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Title: Hello, new SO here
Post by: 776 on January 21, 2012, 09:08:13 PM
Post by: 776 on January 21, 2012, 09:08:13 PM
Hi, I am a straight male who has just started a relationship with a MtF girl. First time with a TS for me. She has had previous boyfriends. I think at this point we are both very happy with our relationship. She is progressing through her transition. So far she has had FFS, voice & tracheal procedures. Planned are breast enhancement & SRS. I've read a few books on gender research, Transgender voices (Lori B. Girshick) & Transgender Realities (G.G. Bolich, Ph.D.). This relationship is starting to get very serious and I want it to succeed. I never had to deal with transition issues before or questions I myself have about my sexual orientation. I am just looking for good advice or heads up about potential problems. Thank you for any help.
Title: Re: Hello, new SO here
Post by: LordKAT on January 21, 2012, 09:41:37 PM
Post by: LordKAT on January 21, 2012, 09:41:37 PM
Welcome to Susan's
Many things to be aware of but talking with your girlfriend is probably the best way to learn what is important for you to know. Other than that, be prepared for dealing with ignoramus? type people.
Many things to be aware of but talking with your girlfriend is probably the best way to learn what is important for you to know. Other than that, be prepared for dealing with ignoramus? type people.
Title: Re: Hello, new SO here
Post by: Jamie D on January 21, 2012, 11:57:43 PM
Post by: Jamie D on January 21, 2012, 11:57:43 PM
Quote from: 776 on January 21, 2012, 09:08:13 PM
Hi, I am a straight male who has just started a relationship with a MtF girl. First time with a TS for me. She has had previous boyfriends. I think at this point we are both very happy with our relationship. She is progressing through her transition. So far she has had FFS, voice & tracheal procedures. Planned are breast enhancement & SRS. I've read a few books on gender research, Transgender voices (Lori B. Girshick) & Transgender Realities (G.G. Bolich, Ph.D.). This relationship is starting to get very serious and I want it to succeed. I never had to deal with transition issues before or questions I myself have about my sexual orientation. I am just looking for good advice or heads up about potential problems. Thank you for any help.
She is fortunate to have a loving, open-minded person like you. I wish you two the best.
Title: Re: Hello, new SO here
Post by: Cindy on January 22, 2012, 01:52:07 AM
Post by: Cindy on January 22, 2012, 01:52:07 AM
Hi,
You have met a very normal woman who has some special problems. Talk to her, love her, support her and accept her. And you will find she will do the same for you. It's called a loving relationship.
There is nothing odd about your sexual orientation, you are a straight guy who is having a relationship with a straight woman. I'm also a straight woman, I'm not gay, I like guys. It is all pretty simple really, just seems odd until you get used to it.
PS do you have a brother :-*
Hugs to you both
Cindy
Some rules to live by
Hi, and welcome to Susan's! We have people come to visit us from all over the world, expressing different points of view, and you are likely to find someone to help you along your way
Here are some important links and things to ponder as you begin your journey here.
• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by are in the announcement area and include:
• Standard Terms and Definitions
• Post Ranks ( including when you can upload an avatar/post links and photos)
• Age and the Forum
• Reputation rules
Feel free to post and discuss anything within the rules, if you make a mistake, don't panic, report it to a Mod, there is a button to the right of your post.
If a post upsets, or is insulting to you report it to a Mod. Do not take action yourself. We are here to help you and maintain the site for all.
Our mission is to be a support site for gender dysmorphic people of any situation, so feel at home and feel comfortable. You are now family.
You have met a very normal woman who has some special problems. Talk to her, love her, support her and accept her. And you will find she will do the same for you. It's called a loving relationship.
There is nothing odd about your sexual orientation, you are a straight guy who is having a relationship with a straight woman. I'm also a straight woman, I'm not gay, I like guys. It is all pretty simple really, just seems odd until you get used to it.
PS do you have a brother :-*
Hugs to you both
Cindy
Some rules to live by
Hi, and welcome to Susan's! We have people come to visit us from all over the world, expressing different points of view, and you are likely to find someone to help you along your way
Here are some important links and things to ponder as you begin your journey here.
• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by are in the announcement area and include:
• Standard Terms and Definitions
• Post Ranks ( including when you can upload an avatar/post links and photos)
• Age and the Forum
• Reputation rules
Feel free to post and discuss anything within the rules, if you make a mistake, don't panic, report it to a Mod, there is a button to the right of your post.
If a post upsets, or is insulting to you report it to a Mod. Do not take action yourself. We are here to help you and maintain the site for all.
