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Hello all! I hope no one thinks of this question as ignorant but I was very curious in asking!

I've read everywhere that estrogen and anti-androgens make it more difficult for you to have an erection. But sometimes when I come across transsexual adult films, some of the girls have full on erections. Can anyone explain why that is? Do the hormones really make it difficult to have an erection?

Difficult, but not impossible.

Additionally, professional porn workers also may not be on a strict HRT regimen, and opt instead for only surgery to augment their feminine appearance.

But complete immersion in HRT will result in loss of libido and difficulty in attaining and maintaining an erection and difficulty or complete loss of orgasm, and ejaculation.

To the degree this occurs depends on many factors and is quite different from person to person.

-Sandy

Quote from: aniya on February 16, 2012, 05:32:55 AM
Hello all! I hope no one thinks of this question as ignorant but I was very curious in asking!

I've read everywhere that estrogen and anti-androgens make it more difficult for you to have an erection. But sometimes when I come across transsexual adult films, some of the girls have full on erections. Can anyone explain why that is? Do the hormones really make it difficult to have an erection?

Unfortunately I often wake up with unwanted erections sometimes even after 14 years on HRT!

I'm only on a moderate dose of estrogen and anti andro, but defiantly notice there is a much larger cerebral side to my libido.

Stress, and and emotion never conquered my T driven sex drive, but now the odd though will deflate an erection, if I can get in the mood to want one.

However, if I am truly mentally turned on I maintain an erection, not quite the same pre HRT, but the orgasm is 100x more pleasurable because I can only attain it if I am truly, completely commited to having one, I now see the trouble women have with the O, it's all in your head!

I can still manage at least partially if I am with someone, but solo it's a lot more difficult to achieve and maintain.  If my partner didn't like it I wouldn't miss it. Female whole body orgasms are much better anyway in my book.

Karen.

In my case, with the right fantasy when solo or with the right scenario when with a partner, my junk works better than it did before.  Like, seriously.  There's a very specific ritual that I go through to get there(basically, foreplaying myself), but once there, he works like a champ.  The whole experience is affected by HRT, and certainly different than when I was on testosterone.  Also, my libido hasn't decreased one iota - the expression of it has changed.  Yay, unicorn me! :P

An Endocrinologist or Urologist should know the mechanics involved with answering that question, but I heard that very frequent "snake walking" keeps it intact, maybe like dilating? Also heard that helps keep up the "sauce" too. But that could all be malarkey...

Quote from: veritatemfurto on February 17, 2012, 12:03:47 AM
"snake walking" keeps it intact, maybe like dilating? Also heard that helps keep up the "sauce" too. But that could all be malarkey...

HA :laugh:

Unicorn  ;D

I always feel like a really good penis got wasted on me. I'd feel a lot better about SRS if I didn't have a package that has been described as perfect, or at least someone else could have/use it after I was done.

One girl's trash...you know the rest.

Quote from: Karii Cloud on February 23, 2012, 10:00:32 PM
Unicorn  ;D

I always feel like a really good penis got wasted on me. I'd feel a lot better about SRS if I didn't have a package that has been described as perfect, or at least someone else could have/use it after I was done.

One girl's trash...you know the rest.

Maybe it'll make a perfect vagina!

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on February 23, 2012, 10:36:58 PM
Maybe it'll make a perfect vagina!

Perhaps it will  :D

Btw, does size matter when it comes to SRS?

Quote from: Karii Cloud on February 24, 2012, 11:08:08 AM
Perhaps it will  :D

Btw, does size matter when it comes to SRS?

from what I've heard, yes. the bigger your set is when pre, the less worry that a skin graft from another area will be needed to achieve necessary depth once post. but depth isn't always as important as looks, esp for a lesbian.

Quote from: Naturally Blonde on February 16, 2012, 05:50:41 AM
Unfortunately I often wake up with unwanted erections sometimes even after 14 years on HRT!

Can i please trade you for your magical erection maintaining abilities.

I don't have -usable- erections anymore. It gets turgid, but briefly.

I don't miss them, neither did I ever feel comfortable with them and I am thankful they are gone.

