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Title: Well coming out to Mom didn't work as good as hoped.
Post by: michelleinktown on January 13, 2012, 06:30:37 PM
Post by: michelleinktown on January 13, 2012, 06:30:37 PM
Hello all,
So I phoned my Mom the other day and told her that I am transgendered. She is currently in Flordia so I did it over that phone. She has lots of questions and today she called trying to convince me that I am not a woman inside for me to just look in the mirror and I would see that! She said that she wants me to see her therapist once she gets home. I have been to a therapist and I have been in therapy for 48 years. She is really worried that I am going to go all the way with this and wants to convince me other wise. I am holding off on the letter to my Dad because he will take out his stress on Mom by picking fights with her so I figure that I will wait until their vacation is done.
Why does this have to be so hard?
Michelle
So I phoned my Mom the other day and told her that I am transgendered. She is currently in Flordia so I did it over that phone. She has lots of questions and today she called trying to convince me that I am not a woman inside for me to just look in the mirror and I would see that! She said that she wants me to see her therapist once she gets home. I have been to a therapist and I have been in therapy for 48 years. She is really worried that I am going to go all the way with this and wants to convince me other wise. I am holding off on the letter to my Dad because he will take out his stress on Mom by picking fights with her so I figure that I will wait until their vacation is done.
Why does this have to be so hard?
Michelle
Title: Re: Well coming out to Mom didn't work as good as hoped.
Post by: michelleinktown on January 13, 2012, 06:58:12 PM
Post by: michelleinktown on January 13, 2012, 06:58:12 PM
I know but this is sooo hard to do
Title: Re: Well coming out to Mom didn't work as good as hoped.
Post by: justmeinoz on January 14, 2012, 04:00:20 AM
Post by: justmeinoz on January 14, 2012, 04:00:20 AM
Maybe you can suggest she discuss it with her therapist so he can point out the reality of the situation, and help her come to terms with it.
Title: Re: Well coming out to Mom didn't work as good as hoped.
Post by: michelleinktown on January 14, 2012, 07:55:57 AM
Post by: michelleinktown on January 14, 2012, 07:55:57 AM
Beverley,
If you go to new member introdutions and read My Story Hooray 2012 you may understand why your approach is not possible. My parents if they do not already know will know in June because they will be attending court.
As for wearing womens jeans and such, I have more womens clothes than I have mens and ussually wear womens jeans, slacks, I do have both ears pierced, I do wear braclets and rings and my hair is getting very long. So even though that may work for some it is not possible for me anymore.
Michelle
If you go to new member introdutions and read My Story Hooray 2012 you may understand why your approach is not possible. My parents if they do not already know will know in June because they will be attending court.
As for wearing womens jeans and such, I have more womens clothes than I have mens and ussually wear womens jeans, slacks, I do have both ears pierced, I do wear braclets and rings and my hair is getting very long. So even though that may work for some it is not possible for me anymore.
Michelle