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Title: Hi
Post by: taraignota on February 13, 2012, 10:56:40 PM
Post by: taraignota on February 13, 2012, 10:56:40 PM
Hello, everyone. I hope the following suffices for an introduction:
I am a 24 year old graduate student. About a year and a half ago, I realized that a large portion of my thoughts had been occupied with daydreaming that I was female, and shortly after that I started crossdressing. Upon reflection, I realize that I had been having such thoughts with increasing frequency for a few years now, starting noticeably in college (I graduated in 2010). Shortly before I started crossdressing, I began researching ->-bleeped-<-, transsexualism, and gender identity online, and began trying to figure out my (rather confusing) feelings about my own gender. I came out to my fiance after I began crossdressing, explaining to her how, throughout the week, I often (but not always, which is the confusing part) feel a strong desire to be of the opposite gender. She was, I am happy to say, very supportive, and our plans for the future remain on track (so far-- some of them rely on my passing some pesky doctorate qualifying exams). She is the only person I have come out to; I am pretty shy, and I do not at all relish the idea of telling other family or friends about how I feel, even though I may well have to tell them eventually. In fact, it took me a couple of months just to work up the courage to post on this forum. My next step, I suppose, should be to work up the courage to talk to a gender psychiatrist.
In the meantime, I hope that posting on these forums from time to time will help take the edge off of dealing with this thing. It has certainly been helpful to read other people's posts and see that I am not alone in having these feelings.
I am a 24 year old graduate student. About a year and a half ago, I realized that a large portion of my thoughts had been occupied with daydreaming that I was female, and shortly after that I started crossdressing. Upon reflection, I realize that I had been having such thoughts with increasing frequency for a few years now, starting noticeably in college (I graduated in 2010). Shortly before I started crossdressing, I began researching ->-bleeped-<-, transsexualism, and gender identity online, and began trying to figure out my (rather confusing) feelings about my own gender. I came out to my fiance after I began crossdressing, explaining to her how, throughout the week, I often (but not always, which is the confusing part) feel a strong desire to be of the opposite gender. She was, I am happy to say, very supportive, and our plans for the future remain on track (so far-- some of them rely on my passing some pesky doctorate qualifying exams). She is the only person I have come out to; I am pretty shy, and I do not at all relish the idea of telling other family or friends about how I feel, even though I may well have to tell them eventually. In fact, it took me a couple of months just to work up the courage to post on this forum. My next step, I suppose, should be to work up the courage to talk to a gender psychiatrist.
In the meantime, I hope that posting on these forums from time to time will help take the edge off of dealing with this thing. It has certainly been helpful to read other people's posts and see that I am not alone in having these feelings.
Title: Re: Hi
Post by: Catherine Sarah on February 14, 2012, 03:58:48 AM
Post by: Catherine Sarah on February 14, 2012, 03:58:48 AM
Hi taraignota,
A big Aussie welcome to Susan's. You have certainly come to the right place. We are all family here, travelling in the same direction, all singing from the same songsheet (albeit the base baratone over in the FTM section :D )
You are still young, with plenty of time to work through your thoughts and feelings. And you thought a Doctorate was hell? Take as much time as you need, it's not a race. There is a lot of info and resources here to keep you busy for a while. There is also a considerable wealth of experience you have the privilege to draw from.
Hope to hear more from you in time to come. In the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine
A big Aussie welcome to Susan's. You have certainly come to the right place. We are all family here, travelling in the same direction, all singing from the same songsheet (albeit the base baratone over in the FTM section :D )
You are still young, with plenty of time to work through your thoughts and feelings. And you thought a Doctorate was hell? Take as much time as you need, it's not a race. There is a lot of info and resources here to keep you busy for a while. There is also a considerable wealth of experience you have the privilege to draw from.
Hope to hear more from you in time to come. In the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine
Title: Re: Hi
Post by: Devlyn on February 14, 2012, 06:36:47 AM
Post by: Devlyn on February 14, 2012, 06:36:47 AM
Hi Taraignota, it's nice to meet you! I think you should spend lots of time here and post frequently. This place is good for you! See you round, hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Hi
Post by: chan2011 on February 14, 2012, 09:27:38 PM
Post by: chan2011 on February 14, 2012, 09:27:38 PM
Hi taraignota, I am also relatively new to the forums...good luck on your journey and welcome! :D
Title: Re: Hi
Post by: RachaelAnn22 on February 15, 2012, 11:44:03 PM
Post by: RachaelAnn22 on February 15, 2012, 11:44:03 PM
Hi Taraignota,you came to the right place.Hugs,Rachael.
Title: Re: Hi
Post by: Jeneva on February 16, 2012, 06:49:34 AM
Post by: Jeneva on February 16, 2012, 06:49:34 AM
Thank you for sharing your story with us even though you were afraid. We all know how hard that first post is and applaud your courage.
About your fiancé, she can be you BIGGEST ally, but you need to be sure that she is in the loop about everything. Communication is going to be key right now. You need to be totally open and honest to her about your feelings so she has time to adapt and isn't blindsided. You can make your love last, but you will have to work for it.
About your fiancé, she can be you BIGGEST ally, but you need to be sure that she is in the loop about everything. Communication is going to be key right now. You need to be totally open and honest to her about your feelings so she has time to adapt and isn't blindsided. You can make your love last, but you will have to work for it.
Title: Re: Hi
Post by: gennee on February 16, 2012, 11:57:57 AM
Post by: gennee on February 16, 2012, 11:57:57 AM
Welcome to Susan's, Taraignota. I went through similar events over six years ago. Today, I'm a happy transgender woman. In time you wll sort out many things. This site will help you.
:)
:)
Title: Re: Hi
Post by: V M on February 17, 2012, 04:23:17 PM
Post by: V M on February 17, 2012, 04:23:17 PM
Hi Taraignoya :) Welcome to Susan's
Title: Re: Hi
Post by: Jamie D on October 12, 2012, 10:37:14 PM
Post by: Jamie D on October 12, 2012, 10:37:14 PM
I wanted to bring this introduction back to the top of the page, because taraignota's significant other (AnOwlForTara) has joined our ranks with her own introduction.
I am happy for the both of you.
I am happy for the both of you.
Title: Re: Hi
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on October 13, 2012, 12:11:42 AM
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on October 13, 2012, 12:11:42 AM
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Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another sister. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-3.gif&hash=f49e2f86761323f2abd9c33941920389dbb3b10f)
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Title: Re: Hi
Post by: Wynternight on October 13, 2012, 06:55:39 AM
Post by: Wynternight on October 13, 2012, 06:55:39 AM
Hi there and welcome from a fellow newbie here! ;D