Quote from: Bird on February 24, 2012, 12:03:32 PM
I don't have -usable- erections anymore. It gets turgid, but briefly.

I don't miss them, neither did I ever feel comfortable with them and I am thankful they are gone.

Same here.. I never had morning erections or spontaneous ones either pre-hrt.. some when I was a teenager but not many at all.

IDK why girls wanna walk around with boners anyways :P

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on February 24, 2012, 05:00:49 PM
Same here.. I never had morning erections or spontaneous ones either pre-hrt.. some when I was a teenager but not many at all.

IDK why girls wanna walk around with boners anyways :P

It's [h]awt.

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on February 24, 2012, 05:00:49 PM
Same here.. I never had morning erections or spontaneous ones either pre-hrt.. some when I was a teenager but not many at all.

IDK why girls wanna walk around with boners anyways :P

i have no interest in penetrating anyone , but i dont want SRS and well besides being penetrated myself , i do enjoy frotting and frotting with a flacid is a little bit akward 

Quote from: mementomori on February 25, 2012, 02:16:19 AM
i have no interest in penetrating anyone , but i dont want SRS and well besides being penetrated myself , i do enjoy frotting and frotting with a flacid is a little bit akward

wtf???   (Googles "frot") oh... TMI!

corner or pillow riding would be better for those that can't get it up... and its a VERY female thing... and I can only imagine it would work even better once post... its just not talked about being a very personal thing, like tg's that invert instead of tuck.

I still get unwanted erections after 14 years on HRT and they are a curse!

Quote from: Karii Cloud on February 23, 2012, 10:00:32 PM
Unicorn  ;D

I always feel like a really good penis got wasted on me. I'd feel a lot better about SRS if I didn't have a package that has been described as perfect, or at least someone else could have/use it after I was done.

One girl's trash...you know the rest.

Sweety you and me both.  It's well, If post op size is related to pre op I'm in luck.  But damn I wish I could trade the an FTM. 

Quote from: Jennifer.L on February 28, 2012, 02:25:46 PM
But damn I wish I could trade the an FTM.

I thought some group of European/Mid East scientists were working on that... swapping the organs of two compatible transsexuals, or growing them new sets in the lab from stem cells...

Quote from: veritatemfurto on February 28, 2012, 03:42:29 PM
I thought some group of European/Mid East scientists were working on that... swapping the organs of two compatible transsexuals, or growing them new sets in the lab from stem cells...

Now we are in the realms of science fiction!  show us the source please!

Saudi arbia

But there's a Catch 22,  They can implant the equipment, and you can even have a baby with it.  But you can't keep the girly bit's  you have to kill you immune system while you have them.  And well the nerves arn't right so your not gonna feel much of anything.

I only skimmed it so I apologize if I'm wrong about anything.


http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cts=1330540132571&ved=0CEAQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.secondtype.info%2Fpregnant.htm&ei=dmxOT_vxMsfliALDkICFCw&usg=AFQjCNGaxoPidies2YreEkHuE-_Gzx4nvg (http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cts=1330540132571&ved=0CEAQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.secondtype.info%2Fpregnant.htm&ei=dmxOT_vxMsfliALDkICFCw&usg=AFQjCNGaxoPidies2YreEkHuE-_Gzx4nvg)

It is, in theory, possible to do this, it is not fiction. The reason why there are lines to wait for hepatic, cardiac or transplant for any other organ is because there needs to be a suitable donor. This is related to a series of proteins that are expressed across the cells that determine if the immune system will regonize the organ as part of the body or as foreign.

I see a uterus trasnplant as something very complicated, up there with lungs transplants, but I don't think it is the realm of fiction, it is the realm of things that are to come.

OK well I think I've officially derailed the topic from erections now!

SO I'm starting a separate thread on the transplant and stem cell use thoughts here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,116305.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,116305.0.html)

Quote from: veritatemfurto on February 25, 2012, 10:07:01 AM
wtf???   (Googles "frot") oh... TMI!

corner or pillow riding would be better for those that can't get it up... and its a VERY female thing... and I can only imagine it would work even better once post... its just not talked about being a very personal thing, like tg's that invert instead of tuck.

