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This isn't a suicide note or anything, i'm just so depressed, feeling ugly, unloved, stupid and useless. I don't know what to do anymore, people gave a suggestion that "i should conquer the voice" and i have tried, but i've been losing...ah f...i feel like dying *sigh*, don't be too harsh on me, i know i'm here too often.

Not being harsh.

But can only repeat, it'll pass.

In the mean time, don't try to think of why it's happening. It happens. Other things happen. They aren't necessarily connected.

I don't think you're being too harsh or anything :).

My mother just said i have no waist and i'm fat, i really hate that btch sometimes.

I can understand that.

It's always difficult to live up to someone else's ideal

Get a waist cincher .. it works and will also reduce your appetite.. wear it for the first few hours as you go to bed and after you have 4 hours to let your food digest.. then in the middle of the night take it off.. over time it will definately change your hip to waist ratio... it will lock in your tummy..

as for voice you need time away from people you know and be able to practive constantly with either new people or even no people.. if you do it for long enough you will lose connection to your past voice.. use falseto until you lose your voice then when you get it back after a day or two you can start out at a higher range.. but you will have to change places because many times the same people around us will cause us to speak like we did before..

if you have to stay near family now do the wasit training first then later when you can move on do the voice..

oh get the 4 button / snap cincher which are real narrow so it fits between hip bones and lowest rib and it has to have strings to be able to tie it tighter over time..

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You will want one that allows you to be able to reduce it enough over time.. a little bit more every couple of days..

never wear it during the day or with food you have eaten which hasn't had at least 4 hors to digest or it can hurt you. You will also have to use a pillow under it as time goes by to support your thinner waist..   also if your heavy you will need to fast a few days to get rid of the bloackages in your intestines as many people have that who are more than having squeezable baby fat..

I'm not really fat, am i?????

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Quote from: DonnaTroy on March 11, 2012, 11:57:32 PM
I'm not really fat, am i?????

Not even close to being over weight, much less fat. I'd kill for a body like that :P

Quote from: Stephe on March 12, 2012, 01:10:41 AM
Not even close to being over weight, much less fat. I'd kill for a body like that :P

Same

Hi Donna.  You have a great figure, so don't worry about it.  Better than mine  ;)  I reckon you would look great in a Cheong Sam.

Karen.

Yo' mama's just jealous :).

Quote from: Padma on March 12, 2012, 10:04:25 AM
Yo' mama's just jealous :).

That seems clear.

I knew a mother of a particularly tubby teenage boy who thought he needed more weight.

Mothers Eh?

Quote from: Renee D on March 12, 2012, 10:01:38 AM
Yeah, my dad one time told me that I looked pregnant when I was trying on a dress that showed off my figure. Parents can be asses at times, just like many others.  Don't let it get to you and you aren't fat either.

I don't know your parents but seen too many bad ones that constantly tell their kids they are stupid, no good, will never amount to anything etc. The only thing I could ever figure is they were afraid their children, unlike themselves, might end up happy if they didn't constantly berate them.

Quote from: Padma on March 12, 2012, 10:04:25 AM
Yo' mama's just jealous :).

No waist? I see a waist. Hell, I had to wears men's suspenders under my top to hold up a couple of skirts of mine because I'm convex where I should be concave.

Parents can be a pain. My mom has told me she doesn't like my hair (she's been saying that for 30 years), my chose name, and she thinks my breastforms are too big. And, my dad & younger brother are racist & sexist bigots. They're nice to me, but I have a really tough time visiting family.

There are times when I feel I'm just waiting to die, that there's not much left for me. Trying to see the good in the middle of misery is not easy. But, try to hang in there.

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

Thank you all *hugs*.

Quote from: DonnaTroy on March 13, 2012, 02:56:13 AM
Thank you all *hugs*.

Hey i had no idea WOW

so please understand i was just trying to help :)