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   What was your sexual orientation before you transitioned and after transition?


   Before transition I was attracted to guys & now oddly enough i'm completely asexual, not attracted to either.  :D

I was a gay guy for years before I transitioned.. And when I started I thought I was a straight woman - now I find myself in a relationship with a woman..

I've always liked men. HRT strengthened that desire.

I liked and continue to like women.

Pre-transition:Only-dick-lover.
And I'm talking about dick being on a beefy guy :P

Now: Men, women, and everything in between.

Weird, I know.

Male-lesbian before transition,
pre-op, trans-lesbian all during transition, (tried gay-male thing... boring!)
post-op... still a lesbian ---

unless there be some really nice male to convince me otherwise...
vj at the service, I also cook and stuff... :-)

I have NOTHING against men – so long they not being too chauvinist and have some manners.
Not sure it that is asking too much... sometimes I think it is.

Axélle

In the beginning, I could only be with a man while enfem now it just doesn't matter. However, I still prefer men, smooth solid muscular OH down Cyndi LOL ;)

More number crunching?

At this point in time (as I now like to leave all my options opened for the time being)  Pre transition, bi sexual, mainly due to GID and denial. Transitioning phase, definitely hetero, given the fact I've acknowledged my femininity. Post transition, although not there yet, but there is a very strong urge/desire to marry the man of my dreams.

Hope this helps in some way.
Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

Quote from: Danielle×o on February 14, 2012, 05:25:25 PMnow oddly enough i'm completely asexual, not attracted to either.  :D

lol Count yer blessings ! According to one definition of "femininity" just wait 'til "that right guy" becomes "attracted", finds you instead !

Quote from: Catherine Sarah on February 15, 2012, 08:28:07 AMPost transition, although not there yet, but there is a very strong urge/desire to marry the man of my dreams.

*yuck no offense* but what's "marry" have to do with anything ?

Quote from: Kiera on February 15, 2012, 10:06:56 AM
*yuck no offense* but what's "marry" have to do with anything ?

No offense taken. It's my perception of total congruency post GCS. As well as accepting the responsibility of my preferred gender to be in a monogamous relationship with a man. Hence answering the thread with respects to "after transition" as heterosexual orientation.

Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

Quote from: Catherine Sarah on February 15, 2012, 10:41:32 AM
No offense taken. It's my perception of total congruency post GCS.

*Agreed feel SAME WAY i suppose* lol Just told my "ex-spouse's best new girlfriend" (who's re-married twice with various kids) " I'd marry you too -Melonie- if you were a man! "

*laugh / no further comment* is usual reply - bonus part is husbands in turn generally tolerate/accept me as "totally non-threatening", a somewhat "strange but friendly sort of guy"? During our divorce my ex made such a big deal over my being "trans" that not only did I feel compelled to freely admit it but, now that she tries real hard to avoid the whole topic altogether, I NOW FLAUNT IT with mutual friends every chance I get !

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on February 14, 2012, 09:36:35 PM
I've always liked men. HRT strengthened that desire.

I heartily agree ;D

  Thanks for the replies, it seems sexual orientation for transwomen is very diverse!  :D

  I was always attracted to men growing up but even so I tried to act normal and tried having sex with girls which didn't feel right, tried having sex with men but didn't like the whole anal sex thing to much. I enjoyed the kissing/making out part but as for the sex not really. I wanted to be with a guy and have sex with a guy but as a heterosexual woman which confused the hell out of me till I found out about GID.

  It's funny cuz now i'm completely asexual which I think is because I still have male genitals and the thought of using them for sex makes me sick. I plan on getting SRS/GCS or w/e it's called in the future so maybe my orientation will change once again after surgery.

I new to this, pre-everything, just had my first meeting with a therapist, but I've always been asexual, my libido is next to zero, I do not even get an erection from masturbation. The only time I have an erection is directly after an operation because of the muscle relaxant they give you while you're under? And there might have been one time that I might have had something like "sexual attraction" (towards a girl) which was while I was totally waisted on painkillers.

To be honest, the very idea of having sex as a man disgustes me, regardless with whom? The idea of having sex as a women doen't seem to generate nearly the same level of revulsion? But it's very close.

I do have a keen esthetic sense? I know when men and women look beautiful or elegant? e.g. I loved the look and feel of the movie The Tourist, but like always I identified more with the lady and not with the man, even though mr Dep does look stunning ;)

A female friend asked my what I would look for in a life partner, besides not wanting to have sex with them, my list became rather traditional feminine: Someone taller, stronger then myself, someone who makes me feel save, someone that could protect and support me, would love me for who I am and wants me to grow to my full potential, someone I could respect, maybe even someone that could help or lead me where I would not dare to go by myself? This list is very much emotional, this is how I feel, but it's also abstract, there isn't anything physical, no image, nothing.

I do enjoy reading fiction, including (well written) erotic fiction? But that is also more cerebral: both intelectual & emotional, it never transitions into the physical? Somehow that just isn't there.

I was bi before and still am. I honestly seem to be equally attracted to the PERSON, not what their body is.

Apart from a period immediately pre-transition I was only attracted to women.

For a while I was confusing sexuality and gender just prior to starting transition, and felt I was possibly bisexual or a feminine gay man.  Once I sorted out my issues I realised I both wanted to be with women and be one. 

From that point on I have identified as a lesbian.   Configuration of genitalia doesn't matter to me, whether the woman concerned is a GG or pre-op Transwoman, they are a woman's.

Karen.

banana flavored lolipops!  ;) :D

Bi by nature, Les when I began, in the middle now.