I think that is what my friends and I called "sword fighting".

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on March 20, 1974, 06:54:04 AM

IDK why girls wanna walk around with boners anyways :P

Quote from: JoeyD on February 24, 2012, 05:43:05 PM
It's [h]awt.

I agree with Joey its hot! Lol

I agree with JoeyD and MyAlias, it is kinda hot! Not all of us are dysphoric about our penises. I don't feel any less woman because of it, and our partners enjoy it and think its hot too! Just my opinion.

Quote from: MyAlias on March 01, 2012, 11:27:45 AM
I agree with Joey its hot! Lol

Quote from: JennyCop on March 01, 2012, 11:34:08 AM
I agree with JoeyD and MyAlias, it is kinda hot! Not all of us are dysphoric about our penises. I don't feel any less woman because of it, and our partners enjoy it and think its hot too! Just my opinion.

sooo, like could this be the theme song of the topic then? LMFAO

I'm Sexy and I Know It (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CDaw0M2qCZs#)

I was going to post the official vid, but didnt think the WIGGLE WIGGLE WIGGLE part would go well :P

Giggity

5 months on HRT and I can still very, very, very easily achieve and maintain and erection, pretty much nothing has changed on that front apart from that I no longer get random ones, I still seem to get periods where I wake up with one which is very annoying but I also get them a lot less and my libido has hardly changed, it has decreased a bit but I still get turned on super easily just I don't get randomly turned on from nothing while just browsing the Internet or whatever. And my T and E levels according to blood tests are perfectly fine.

It is very much a "Your Mileage May Vary" kind of thing. I'd prefer to get the effects like I hear from other girls like a big drop in libido and needing a bit of work to get turned on, but oh well, after SRS I won't be complaining about this libido.

Had quite a few unwanted one's recently! and 14 years on HRT......it's a nightmare!

I am planning to talk to my very switched-on GP about possibly prescribing Viagra/Cialis just to make sure I am doing the right thing before I take the irrevocable step of SRS. If I do try it, I will be interested to see how I feel about it.  I know how my bi girlfriend will feel about it!  ;)

Karen.

Woohoo! Go Karen! Also good to make sure you're not gonna miss something once you "lose it"  :P

Quote from: justmeinoz on March 07, 2012, 04:43:57 AM
I am planning to talk to my very switched-on GP about possibly prescribing Viagra/Cialis just to make sure I am doing the right thing before I take the irrevocable step of SRS. If I do try it, I will be interested to see how I feel about it.  I know how my bi girlfriend will feel about it!  ;)

Karen.

You can have some of my unwanted erections! I hate the situation especially after 14 years on HRT and anti androgens. It really is horrible to find it fully erect in the morning!

All this talk of erections is giving me one. O_o

:P

Quote from: Cadence Jean on March 11, 2012, 03:43:39 PM
All this talk of erections is giving me one. O_o

:P

lol  :o whoopsie!  :P

Quote from: Cadence Jean on March 11, 2012, 03:43:39 PM
All this talk of erections is giving me one. O_o

:P

This made me laugh.
Good job.
:)

Quote from: Cadence Jean on March 11, 2012, 03:43:39 PM
All this talk of erections is giving me one. O_o

:P

Oh jeez, like midday rain.

  Transwomen that work in the porn industry ususally do take hormones but in lower doses so they can still perform.  :P

Quote from: Danielle×o on March 11, 2012, 07:54:19 PM
  Transwomen that work in the porn industry ususally do take hormones but in lower doses so they can still perform.  :P

How do you know this?  What do you mean by lower dosages? Like less than the average transgirl is prescribed or what? I am very interested!

Quote from: MyAlias on March 12, 2012, 01:23:44 AM
How do you know this?

  One of my trans friends works as an adult actress in the porn industry and she told me.

QuoteWhat do you mean by lower dosages? Like less than the average transgirl is prescribed or what?

  Yeah according to her they either take lower doses of both estrogen & spirolactone or they take normal estrogen doses but with a lower dose of spirolactone. I heard some even take Viagra to maintain stability while performing.  :D

I've only been on HRT for 2 weeks, but there been a pretty dramatic change for me. I use to get them all the time when sleeping. It was a vicious curse for me. I feel a lot better their gone.

