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Title: Prayers
Post by: Bird on February 23, 2012, 11:21:21 PM
Post by: Bird on February 23, 2012, 11:21:21 PM
I don't know if it would be selfish, or if it would be too much to ask to any of you, or whatever. But things with my parents have been rough, because they are unnacepting that I am transgendered. Sometimes it seens it will get better, but today my father had a fit over me wearing a female watch and necklace at dinner. Things were fine, and they weren't minding if I was wearing female attire in our home, but as I took my seat and began eating, they began giving me odd looks and my dad said something negative,a brazilian slang meaning something is bad, and my mother keep staring at me.
As I went to the kitchen to grab water, she went after me and gave me a speech on good manners and stuff. Later on she came to my bedroom and said many random nasty things about my transition, explaining I should never wear that necklace or that watch to our table and I should never challenge my father in such a manner again. I did nothing, absolutely nothing, unpolite or challening to any of them during our time at dinner. Considering they were being accepting before, all this reaction over a watch and a necklace is out of the blue, yes, and it scares me as well.
I am fairly out of options currently because I am going to graduate from medic school this year. They hold the money, I have to submit or they cut it and I will be one of the many TG women in Brazil who were disowned or something alike. Also don't take this wrong, I don't want to just graduate and vanish, I want to keep my parents because I love them, but I'm trying to steer them in a path of love instead of hate, while managing my transition.
So, please, if you can, pray for them? Anything to warm their hearts. Their names are Monique and Dirceu and I really would appreciate any amount of prayers sent towards them.
As I went to the kitchen to grab water, she went after me and gave me a speech on good manners and stuff. Later on she came to my bedroom and said many random nasty things about my transition, explaining I should never wear that necklace or that watch to our table and I should never challenge my father in such a manner again. I did nothing, absolutely nothing, unpolite or challening to any of them during our time at dinner. Considering they were being accepting before, all this reaction over a watch and a necklace is out of the blue, yes, and it scares me as well.
I am fairly out of options currently because I am going to graduate from medic school this year. They hold the money, I have to submit or they cut it and I will be one of the many TG women in Brazil who were disowned or something alike. Also don't take this wrong, I don't want to just graduate and vanish, I want to keep my parents because I love them, but I'm trying to steer them in a path of love instead of hate, while managing my transition.
So, please, if you can, pray for them? Anything to warm their hearts. Their names are Monique and Dirceu and I really would appreciate any amount of prayers sent towards them.
Title: Re: Prayers
Post by: Constance on February 23, 2012, 11:42:05 PM
Post by: Constance on February 23, 2012, 11:42:05 PM
Bird, I will keep you and your parents in my prayers.
Title: Re: Prayers
Post by: Bird on February 24, 2012, 07:06:00 AM
Post by: Bird on February 24, 2012, 07:06:00 AM
Thank you Connie, I appreciate it.
They woke up calm today. I don't know what is going on with them, I am just glad their bursts of anger are fewer now.
They woke up calm today. I don't know what is going on with them, I am just glad their bursts of anger are fewer now.
Title: Re: Prayers
Post by: Sarah Louise on February 24, 2012, 09:26:39 AM
Post by: Sarah Louise on February 24, 2012, 09:26:39 AM
I will keep this in my prayers also.
Title: Re: Prayers
Post by: gennee on March 02, 2012, 01:52:17 PM
Post by: gennee on March 02, 2012, 01:52:17 PM
I will also pray for you.
Title: Re: Prayers
Post by: peky on March 02, 2012, 05:44:25 PM
Post by: peky on March 02, 2012, 05:44:25 PM
I will pray for you too
Peky
Peky
Title: Re: Prayers
Post by: Shantel on March 02, 2012, 07:19:40 PM
Post by: Shantel on March 02, 2012, 07:19:40 PM
I too will keep you and your parents in prayer Bird. My best to you dear!
Title: Re: Prayers
Post by: Bird on March 15, 2012, 11:52:24 AM
Post by: Bird on March 15, 2012, 11:52:24 AM
Thank you everyone. I have been praying a lot as well, and letting my Faith guide this a bit. It is hard for me to do this though, because (nearly) all priests here in Brazil are fairly anti-TG. Of the "you will go to hell" kind.
I am going to open my name change petition soon, and I hope it all goes well. I am leaving these dices in God's hands.
I am going to open my name change petition soon, and I hope it all goes well. I am leaving these dices in God's hands.
Title: Re: Prayers
Post by: Shantel on March 15, 2012, 04:24:05 PM
Post by: Shantel on March 15, 2012, 04:24:05 PM
Quote from: Bird on March 15, 2012, 11:52:24 AMIt's always interesting to watch how some priests and preachers presume to know God's mindset so well that they have the nerve to speak and make lofty pronouncements and condemnations in God's behalf.
Thank you everyone. I have been praying a lot as well, and letting my Faith guide this a bit. It is hard for me to do this though, because (nearly) all priests here in Brazil are fairly anti-TG. Of the "you will go to hell" kind.
I am going to open my name change petition soon, and I hope it all goes well. I am leaving these dices in God's hands.
Title: Re: Prayers
Post by: Constance on March 15, 2012, 04:37:21 PM
Post by: Constance on March 15, 2012, 04:37:21 PM
Quote from: Shantel on March 15, 2012, 04:24:05 PMWhich makes me all the more grateful for the support my church (congregation and clergy) have given and are giving to me.
It's always interesting to watch how some priests and preachers presume to know God's mindset so well that they have the nerve to speak and make lofty pronouncements and condemnations in God's behalf.
Bird, I can only imagine trying to face the struggles you have encountered and are still encountering. You are an inspiration to me.