but I know that it will come up at christmas. Also, soon to start hormones (he doesn't know) but mother and sister do know. Not sure how to handle this. I am beginning to feel like just cutting off the relationship with the entire family and having no conversations, and spending zero time with them at all but I am really close to them. Anyone else facing this issue? Please Help me!

If you are really close to your family, maybe you could just let them figure it out gradually? Like go ahead and take your hormones, and they'll get the message on their own. I don't know. It sounds like hurting them would make you feel bad. If I were you (and keep in mind I'm not you) I'd try not to make drama at christmas. Holidays are hard already. I'd save your drama for January or February, so you can keep it less complicated.

You do deserve to be yourself, however you approach it.

I appreciate the advice. I don't plan on saying anything about my situation on holidays but knowing that I been posting a lot of my activities on facebook I do expect family to bring it up and ask me what I am doing and make something of all of my extracurricular activities. I will try to downplay what is happening over the holidays but can't help my extended family being so curious. Thank You for trying to help!

Quote from: lindsey26 on December 12, 2011, 12:57:04 AMTalked to father, he is totally old school, totally against my MTF transition.

Is he objecting for religious reasons?

No, He is objecting just because he is old school and stubborn. He doesn't believe that this is real. He doesn't want to lose his son and gain a daughter but I'm not stopping my transition. He said he can't wrap his mind around what is happening with me and will not accept that I am transitioning I am above legal age and I am doing this with or without his consent. I want him to love me for me as his daughter but I can't keep going back and forth across the gender lines just to make him happy. I have to be myself. I don't want to lose him but if he is going to hold out well thats his decision, not mine.