I've been on HRT for almost two months now and I've noticed I never get random erections anymore, nor do I wake up with them (Yaaay!), but if I WANT one everything seems to work just fine still. I have noticed a much lessened libido, but not completely gone. If I'm turned on, I can easily just distract myself where as previously, I pretty much had to...do something about it. I'm quite happy with these changes so far ^^.

So I've been on HRT for about 8 months now. I can still achieve an erection. The weird thing for me is that the length when hard has shortened. This not due to lack of skin but it "feels" like I'm stretched to the max. I still have loose skin when previously this was not the case. I'm not overly concerned but I wonder if I damaged something due to tucking. Does anybody else have a similar issue?

I actually have no loss of libido. Erections need more mental stimulation and love making sounds really stimulate me... and the orgasims are way OTT. My endo and therapist continue to be somewhat suprised as I'm on a full dosage. Maybe alot has to do with pre HRT and your libido then? I had a really active sex life before and I was worried about the loss. Guess its different for each of us.

Quote from: MacKenzie on March 12, 2012, 01:59:47 AM
  One of my trans friends works as an adult actress in the porn industry and she told me.

  Yeah according to her they either take lower doses of both estrogen & spirolactone or they take normal estrogen doses but with a lower dose of spirolactone. I heard some even take Viagra to maintain stability while performing.  :D

I think most are on Viagra. I know that some escorts will often tell clients they need a little prep time to allow medications to work if they are tops.

WOW! Talk about necro'ing a thread! This one is almost two years old. I bet 50 pecent of the girls even stopped hormones since it seems to be a theme I hear a lot. So and so stopped and went back. Blah Blah blah. But the only time I get erections is when i want them the least: when Im being intimate with my man. But they happen a lot less and are really small and flaccid. I can no longer ejaculate either and my testes have shrunk into some type of jelly. I have noticed my feminization seems to have sped up since this happened around a couple weeks ago. My spiro was upped to normal finally on Nov. 26. Now I'm probably chemically castrated. I almost cant believe how femme i look sometimes and i believe it is related to the nuking of my T. I will no fo sho a week after my next appt. on Jan. 20.

And yeah, I would totally want a uterus, or the holy grail of trnassexuals: a fully functional female reproductive system. When I told my ex-fiancee this she deumped a month later. She thought I was just about SRS but I guess having a baby was too far lol

QuoteWOW! Talk about necro'ing a thread!

Raising from the dead is kinda appropriate for the topic though right?

QuoteI have noticed my feminization seems to have sped up since this happened

Go Jo!  That must be pretty awesome.

Hell I would skip the womb.   A vagina of course... but i dream of being able to develop a female skeletal structure.  Sigh.

Well, some topics are kind of timeless I guess. Mine still works when I need it but libido is nonexistent. I try to use it once a week. I've noticed that it's gotten a little more painful. I don't have much goo either. Is this TMI?

Nope... every bit helps.

Er... information.   Not goo.

It could be good for girls to mention how long on hrt the changes described occurred.

Orgasms have always been a little painful for me- a varicocele potentially causing this.  I am hoping for changes there on hrt or after orchi.

I  had my family jewels removed but I have no problem in getting aroused or hard for that matter. But I don't get morning surprises and when I do have a orgasim intend to be dry unless. Dry turned on then it's clear. I'm also on a low dose of estrogen and my t levels is lower then a cis female, everyone's body is different lol.

Wow. Does anyone even bother to read about the things they put into their bodies or do they just take whatever some doctor gives them? Unless most of these comments are just meant to be silly.

I hope silly. The alternative makes me sad.

One thing for sure, I never put anything in my body without knowing everything that exists about it. Good or bad its the one god gave me and its all I really own.

Quote from: amber1964 on January 10, 2014, 05:45:00 PM
Wow. Does anyone even bother to read about the things they put into their bodies or do they just take whatever some doctor gives them? Unless most of these comments are just meant to be silly.

