Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Pippa on January 23, 2012, 05:21:33 PM Return to Full Version
Title: It's time
Post by: Pippa on January 23, 2012, 05:21:33 PM
Post by: Pippa on January 23, 2012, 05:21:33 PM
Well my transition is moving along at last. Delays due to an employment tribunal are over and I have been to the gender clinic for my first session. I am a bit confused over the difference in attitude that has been taken by the clinic and my GP. My Gp is very much of the opinion I should take thing slowly but there was suprise at the clinic at my failure in relation to telling my parents and getting my documents changed over. There have been good reasons for my not formally changing my name and, in some circumstances still using my male identity. I got the impression at the gender clinic that this was suspicious and that my decision to transition was some kind of act. I'm confused. I intend to write an explanatory letter to the clinc to iron out any wrinkles as well as speaking to my Doctor.
However since I am now 'in the system', so to speak, I am determined to press on and to live my life full time as female. I have my deed poll ready and once it is witnessed by my GP I intend to begin to change over my identity documents, tell the bank, etc. I don't have many people I need to tell. I have always lead a fairly solitary life. In fact, my Mum, Dad and Brother are about it. I have the letter to my parents drafted, ready to go. I just cannot get the strength to send it.
I am happy in my own mind that I am doing the right thing. My main concern is how they will take it. I am keen to break it to them as gently as possible but I suspect they will be extremely hostile and may well act in haste. my parents are getting on and despite being post war baby boomers, were brought up in fairly strict scots presbeterian families. My main worry is my Mum who I suspect will react badly. I expect my Dad to be a bit more stoic. I would appreciate any support or guidance group members can give and whether there are any good resources which might help explain things to my parents
However since I am now 'in the system', so to speak, I am determined to press on and to live my life full time as female. I have my deed poll ready and once it is witnessed by my GP I intend to begin to change over my identity documents, tell the bank, etc. I don't have many people I need to tell. I have always lead a fairly solitary life. In fact, my Mum, Dad and Brother are about it. I have the letter to my parents drafted, ready to go. I just cannot get the strength to send it.
I am happy in my own mind that I am doing the right thing. My main concern is how they will take it. I am keen to break it to them as gently as possible but I suspect they will be extremely hostile and may well act in haste. my parents are getting on and despite being post war baby boomers, were brought up in fairly strict scots presbeterian families. My main worry is my Mum who I suspect will react badly. I expect my Dad to be a bit more stoic. I would appreciate any support or guidance group members can give and whether there are any good resources which might help explain things to my parents
Title: Re: It's time
Post by: Tristan on January 23, 2012, 05:40:57 PM
Post by: Tristan on January 23, 2012, 05:40:57 PM
you do your thing Pippa. dont let them stand in your way ;)
Title: Re: It's time
Post by: Felix on January 24, 2012, 01:33:21 AM
Post by: Felix on January 24, 2012, 01:33:21 AM
Yep yep. Don't let the gatekeeping get you down. :)
Title: Re: It's time
Post by: Cindy on January 24, 2012, 02:08:57 AM
Post by: Cindy on January 24, 2012, 02:08:57 AM
Well done Pippa,
First and second hurdles over.
Once in the system it can work well as we have seen with many of the girls. Just look at Melody, 12 months and ready for surgery.
Hugs
Cindy
First and second hurdles over.
Once in the system it can work well as we have seen with many of the girls. Just look at Melody, 12 months and ready for surgery.
Hugs
Cindy