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Title: Mr Lysander Dufraine
Post by: Lysander DuFraine on April 17, 2012, 02:49:31 PM
Post by: Lysander DuFraine on April 17, 2012, 02:49:31 PM
Greetings,
My name is by birth Miss Neelofur khan But the name I chose for my self was Mr Lysander Dufrain I am 24 years of age and am a Female2male.
For me the thing that braught me here was curiousity a desire to learn and a need to find out how I can be all that I want to be.
Growing up was weird I guess because from a young age I always liked the idea of being a boy..which to most wouldn't seem that bad But growing up in a strict muslim house it was probably one of the worst things. I have known from a young age that dressing like a man, but as i grew up my dad drilled into me the punishment for being gay and cross dressing ect ect via religion and culture and also his own small minded opinion...so as a child it wasn't a option although i used to sit for hours imagining my hair being short and having a beard, silly at the time perhaps but as I got older so did the sense that i was only half a person.at 15 my father sent me to Dubai where put in an arranged marriage. I think for me thi is where the crises really began because of the fact i was forced to be a proper old fashioned lady and do the house work not dress like a man.. for years i had been a tomboy preferring trainers to shoes and now i i would wear high heels makeup and everything that felt almost alien to me.
Finally at 18 I returned to the u.k and this is when I began to dress more like a boy I would wear boxers and t-shirts and began shortening my hair but nothing to drastic or obvious as I was still with my father due to Islamic law i needed his help to get a divorce from my husband who was still within Dubai.
for me Last year brought the biggest change I finally got a part male haircut..I will upload a pic soon to show what I mean it's basically shaven on one side and short on the other..My ideal haircut being a 1940's style military haircut..but it will do for now ^_^.
I have made a friend with a male to female cross-dresser who has supported my decisions 100% and has the most fun tip's on hairstyles ect.
I guess for me now all i want is to make the steps to actually being a happy person.
for the first time in my life I can openly and proudly say that yes I cross-dress(god i hate that term-.-) And I dont care if I am judged because it makes me happy it helps me to feel complete as a person.
Feeling like half a person was the worst thing I had ever felt this constant feeling of being incomplete like i was only half a person it seems strange when there is no one to talk to it about, no -one who could actually understnd..as I child i thought i was a tomboy, and it is a term I can use happily for me it stand for what i am a girl that loves dressing like a man.
My name is by birth Miss Neelofur khan But the name I chose for my self was Mr Lysander Dufrain I am 24 years of age and am a Female2male.
For me the thing that braught me here was curiousity a desire to learn and a need to find out how I can be all that I want to be.
Growing up was weird I guess because from a young age I always liked the idea of being a boy..which to most wouldn't seem that bad But growing up in a strict muslim house it was probably one of the worst things. I have known from a young age that dressing like a man, but as i grew up my dad drilled into me the punishment for being gay and cross dressing ect ect via religion and culture and also his own small minded opinion...so as a child it wasn't a option although i used to sit for hours imagining my hair being short and having a beard, silly at the time perhaps but as I got older so did the sense that i was only half a person.at 15 my father sent me to Dubai where put in an arranged marriage. I think for me thi is where the crises really began because of the fact i was forced to be a proper old fashioned lady and do the house work not dress like a man.. for years i had been a tomboy preferring trainers to shoes and now i i would wear high heels makeup and everything that felt almost alien to me.
Finally at 18 I returned to the u.k and this is when I began to dress more like a boy I would wear boxers and t-shirts and began shortening my hair but nothing to drastic or obvious as I was still with my father due to Islamic law i needed his help to get a divorce from my husband who was still within Dubai.
for me Last year brought the biggest change I finally got a part male haircut..I will upload a pic soon to show what I mean it's basically shaven on one side and short on the other..My ideal haircut being a 1940's style military haircut..but it will do for now ^_^.
I have made a friend with a male to female cross-dresser who has supported my decisions 100% and has the most fun tip's on hairstyles ect.