I hope silly. The alternative makes me sad.

One thing for sure, I never put anything in my body without knowing everything that exists about it. Good or bad its the one god gave me and its all I really own.

Amber...

Not all of us have the same sexuality.. And I honestly think this does become a question of sexuality rather than gender.

Kelly

Im blinking which is a twitch I get when I totally dont understand a comment. What is the connection between sexuality and hormones? Or were you referring to some other thing in your body  ???

Quote from: amber1964 on January 10, 2014, 05:45:00 PM
Wow. Does anyone even bother to read about the things they put into their bodies or do they just take whatever some doctor gives them? Unless most of these comments are just meant to be silly.

I hope silly. The alternative makes me sad.

One thing for sure, I never put anything in my body without knowing everything that exists about it. Good or bad its the one god gave me and its all I really own.

Of course they do. Most of us have done extensive research on the results long before starting any treatments. I read over everything with my endo and again with my SO and made sure that she understood everything that was about to happen. But people react very differently and some of us still prefer to use our junk. I spoke with my endo about viagra and things like that if I ended up totally limp. People just have different results/needs/desires and are curious to talk about these things.

Quote from: amber1964 on January 10, 2014, 08:48:44 PM
Kelly

Im blinking which is a twitch I get when I totally dont understand a comment. What is the connection between sexuality and hormones? Or were you referring to some other thing in your body  ???

Tiffany very well summarized my thoughts.. Which thank you.

But I'll just go ahead and say it~ Most of us are fully aware of the long term implications as to functionality of erections when progressing through HRT. I have noticed a group of people here who will comment *not in these words* "You want an erection? What is wrong with you?" Which is cool. Like I said. Everyone is different. Some of us, however do want the opportunity to have sex in that manner. And what I am trying to say is that: There's nothing wrong with that either. As it does come down to a matter; really of sexuality and how you would prefer to do it.. Rather than "HOW CAN A GIRL WANT THAT?"

What about my comment made you think I care what someone else does with their genitals? I didnt say so. In fact, I dont. If somebody wants to take hormones and use their penis for sex its all good with me, I dont care one way or the other. Honestly, I have no feelings about it one way or the other. Such a personal thing, I actually feel uncomfortable talking about it.

Where I live, I am proud to say we are able now to obtain a new birth certificate, in our chosen gender without any surgery at all. I am also proud to have played a (very) small part in that.

My comments were more directed at the beginning of this thread which I later realise were really old.

I thought the world had moved past conversations about this sex thing. I work with young trans women, volunteer at a shelter, of course they talk about it, some do, some dont, some like it and some sadly do it for money. But are there actually fossils who still think that matters?

...I've really noticed that those who report serious loss of erectile function whilst on hormones, tend to be those that hated using their birth genitals pre-HRT. Whilst, those who enjoy or don't mind using their genitals pre-HRT tend to retain function (if slightly or moderately impaired). So - mind over matter, ultimately?

Perhaps that's another reason why some trans porn stars retain function, because they enjoy their work or at the least are not offended by their own genitals?

It seems that with men and women, arousal and attraction seem to be the key to getting turned-on, and this "software" in the head powers the *ahem*...hardware in the engine room. The less issue the software has with hardware, the better the hardware works perhaps?

Hannah from Sweden hosts a vlog called "Ask a Transexual" and she seems to provide some interesting and in-depth answers to questions such as this.
She's also an adult movie actress and is bisexual, so she seems (from what she says) to need to carefully manager her hormone regime to these ends.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J8z1zH2mphk&list=PLCE9D708733D50B8F

Another such actress -  Bailey Jay - also has commented that she had to experiment alot with hormones when she began HRT in order to retain function, and also to regulate her fluctuating weight gain, without negating the feminising effects. Once again - very careful and specific management tailored to her specific needs.

I googled and came to this thread lol

1 week in and I find my erections less frequent but I still do have them. I tried testing my libido by watching my favorite high-quality porn. I got excited, then remembered something, then lose all interest in it. Sexy female bodies are sort of "meh" to me now but I still think that they look great. I just feel like I need something more than just visual stimulation to make me orgasm lol. It's all good and I welcome the feminizing changes!

