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This week marks the second year that I have been out.
When it rolled around your second year of being out, where were you at in your transition?

Two years later, I have a lot more confidence to show for it but haven't made physical progress yet due to financial/family issues.

Same here. I have gotten to the point where I will actually go out into public places and to stand up for myself.
Though I haven't gotten anywhere physically since my therapist didn't want anything to do with my transition.

2 years later and I've been on T for a year and 3 months and I had top surgery 7 months ago. I am a lot more comfortable with myself and i'm not depressed anymore. I see a future for myself now.

Two years later and I've finally gotten my name change paperwork filed and am about to schedule an appointment at the Whitman-Walker clinic to start T. I have about $500 saved towards top surgery with Garramone and am trying to start a body building program for my own benefit. :) It's taking a while and I still have bad days, but things are looking up.

I'm 3 months on T, waiting on my social security card with my new name so I can change everything else, planning top surgery and living my life the way I want to be living it (for the most part).

2 years after coming out I had changed my name, gender marker on my licence and at other establishments like insurance, with work, tax etc, and I was about 1 year and 9 months on T. I was more confident and actually feeling like I was interacting with the world rather than just existing in it if that makes sense. I am also 'man enough' finally to correct people if they mess up the pronoun (it's rare) to their face in the moment - last person was my boss who knew he screwed up, he came over and told me to slap him upside the head - so I did! I am now just waiting for my top surgery date to roll around (may), waiting to hear about my hysto from the local hospital so I can change my birth certificate and passport and I'm also weighing up any other bottom surgeries I want to have! 2012 is a big year for me  ;D

After being out for 2 years I was pretty much in the same place I started with.

Quote from: Nathan. on December 28, 2011, 08:07:28 PM
2 years later and I've been on T for a year and 3 months and I had top surgery 7 months ago. I am a lot more comfortable with myself and i'm not depressed anymore. I see a future for myself now.

Ever since I starting living as a pre-t pre-op male, I could actually see myself beyond high school. Since around 5th grade, I had always promised myself that I would never make it to high school, and if I did, I would take my life because I could not imagine living as a girl.

Quote from: Aussie Jay on December 28, 2011, 08:29:54 PM
2 years after coming out I had changed my name, gender marker on my licence and at other establishments like insurance, with work, tax etc, and I was about 1 year and 9 months on T. I was more confident and actually feeling like I was interacting with the world rather than just existing in it if that makes sense. I am also 'man enough' finally to correct people if they mess up the pronoun (it's rare) to their face in the moment - last person was my boss who knew he screwed up, he came over and told me to slap him upside the head - so I did! I am now just waiting for my top surgery date to roll around (may), waiting to hear about my hysto from the local hospital so I can change my birth certificate and passport and I'm also weighing up any other bottom surgeries I want to have! 2012 is a big year for me  ;D

My mom told me that she will talk with my dad to try to get him to let me change my name before I'm 18, which would be within the next 6 months.
I always felt like I was just drifting around, and I still am.  At school I never contribute, I just sit there and wait for the day to be over.  I'm hoping that will change with I get on T and get comfortable with my voice.

Quote from: Nygeel on December 28, 2011, 08:31:08 PM
After being out for 2 years I was pretty much in the same place I started with.

Same with me. All that has changed has been my mom being super supportive of me and looking towards starting physically transitioning.

Two years ago, I was planning on what method I'd use to take my life.  Now I'm living full-time as male and hopefully about to start HRT.

My two year mark has just rolled around too. I've had my name legally changed for around 14 months, and have been on T for 6 months.

Two years after coming out, I was still in high school without much social, medical, or legal transitioning.  I was fairly stuck and in a bad place.  It was about then when I was very messed up (undiagnosed bipolar disorder) and turned hyper-religious, going back in the closest, and living as a "straight female".

It's now been two years since I've started T and 2.5 years since I started presenting "full-time" as male.  So much has changed and I'm so much happier.  Almost everyone that knew me before has made positive remarks about my changes, both physical and emotional.  People that didn't know me before think I'm just a happy, upbeat person.  After getting on T, changing my name and gender marker, and having top surgery, my life has been great.

It was about 2 years ago that I joined Susan's and also started making a point of coming out to people.  I'm still horribly repressed, gender-wise.  There were other areas of my life that needed improvement, and I had to focus on those first.  2 years ago, I had just come back from a really hard time overseas and was staying at my dad's house in a lonely little city in the northeast.  Now I have a good job in my field, live in SF, and have built a life for myself that centers around music.  I think I'm finally ready to think about gender again.

Lots more confidence, out to friends, mom, work. Legal name change, saw a therapist who confirmed I know what I'd be doing, and soon contacting a GP for Testosterone treatment.

Its been about 2 years for me now as well, and I feel like I have gotten nowhere! I cant legally change anything because Im under aged, and my parents wont give me permission to start hormones  :'( They still dont use the right pronouns either. At least I was able to go to school as male for 1 and a half years :)

After 2 years: I had come out to my parents, friends and uni tutors, legally changed my name and ID, graduated as male, got a job and had a boyfriend who viewed us as a gay couple (most of this was done during my 2nd year of transition). However, my parents were not really accepting of my decision (mum wouldn't come to my graduation) and the wider family were not all aware of the situation. I also passed about 60% of the time, and probably only 50% at work.