Our mission is to be a support site for gender dysmorphic people of any situation, so feel at home and feel comfortable. You are now family.
Title: Re: Hello, new SO here
Post by: Devlyn on January 22, 2012, 07:40:14 AM
Post by: Devlyn on January 22, 2012, 07:40:14 AM
Hi 776, it's nice to meet you! This is a super friendly place, and a great source of information. Does your girlfriend know about Susans? Best wishes to both of you, hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Hello, new SO here
Post by: Catherine Sarah on January 23, 2012, 03:30:02 AM
Post by: Catherine Sarah on January 23, 2012, 03:30:02 AM
Hi 776,
A big Aussie welcome to Susan's. The very best family on the web. You are indeed a very special person, entering into such a wonderful and exciting relationship. I wish you both the most amazingly wonderful life together. Abundant in rich and rewarding experiences, probably never realised in an ordinary couple. What you have is truly unique and very special.
I've long held a belief that Significant Others are the unsung heroes of this community. For one to transition, requires an absolute major remapping exercise of ones self, both physically, mentally and emotionally; which doesn't happen all that easily. Thanks to the stability and insights from SO's the journey to fulfillment is made a little easier.
There is a lot of info and resources here for you both, plus there is an amazing wealth of first hand experience from those that have "walked the talk."
Keep in touch and let us know how you both are coping. In the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine.
P.S. Cindy asked a very important question, regarding your family. I was wondering if perhaps you were one of triplets? You're very special
A big Aussie welcome to Susan's. The very best family on the web. You are indeed a very special person, entering into such a wonderful and exciting relationship. I wish you both the most amazingly wonderful life together. Abundant in rich and rewarding experiences, probably never realised in an ordinary couple. What you have is truly unique and very special.
I've long held a belief that Significant Others are the unsung heroes of this community. For one to transition, requires an absolute major remapping exercise of ones self, both physically, mentally and emotionally; which doesn't happen all that easily. Thanks to the stability and insights from SO's the journey to fulfillment is made a little easier.
There is a lot of info and resources here for you both, plus there is an amazing wealth of first hand experience from those that have "walked the talk."
Keep in touch and let us know how you both are coping. In the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine.
P.S. Cindy asked a very important question, regarding your family. I was wondering if perhaps you were one of triplets? You're very special
Title: Re: Hello, new SO here
Post by: Cindy on January 23, 2012, 03:40:22 AM
Post by: Cindy on January 23, 2012, 03:40:22 AM
Quote from: Catherine Sarah on January 23, 2012, 03:30:02 AMBitch :laugh: ^-^ ^-^ ^-^
Hi 776,
A big Aussie welcome to Susan's. The very best family on the web. You are indeed a very special person, entering into such a wonderful and exciting relationship. I wish you both the most amazingly wonderful life together. Abundant in rich and rewarding experiences, probably never realised in an ordinary couple. What you have is truly unique and very special.
I've long held a belief that Significant Others are the unsung heroes of this community. For one to transition, requires an absolute major remapping exercise of ones self, both physically, mentally and emotionally; which doesn't happen all that easily. Thanks to the stability and insights from SO's the journey to fulfillment is made a little easier.
There is a lot of info and resources here for you both, plus there is an amazing wealth of first hand experience from those that have "walked the talk."
Keep in touch and let us know how you both are coping. In the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine.
P.S. Cindy asked a very important question, regarding your family. I was wondering if perhaps you were one of triplets? You're very special
Title: Re: Hello, new SO here
Post by: Felix on January 24, 2012, 12:27:53 AM
Post by: Felix on January 24, 2012, 12:27:53 AM
Working links:
Welcome to Susan's. I agree that talking to your girlfriend is the best way to know what to look out for, but I also think reading is a great start. Simply assessing facts and perspectives has made a world of difference for me.
- Site Terms of Service and rules to live by (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html)
- Standard Terms and Definitions (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,54369.0.html)
- Post Ranks ( including when you can upload an avatar/post links and photos) (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,114.0.html.)
- Age and the Forum (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,62197.msg405545.html#msg405545)
- Reputation rules (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,18960.0.html)
Welcome to Susan's. I agree that talking to your girlfriend is the best way to know what to look out for, but I also think reading is a great start. Simply assessing facts and perspectives has made a world of difference for me.
Title: Re: Hello, new SO here
Post by: InMyWrittenHeart on January 25, 2012, 01:01:26 PM
Post by: InMyWrittenHeart on January 25, 2012, 01:01:26 PM
^_^ Welcome to susans.