Quote from: veritatemfurto on February 25, 2012, 10:07:01 AM
wtf???   (Googles "frot") oh... TMI!

corner or pillow riding would be better for those that can't get it up... and its a VERY female thing... and I can only imagine it would work even better once post... its just not talked about being a very personal thing, like tg's that invert instead of tuck.

:) when I began masturbating I did it this way on a large stuffed dog (no...I'm not sexually attracted to dogs or another other non-human animals or mammals) or on the carpet in my room...I never really touched my penis. I still do it alone or with partners (grinding) sometimes. I haven't made a final decision about SRS yet...but I've had plenty or erectile dysfunction with partners, male or female, in my life because I fantasized I was a woman with them. The girls wanted a 'man' and so did the gay guys. There was only one person I ever dated who knew about my gender identity and in our relationship (outside the bedroom as well) she took the male role and I took the female role. She was hetero, but a tomboy..and with some prominent masculine characteristics like being aggressive, punchy, dominant (I know these are not exclusive male traits, but I'm generalizing) and assertive and took control..she decided what we did and where we would go...I sort of followed her lead...I'm naturally submissive too. It was intoxicating to me, and I was devastated by the break up. I had a very hard time accepting it and letting her go. She ultimately left me because of my problems having or keeping erections, among other things. I don't think she understood the seriousness of my identification as a female, and the effects of gender dysphoria. We had been close friends before spontaneously becoming involved sexually one day too. But that relationship played a major part in my deciding to finally tell my therapist what was really going on with me for so many miserable, lonely years. I've known I was a girl since I was very young...you're comments about this female arousal technique makes me wonder if I even approached masturbation as a female would intuitively. I took me a long time before I began to use my hands more. Thank you for this info!

Quote from: veritatemfurto on February 17, 2012, 12:03:47 AM
An Endocrinologist or Urologist should know the mechanics involved with answering that question, but I heard that very frequent "snake walking" keeps it intact, maybe like dilating? Also heard that helps keep up the "sauce" too. But that could all be malarkey...

The endocrinologist, like all the other doctors I have seen, just go blank when I start to ask about hormones, gender identity, etc.  I am going to finally get referred to a place where they do all that.  Only been at it 3 years. 
But as for the erections, they stopped for me about a year ago.  My last 2 orgasms were almost 2 months apart, but that last one...it was like a warm fire cruising through me.  Fantasy...I kept focusing on my female half, and she brought me through. 

I'm post-op, my testosterone is close to zero. I get erections (blood rushing toward region, swelling) and orgasm several times weekly. My E levels are high. I also take progesterone.

I thought after 6 days of hrt would keep me stable and constant.   Just weird how all of the sudden I woke up with an errection.   Just weird is my body getting used to the spiro so its not affecting me as much,?  Just a bit worried i really need my hormones checked.

It's one thing I can truly say is that I hate erections, but I'm lucky after 3 years I don't get them anymore.

I lost spontaneous and morning ones a couple weeks after starting the AA; and I work mentally very hard to NOT (dang I typed that 'not' really hard! lol) get them in any other context as well.    My hope is it'll forget how and go away, forever.

Quote from: Mikka55 on September 15, 2016, 07:22:25 AM
I thought after 6 days of hrt would keep me stable and constant.   Just weird how all of the sudden I woke up with an errection.   Just weird is my body getting used to the spiro so its not affecting me as much,?  Just a bit worried i really need my hormones checked.

Mikka, it takes much more than 6 days to lower testosterone levels.  For me, free testosterone dropped to the bottom of the male normal range after about 6 weeks, and at 3 months on spiro it finally is in the normal female range.

HRT is biology.  It's a slow process nudging trillions of cells to change their behavior.  Please give it time to work.

It helps a lot to keep your hormone levels at a healthy female range with the help of your endocrinologist of course. My libido is far higher with the right hormone regimen for my needs.

