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Title: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: peky on February 19, 2012, 09:26:11 AM
Post by: peky on February 19, 2012, 09:26:11 AM
or Peky...?
So, it is like all my Friends and colleagues know I am female, I have told them I am not "John" but "Peky.' I even sign my emails as "Peky," yet it is like the keep calling me "John." No I do not look like "John," and hardly ever get "read."
They are all very supportive, the girls accept me as one of them, and the boys, well they do treat me as a woman; so ,I am bewilder why they cannot call me Peky?
Have any of you have experience a similar situation, any advice ?
Peky
So, it is like all my Friends and colleagues know I am female, I have told them I am not "John" but "Peky.' I even sign my emails as "Peky," yet it is like the keep calling me "John." No I do not look like "John," and hardly ever get "read."
They are all very supportive, the girls accept me as one of them, and the boys, well they do treat me as a woman; so ,I am bewilder why they cannot call me Peky?
Have any of you have experience a similar situation, any advice ?
Peky
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: Annah on February 19, 2012, 11:22:03 AM
Post by: Annah on February 19, 2012, 11:22:03 AM
The advice is to give it more time. A LOT of time. More time than you are probably thinking when I say "to give it more time."
You have been going by the name of John all your life. It's the name your parents gave you, it's the name you were raised with, it's the name you identified with until you made the decision to change it.
You may be ready to change your name but others are not as quick to follow. It has nothing to do with not understanding or how close minded someone is (even tho that can be the case) because even the most opened person will problems with it for awhile.
The best advice I can give you is to correct them everytime they do it and don't expect them to turn around as quickly as you want them to. The same rule applies to pronouns.
You have been going by the name of John all your life. It's the name your parents gave you, it's the name you were raised with, it's the name you identified with until you made the decision to change it.
You may be ready to change your name but others are not as quick to follow. It has nothing to do with not understanding or how close minded someone is (even tho that can be the case) because even the most opened person will problems with it for awhile.
The best advice I can give you is to correct them everytime they do it and don't expect them to turn around as quickly as you want them to. The same rule applies to pronouns.
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: Devlyn on February 19, 2012, 12:14:59 PM
Post by: Devlyn on February 19, 2012, 12:14:59 PM
I agree with Annah, I would take her advice, and then add a dash more time for the forgetful and stubborn people! Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: sweettexastgirl409 on March 15, 2012, 08:53:14 AM
Post by: sweettexastgirl409 on March 15, 2012, 08:53:14 AM
Alot of it is habit
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: Annah on March 15, 2012, 12:29:34 PM
Post by: Annah on March 15, 2012, 12:29:34 PM
lol that was a thread resurrection!
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: JenJen2011 on March 15, 2012, 12:32:53 PM
Post by: JenJen2011 on March 15, 2012, 12:32:53 PM
Quote from: Annah on March 15, 2012, 12:29:34 PM
lol that was a thread resurrection!
A lot of that has been going on around here lately.
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: Annah on March 15, 2012, 12:39:09 PM
Post by: Annah on March 15, 2012, 12:39:09 PM
i noticed it too....usually with 4 word replies
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: Annah on March 15, 2012, 12:46:34 PM
Post by: Annah on March 15, 2012, 12:46:34 PM
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: sweettexastgirl409 on March 16, 2012, 12:06:20 PM
Post by: sweettexastgirl409 on March 16, 2012, 12:06:20 PM
mine was 5 words! lol
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: peky on March 16, 2012, 08:19:20 PM
Post by: peky on March 16, 2012, 08:19:20 PM
Well, I did follow the advice of our young seminarist, I specifically placed a: "my friends call me peky" just below my signature, and well things have improve a lot -thanks Annah!
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: Tristan on March 19, 2012, 10:03:21 PM
Post by: Tristan on March 19, 2012, 10:03:21 PM
i would say just be nice and correct them. they will catch on after a little while
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: Rita on September 12, 2012, 01:39:39 PM
Post by: Rita on September 12, 2012, 01:39:39 PM
I think name is an easy thing to learn and call someone by even if there is a hiccup every so often. I think He/She is much harder, even for us. I sometimes accidentally call someone a he, and usually feel real bad when I do.
So I feel if they keep doing it day in and day out than yea something is wrong.
So I feel if they keep doing it day in and day out than yea something is wrong.
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: Annah on September 16, 2012, 04:11:21 AM
Post by: Annah on September 16, 2012, 04:11:21 AM
you must took awhile to go through all the forum pages to resurrect this thread
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: peky on September 16, 2012, 11:03:40 AM
Post by: peky on September 16, 2012, 11:03:40 AM
So, yeah, after so many months I hardly ever heard anybody calling me by my old name, save one exception, and that is when somebody gets mad with me. I do not know if they do unconsciously or consciously, and at this point in my life FMDIDNGD.
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: Alainaluvsu on September 16, 2012, 11:23:04 AM
Post by: Alainaluvsu on September 16, 2012, 11:23:04 AM
Nobody really had trouble with my new name (similar to my old one) but they do have problems with pronouns at school.
Title: Re: Why they refuse to call me Misty...?
Post by: Rita on September 17, 2012, 10:51:29 AM
Post by: Rita on September 17, 2012, 10:51:29 AM
Quote from: Annah on September 16, 2012, 04:11:21 AM
you must took awhile to go through all the forum pages to resurrect this thread
I did, and at points I didn't realize how far back I was vamping xD But its still an interesting thread and not one I see.