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can my gender therapist really refuse to give me HRT if i only weigh 117 lbs and im 5'7. she keeps telling me she wants me to be atleast 130 lbs but i dont wanna weigh that much cause i wanna stay a size 0. wat should i do? and btw ive been seeing her for like 5 months

Probably, gain weight and/or find a new GT.

What does your weight have to do with HRT?  Maybe there would be a concern if you were obese but I've never heard of any doctor requiring one to gain weight as a prerequisite for starting HRT.

Being underweight is as big a problem as being overweight.  Size zero at 5' 7" is extremely skinny and I suspect your therapist is concerned that you are developing an eating disorder.  They possibly also fear that you are not getting enough crucial nutrients for HRT. Perhaps if you keep a food diary to show her you are eating properly, she may change her mind.

Quote from: Pippa on February 26, 2012, 04:54:42 AM
Being underweight is as big a problem as being underweight.  Size zero at 5' 7" is extremely skinny and I suspect your therapist is concerned that you are developing an eating disorder.  Perhaps if you keep a food diary to show her you are eating properly, she may change her mind.

like i eat alot of food but i just have a fast matabilism and she wont listen to me she keeps listening to my dad, mom tries to tell her that im eating a good portion of food and my dad just keeps trieing to make her think im starving myself and hes been trieing to convince her to not put me on HRT he even threatened to sue her if she gave me a letter to give to a doctor for the prescription

Quote from: Angelique1994 on February 26, 2012, 04:22:32 AM
can my gender therapist really refuse to give me HRT if i only weigh 117 lbs and im 5'7. she keeps telling me she wants me to be atleast 130 lbs but i dont wanna weigh that much cause i wanna stay a size 0. wat should i do? and btw ive been seeing her for like 5 months

Sorry, you ARE going to put on weight anyway, if you take HRT. That's the reality of it I'm afraid.

Quote from: Kitty_Babe on February 26, 2012, 05:14:38 AM
Sorry, you ARE going to put on weight anyway, if you take HRT. That's the reality of it I'm afraid.

if im gonna gain weight anyway after HRT then why does she want me to gain weight rite now? does she want me to be obese

Quote from: Angelique1994 on February 26, 2012, 05:18:32 AM
if im gonna gain weight anyway after HRT then why does she want me to gain weight rite now? does she want me to be obese

I'm 5'7 and weigh 130-135, it varies, and I'm far from obese..

Quote from: kelly_aus on February 26, 2012, 05:29:45 AM
I'm 5'7 and weigh 130-135, it varies, and I'm far from obese..

how much did u weigh before u started HRT? if u dont mind me asking cause i have a hour glass rite now and im afraid to lose it

The thing about hourglasses is, eventually more of the sand runs to the bottom :). If you think being over a size 0 is being obese, then maybe you do have an issue with weight.

Quote from: Padma on February 26, 2012, 05:37:54 AM
The thing about hourglasses is, eventually more of the sand runs to the bottom :). If you think being over a size 0 is being obese, then maybe you do have an issue with weight.

i wasnt sayin being over a size 0 is obese im saying  that i dont wanna go over a size 0 cause i like how my body looks at a size 0

Quote from: Angelique1994 on February 26, 2012, 05:30:54 AM
how much did u weigh before u started HRT? if u dont mind me asking cause i have a hour glass rite now and im afraid to lose it

I was about 130 when I started.. I haven't really gained, but it has moved around.. Some of the clothes I had when I started don't fit quite the same any more..

Quote from: Angelique1994 on February 26, 2012, 05:42:09 AM
i wasnt sayin being over a size 0 is obese im saying  that i dont wanna go over a size 0 cause i like how my body looks at a size 0

Sorry, I misunderstood, because you said

Quoteif im gonna gain weight anyway after HRT then why does she want me to gain weight rite now? does she want me to be obese

I can understand you wanting to stay the shape you are, if you're happy with it - but at the same time bodies do change as we get older, and once we're past our teens, it's going to round out anyway. So you may not be able to hang onto your current weight and shape healthily in the future.

Quote from: Padma on February 26, 2012, 05:47:54 AM
Sorry, I misunderstood, because you said

I can understand you wanting to stay the shape you are, if you're happy with it - but at the same time bodies do change as we get older, and once we're past our teens, it's going to round out anyway. So you may not be able to hang onto your current weight and shape healthily in the future.

its fine. i just hope that im married by the time my body starts gaining weight cause im afraid i wont find a guy that will date me after that

I think you'll find there are a reasonable percentage of men in this world who are attracted to women above a size 0 :). Fret not.

Quote from: Padma on February 26, 2012, 05:57:07 AM
I think you'll find there are a reasonable percentage of men in this world who are attracted to women above a size 0 :). Fret not.

Pretty much that.

I'm a size 1. Planning on putting more weight,  to a healthy range of course

Its ridiculous you think guys aren't interested in girls who aren't a size 0.
If I was a guy I'd like a girl who actually had something to grab.
Not to say that personality isn't important either.

I have been concerned with your projected image issues since your first post.

You want us to tell you how you look, then you want us to tell you HRT is ok if you are under weight. We're not doctors. At least, not YOUR doctor.

If LOOKS matter more than health for you, your shrink may be on to something.

If HRT will not help you with your particular obsession with image (look obsession up if you think I am being trite) you should deal with it before going on your journey.

Size 0 is not a size.

I share your height. I've also, shared Kelly's minimum weight. It was unhealthy on T.

Your shrink isn't going to send you to a doctor if they fear they will be blamed for your potential health catastrophe.

Shrinks like their jobs... they like helping people. They do not want to lose either.

Nor would I.

Aloha,
Tori

Quote from: Tori on February 26, 2012, 06:58:23 AM
I have been concerned with your projected image issues since your first post.

You want us to tell you how you look, then you want us to tell you HRT is ok if you are under weight. We're not doctors. At least, not YOUR doctor.

If LOOKS matter more than health for you, your shrink may be on to something.

If HRT will not help you with your particular obsession with image (look obsession up if you think I am being trite) you should deal with it before going on your journey.

Size 0 is not a size.

I share your height. I've also, shared Kelly's minimum weight. It was unhealthy on T.

Your shrink isn't going to send you to a doctor if they fear they will be blamed for your potential health catastrophe.

Shrinks like their jobs... they like helping people. They do not want to lose either.

Nor would I.

Aloha,
Tori

i dont want to get this thread deleted like my other one did so please dont get mad or offended to wat im saying cause nothing im saying is meant to offend anyone but wat bout all those models and victoria secret models that are size 0. like i wanna be like them and i wanna look like them, but ur accually rite i will admit that i am obsessed wit my face and body i wanna  look as perfect as i can. but  my ribs arnt showing yet so idk im guessing that im the perfect weight for my body. but my gender therapist also looks obese so  it kinda makes me mad that she can tell me to gain weight wen shes a hamberger away from obese

Exactly.

Obsession.

Shrinks know obsession better than they know GD.

And touché... for the indirect, "Needs to lose weight" comment. It was clever and thinly veiled.

Runway models are fantasy. Hormones won't fix fantasy.

Quote from: Tori on February 26, 2012, 07:20:09 AM
Exactly.

Obsession.

Shrinks know obsession better than they know GD.

And touché... for the indirect, "Needs to lose weight" comment. It was clever and thinly veiled.

Runway models are fantasy. Hormones won't fix fantasy.

im not wanting to take hormones to make me look like a model i wanna take hormones to get boobs and so later on in the furture i can get  SRS

SRS requires boobs?

She didn't say that, she said she wants hormones so that she can grow boobs, and so that she can eventually get SRS.