Quote from: Cadence Jean on February 16, 2012, 11:15:11 PM
In my case, with the right fantasy when solo or with the right scenario when with a partner, my junk works better than it did before.  Like, seriously.  There's a very specific ritual that I go through to get there(basically, foreplaying myself), but once there, he works like a champ.  The whole experience is affected by HRT, and certainly different than when I was on testosterone.  Also, my libido hasn't decreased one iota - the expression of it has changed.  Yay, unicorn me! :P

Hi , I was curious about this because I met many M-F trans people in Thailand, where they are not scorned and stigmatized as they are in the US. Bathroom problem? Thai people think we are absurd and insane over that. To them it's just considered the "3rd" sex. One girl (yes, they are "girls" to me)(I'm a songwriter in rock and roll and we write and sing about "girls" because we're all frozen at age 16) told me she couldn't because she was on hormones, and I felt sad for her, but it sounds like it's more often  like me at age 60, where it functions just fine but no longer so quick on the draw, and very dependent on mood and setting and who I'm with. I actually like it better that way. Knowing as much as I do about physiology and the complexities of hormonal balances/imbalances as well as emotion, it sounds like each person's scenario is more or less unique and therefore so would be the sexual function as well. There are men my age who go on testosterone therapy in order to turn the clock back to the levels they had at a much younger age, to slow loss of muscle mass and reduce visceral fat accumulation, restore vigor, which sounds like a good idea, but our bodies don't like it and there are a lot of risks and side effects. Your endocrinologist is your best friend in this, no doubt. Anyway, this is my first time on a forum such as this, so I say God bless all of you for your courage, which is the courage to be who you really are in the face of prejudice and misunderstanding. This above all else, to thine own self be true. I admire your community. I don't have gender or sexuality challenges such as yours, but I am an artist and a unique individual, an entertainer by nature, very uninclined to conform,  who has made the choice to never stray from being who I really am,  but to build my life according to that core, and that has been a huge and sometimes overwhelming challenge  to me but well worth the reward.

Quote from: gmf1313 on October 05, 2016, 08:50:07 AM
Hi , I was curious about this because I met many M-F trans people in Thailand, where they are not scorned and stigmatized as they are in the US. Bathroom problem? Thai people think we are absurd and insane over that. To them it's just considered the "3rd" sex. One girl (yes, they are "girls" to me)(I'm a songwriter in rock and roll and we write and sing about "girls" because we're all frozen at age 16) told me she couldn't because she was on hormones, and I felt sad for her, but it sounds like it's more often  like me at age 60, where it functions just fine but no longer so quick on the draw, and very dependent on mood and setting and who I'm with. I actually like it better that way. Knowing as much as I do about physiology and the complexities of hormonal balances/imbalances as well as emotion, it sounds like each person's scenario is more or less unique and therefore so would be the sexual function as well. There are men my age who go on testosterone therapy in order to turn the clock back to the levels they had at a much younger age, to slow loss of muscle mass and reduce visceral fat accumulation, restore vigor, which sounds like a good idea, but our bodies don't like it and there are a lot of risks and side effects. Your endocrinologist is your best friend in this, no doubt. Anyway, this is my first time on a forum such as this, so I say God bless all of you for your courage, which is the courage to be who you really are in the face of prejudice and misunderstanding. This above all else, to thine own self be true. I admire your community. I don't have gender or sexuality challenges such as yours, but I am an artist and a unique individual, an entertainer by nature, very uninclined to conform,  who has made the choice to never stray from being who I really am,  but to build my life according to that core, and that has been a huge and sometimes overwhelming challenge  to me but well worth the reward.

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I've been on hrt for 16 months.  I am also on the highest dosage of estrogen and spiro.  during the first 3 months, my libido disappeared and I couldn't even get an erection. as the months went by,  I kept exploring and found that I could get an erection. It just wasn't like before and took a lot  of mental work to get there. I also had to relearn how to touch everything since the skin was now soft and delicate.  I don't get random erections anymore thankfully.  I do still enjoy penetration even if i am a lesbian,  but surgery is the ultimate goal for me. I just don't have any dysphoria about using it while I have it.

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The hormones make it next to impossible to have spontaneous erections. It's quite easy to get sufficiently aroused with a little bit of physical contact. Take girl hormones, get aroused like a girl.