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Title: Did I send mixed signals?
Post by: Stephanie_b on March 25, 2012, 09:23:05 PM
Post by: Stephanie_b on March 25, 2012, 09:23:05 PM
Okay, so this is actually kind of weird to me.
I was at my sister's today and afterwards went out for supper with some friends of mine. Some friends that my friends hang out with also came along.
We all ordered drinks (with alcohol) and there was this woman that started talking with me.
All I did was be polite and smile, and some small talk. After dinner, I went to a grocery store nearby and she said there was stuff she was picking up there, so we said bye to everyone and went there in her car. We talked some more, and then she drove me home. After talking for probly another ten minutes in the car, she actually made a move on me!
I was like, OMG! I am really quite sure that I didn't flirt in any way, I was just friendly.
I hate it when women are attracted to me as a guy!
I was thinking that maybe it was a set up by someone at dinner, but I don't know.
Needless to say I didn't reciprocate and would like to avoid that sort of situation in the future. Should be easy since I will transition pretty soon.
Have any of you gone through frustrations like this? How did you deal with it?
I was at my sister's today and afterwards went out for supper with some friends of mine. Some friends that my friends hang out with also came along.
We all ordered drinks (with alcohol) and there was this woman that started talking with me.
All I did was be polite and smile, and some small talk. After dinner, I went to a grocery store nearby and she said there was stuff she was picking up there, so we said bye to everyone and went there in her car. We talked some more, and then she drove me home. After talking for probly another ten minutes in the car, she actually made a move on me!
I was like, OMG! I am really quite sure that I didn't flirt in any way, I was just friendly.
I hate it when women are attracted to me as a guy!
I was thinking that maybe it was a set up by someone at dinner, but I don't know.
Needless to say I didn't reciprocate and would like to avoid that sort of situation in the future. Should be easy since I will transition pretty soon.
Have any of you gone through frustrations like this? How did you deal with it?
Title: Re: Did I send mixed signals?
Post by: MacKenzie on March 25, 2012, 10:40:13 PM
Post by: MacKenzie on March 25, 2012, 10:40:13 PM
No can't say I have.
You must be a pretty hot guy for women to just make random moves on you. :laugh:
Title: Re: Did I send mixed signals?
Post by: nicole99 on March 26, 2012, 02:42:58 AM
Post by: nicole99 on March 26, 2012, 02:42:58 AM
I take it you don't like women sexually?
Someone found you attractive and made a move on you. That is pretty cool 8). I understand the whole thing about wanting people to be attracted to the 'real' you. But still, she obviously liked talking to you and thought you were a bit of alright. You are probably a really good attentive listener - women find that really attractive.
How to deal with it...well the easiest way I think is just to say you're flattered but you are not interested. It is the quickest gentlest way to do it.
You never know, after you transition you might get even more women hitting on you. I know I do.
Someone found you attractive and made a move on you. That is pretty cool 8). I understand the whole thing about wanting people to be attracted to the 'real' you. But still, she obviously liked talking to you and thought you were a bit of alright. You are probably a really good attentive listener - women find that really attractive.
How to deal with it...well the easiest way I think is just to say you're flattered but you are not interested. It is the quickest gentlest way to do it.
You never know, after you transition you might get even more women hitting on you. I know I do.
Title: Re: Did I send mixed signals?
Post by: Stephanie_b on March 26, 2012, 08:41:11 AM
Post by: Stephanie_b on March 26, 2012, 08:41:11 AM
Well, I'm actually used to some peopke thinking I'm a gay guy too, lol.
Maybe she thought I was a really nice guy?
I don't think I look THAT attractive as a guy but when I do my hair right and wear the right clothes, I get hit on from time to time.
I had no idea she was going to do that, it hit me by surprise. I just told her I'm sorry, I have been only separated for 6 months now and am not ready for anything more than being friends right now.
I didn't tell her that I'm trans and that I am going to live as a woman; didn't feel it was pertinent to do so.
Maybe she thought I was a really nice guy?
I don't think I look THAT attractive as a guy but when I do my hair right and wear the right clothes, I get hit on from time to time.
I had no idea she was going to do that, it hit me by surprise. I just told her I'm sorry, I have been only separated for 6 months now and am not ready for anything more than being friends right now.
I didn't tell her that I'm trans and that I am going to live as a woman; didn't feel it was pertinent to do so.
Title: Re: Did I send mixed signals?
Post by: Stephanie_b on March 26, 2012, 08:44:32 AM
Post by: Stephanie_b on March 26, 2012, 08:44:32 AM
Quote from: MacKenzie on March 25, 2012, 10:40:13 PM
No can't say I have.
You must be a pretty hot guy for women to just make random moves on you. :laugh:
Sometimes I look like a hot guy, but am never actually a guy. :P
Title: Re: Did I send mixed signals?
Post by: CybeleNV9751 on March 26, 2012, 11:54:42 PM
Post by: CybeleNV9751 on March 26, 2012, 11:54:42 PM
Is it possible that the woman was a lesbian, or bisexual, and thought that you were a hot looking female?