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Title: Is Anyone Here Good With Psychology?
Post by: Kentrie on January 21, 2012, 10:37:32 AM
Post by: Kentrie on January 21, 2012, 10:37:32 AM
When people care about me or love me I feel uneasy, awkward, and disgusted. Whether it be friends or family. I don't know if I would feel the same way if I was dating someone and they cared about me. But when I know someone cares about me and they love me and they show it by affection or just telling me I just want them to go away and stay away from me. Like I'm seriously disgusting. I looked on google but couldn't find anything so can someone tell me what's wrong with me?
Title: Re: Is Anyone Here Good With Psychology?
Post by: AbraCadabra on January 21, 2012, 11:25:11 AM
Post by: AbraCadabra on January 21, 2012, 11:25:11 AM
It's caused by feeling of being not worthy, not worthy of their affection.
This is deep-seated stuff that quite some of us carry around.
I've seen processes (EST) to overcome this issue, but it go to far to explain it in a post, be not value added.
It's also a form of self-rejection - if that makes any sense?
A knowing therapist/therapy should help you to deal with it... it can get a bit rough though :-)
Axélle
This is deep-seated stuff that quite some of us carry around.
I've seen processes (EST) to overcome this issue, but it go to far to explain it in a post, be not value added.
It's also a form of self-rejection - if that makes any sense?
A knowing therapist/therapy should help you to deal with it... it can get a bit rough though :-)
Axélle
Title: Re: Is Anyone Here Good With Psychology?
Post by: Kentrie on January 21, 2012, 12:31:35 PM
Post by: Kentrie on January 21, 2012, 12:31:35 PM
Thank you. You're right.
Title: Re: Is Anyone Here Good With Psychology?
Post by: anibioman on January 21, 2012, 02:43:12 PM
Post by: anibioman on January 21, 2012, 02:43:12 PM
i think i know what your problem is i had the same problem i was disgusted with this girl who liked me because she liked me.
its a self loathing thing you hate the idea of someone loving you because hate yourself. if someone loves someone who is ->-bleeped-<-ed up (you in your mind) then there is something wrong with them, which makes you feel disgusted with them.
kinda hard to explain in text but to fix it you need to learn to love and except yourself.
its a self loathing thing you hate the idea of someone loving you because hate yourself. if someone loves someone who is ->-bleeped-<-ed up (you in your mind) then there is something wrong with them, which makes you feel disgusted with them.
kinda hard to explain in text but to fix it you need to learn to love and except yourself.
Title: Re: Is Anyone Here Good With Psychology?
Post by: King Malachite on January 21, 2012, 03:28:46 PM
Post by: King Malachite on January 21, 2012, 03:28:46 PM
From my personal experience it may be because you see so many flaws with yourself that it is impossible for others to see the good in you. That in return can create even more isolation in the feeling to reject them before they have a chance to reject you in the future. I'm thinking the keyword here is confidence.
Title: Re: Is Anyone Here Good With Psychology?
Post by: Inkwe Mupkins on January 21, 2012, 05:33:44 PM
Post by: Inkwe Mupkins on January 21, 2012, 05:33:44 PM
I thought I was the only one that felt like that, Guess I'm not alone. When people show affection to me it's just weird. I get all awkward and makes me feel extremely uncomfortable. I've never dated anyone because of it. I don't know how to respond to affection, hugs, compliments, etc. I guess it could be the way I was raised. I haven't hugged my mom since I was 7 and about 8 was the last time I said I love you to anyone, including family.
Title: Re: Is Anyone Here Good With Psychology?
Post by: Tazia of the Omineca on January 21, 2012, 07:06:01 PM
Post by: Tazia of the Omineca on January 21, 2012, 07:06:01 PM
Well all of these are good answers, but asking yourself the questions is always best. Like "Why do I feel like this?"
You after all are the only one that truly understands; I would not go so far as to say a self loathing thing.
Maybe you are insecure, like it deeply bothers you to know that somebody wants you to be successful because you are unsure of whether you will, or not.
You could be like "Wow this person cares about me, and they want me to succeed." but you are also like "I don't know if I can do it. What if I disappoint myself?"
That could cause uneasiness. The person continues to persist and your feelings of uneasiness could be interpreted as "disgust."
I would say you are more uneasy than disgusted with the thought of love, or care.
You after all are the only one that truly understands; I would not go so far as to say a self loathing thing.
Maybe you are insecure, like it deeply bothers you to know that somebody wants you to be successful because you are unsure of whether you will, or not.
You could be like "Wow this person cares about me, and they want me to succeed." but you are also like "I don't know if I can do it. What if I disappoint myself?"
That could cause uneasiness. The person continues to persist and your feelings of uneasiness could be interpreted as "disgust."
I would say you are more uneasy than disgusted with the thought of love, or care.
Title: Re: Is Anyone Here Good With Psychology?
Post by: Lyric on January 21, 2012, 10:37:54 PM
Post by: Lyric on January 21, 2012, 10:37:54 PM
Well, you have a pretty low sense of self esteem. That puts in a group including about 80% of the human race. You wanting to push people away suggests you've had some rejection issues with people before and you're afraid of that happening again. That's pretty natural.
I suspect the real reason for your post, though, isn't to understand this feeling, but to change it. You want to be able to feel good about being close to people. If this is true, then you need to acknowledge the fact. This situation won't change quickly, but will one way or another if you hang in there. It's good that you wrote this forum post. Writing out your thoughts helps you get thing straight in your head, even if you don't get a satisfactory answer.
Lyric ~
I suspect the real reason for your post, though, isn't to understand this feeling, but to change it. You want to be able to feel good about being close to people. If this is true, then you need to acknowledge the fact. This situation won't change quickly, but will one way or another if you hang in there. It's good that you wrote this forum post. Writing out your thoughts helps you get thing straight in your head, even if you don't get a satisfactory answer.
Lyric ~