A year later, and my parents wrote my new name on my Xmas presents for the 1st time and we have told the family. I am stealth at work and pass about 75% of the time. I am still with my boyfriend and I am awaiting my 1st Charing X appointment in the New Year. I have also saved up enough money to enable me to either have private T or surgery if I choose. I think the most important thing, though, is that I am ready to take my decision into my own hands instead of waiting for other people to do it for me.

On T 2 years, 2 months.  Post op top surg- 1 yr, 9 mo, hysto 1 yr, 3 mo, partial bottom surg 5 mo.  All legal stuff done (name change, DL, SSA, BC, passport, etc)

Quote from: Nygeel on December 28, 2011, 08:31:08 PM
After being out for 2 years I was pretty much in the same place I started with.

Same. But the depression and frustration had dramtically increased.

I've been out for almost six years, though I didn't start living full time as a man until about three years ago, but I still haven't started T or anything. it's rather frustrating. :/

It's been 2 years since I've been out and I've been taking T for about a year and a half.  Quite a bit has changed. 

My name is now exactly as I want it and my driver licenses says what I want it to say. 

I have so many more friend than I use too.  Since now I'm happy to go out and interact with people.  Before my transition I was basically a shut-in.   

I am much more at peace with my rotten family situation.  I really am at the point of acceptance of knowing my mother will never accept me. 
Holding out that last bit of hope she would come around was very damaging to me. 

My marriage isn't the most stable of animals but it continues on.  The problems we are currently having don't actually relate to my transition. 

There's more but those are the big points.  I have a cat now and I've wanted one for years.  So that's nice. 

I haven't been out (this time) for two years yet. I think I came out in late summer of last year. I lived as male for awhile when I was younger, but then I got an on-the-books job and chickened out on transition.

So I'll go with one year. After one year, I've filed for name change but it doesn't turn final until Feb 3rd, most people get my pronouns right, I have my DMV gender letter but obviously can't use it yet, my kid calls me daddy (I let her decide on her own when to switch to that), and I've been on T for about a month. On the surface I'm a complete loser (no career, living in a sketchy studio, bad credit, disjointed history, etc), but I'm happy. I'm finally at ease because I'm finally being myself. It's pretty sweet. :)

I've only been out for about 5 months, but I'm going by Paul and male pronouns at work, my name change is in the process and I'm starting T in a couple of months. 

Mentally I find myself both happier and my frustrated.  I'm happier because I'm finally getting the process started, but I'm also more frustrated because some days I'm finally being seen as male, but the times when I'm NOT seen as male it's frustrating knowing I don't always pass. 

After two years... I think that's when I -just- got around to accessing my local LGBT community, other than that it was all personal progress and my parents were still thinking it was a phase.

Quote from: Paul on January 02, 2012, 07:49:05 PM
Mentally I find myself both happier and my frustrated.  I'm happier because I'm finally getting the process started, but I'm also more frustrated because some days I'm finally being seen as male, but the times when I'm NOT seen as male it's frustrating knowing I don't always pass.

I feel the same way. I feel pretty fully male and I forget that I don't always pass, so when I don't, it hurts.

2 years later I have come to terms with myself as trans and I plan on taking the steps needed to transition in the future

Quote from: Felix on January 02, 2012, 09:18:56 PM
I feel the same way. I feel pretty fully male and I forget that I don't always pass, so when I don't, it hurts.

I hear ya on that one.  I think it's like taking a pin to my balloon.

im 1.5 years out and i have a life plan and ive socially transitioned. i cant do much more do to my age im working on getting on blockers then T and a legal name change.

Quote from: Make_It_Good on December 30, 2011, 07:56:38 AM
Same. But the depression and frustration had dramtically increased.

Probably around 3 years since I really began accepting myself, coming out and transitioning...but I'm just wondering if others who feel as stated in the above posts...how do you find it affects you advancing your life overall outside of transition? Honestly, I feel like I could have done more since the beginning to get top surgery...but most of the time these days I just feel so apathetic about everything and its only getting worse. Including school, work and generally trying to do things that I always was really passionate about. But honestly a lot of trans-related stuff always occupies my brain, makes me feel like ->-bleeped-<-...yet when it comes to doing something about it I feel so ->-bleeped-<-ing apathetic. I know its depression, and I know some of it is related to my body, but can't even force myself to do anything about that. I used to see a counselor, do support group, but can't even force myself to go there anymore. Does anyone else feel this way?

So in the last two years...while I've come to feel like I'm finally living a life more true to myself as far as my real sex/gender, I also feel that sorting out trans-related stuff has really slowed down every other plan I had for my life. And I also feel like feeling depressed has even slowed down plans to get top surgery and such...like I have no motivation, yet every day is worse if I'm not one step closer to it.

After two years . . .

I'm alive
I'm almost 2 months on testosterone
Out to my friends
Out to my family
Half stealth/half out at school
Comfortable with my body
Both of my parents are supportive < - - - Never thought I'd see the day
I can plan out a future for myself.

Now if you talked to me two years ago, when I was lost and felt so hopeless, and told me that in two years all of this will happen, I would have looked at you like an idiot and said you're full of shxt. lmao

I'm in the exact same spot I was in two years ago. It sometimes feels like things are never really going to change for me.