I guess for me now all i want is to make the steps to actually being a happy person.
for the first time in my life I can openly and proudly say that yes I cross-dress(god i hate that term-.-) And I dont care if I am judged because it makes me happy it helps me to feel complete as a person.
Feeling like half a person was the worst thing I had ever felt this constant feeling of being incomplete like i was only half a person it seems strange when there is no one to talk to it about, no -one who could actually understnd..as I child i thought i was a tomboy, and it is a term I can use happily for me it stand for what i am a girl that loves dressing like a man.
Title: Re: Mr Lysander Dufraine
Post by: Jamie D on April 17, 2012, 03:13:35 PM
Post by: Jamie D on April 17, 2012, 03:13:35 PM
Hi Lysander, from Jamie in southern California.
I think you are very brave for escaping from an arranged marriage so that you could be your true self.
I think you are very brave for escaping from an arranged marriage so that you could be your true self.
Title: Re: Mr Lysander Dufraine
Post by: dalebert on April 17, 2012, 06:17:58 PM
Post by: dalebert on April 17, 2012, 06:17:58 PM
I like "Lysander" for a name. Just curious if anyone in particular inspired it.
Title: Re: Mr Lysander Dufraine
Post by: King Malachite on April 17, 2012, 06:50:01 PM
Post by: King Malachite on April 17, 2012, 06:50:01 PM
Hi welcome to Susans! :) You story inspires me and gives me hope to one day move out on my own to transition.
Title: Re: Mr Lysander Dufraine
Post by: V M on April 17, 2012, 08:51:14 PM
Post by: V M on April 17, 2012, 08:51:14 PM
Hi Lysander :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :)
Please be sure to review
Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's :)
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Hugs
V M
Title: Re: Mr Lysander Dufraine
Post by: Jamie D on April 18, 2012, 01:33:07 AM
Post by: Jamie D on April 18, 2012, 01:33:07 AM
Quote from: dalebert on April 17, 2012, 06:17:58 PM
I like "Lysander" for a name. Just curious if anyone in particular inspired it.
Lysander was a Spartan General, iirc
Title: Re: Mr Lysander Dufraine
Post by: Cindy on April 18, 2012, 02:52:42 AM
Post by: Cindy on April 18, 2012, 02:52:42 AM
Hi Lysander,
Welcome to the gang, and you are a great guy to get away from an arranged marriage and to face the future as the man you are. You will have lots of support here.
Lysander was also a character in A Midsummer Night's Dream
Cindy
Welcome to the gang, and you are a great guy to get away from an arranged marriage and to face the future as the man you are. You will have lots of support here.
Lysander was also a character in A Midsummer Night's Dream
Cindy
Title: Re: Mr Lysander Dufraine
Post by: kelly_aus on April 18, 2012, 02:58:26 AM
Post by: kelly_aus on April 18, 2012, 02:58:26 AM
Hi Lysander,
A warm Aussie welcome to you! As others have said, well done on having the strength to leave an arranged marriage..
Hugs,
Kelly
A warm Aussie welcome to you! As others have said, well done on having the strength to leave an arranged marriage..
Hugs,
Kelly
Title: Re: Mr Lysander Dufraine
Post by: Devlyn on April 18, 2012, 06:02:32 AM
Post by: Devlyn on April 18, 2012, 06:02:32 AM
Hi Lysander, welcome to Susans! I live near Boston. There are lots of crossdressers here, everyone identifies differently. See you around, hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Mr Lysander Dufraine
Post by: justmeinoz on April 18, 2012, 06:05:59 AM
Post by: justmeinoz on April 18, 2012, 06:05:59 AM
As the others have said, it's great you were able to escape from your previous situation and can now be who you were meant to be.
Welcome from another of the Aussie girls.
Karen.
Welcome from another of the Aussie girls.
Karen.
Title: Re: Mr Lysander Dufraine
Post by: dalebert on April 18, 2012, 08:30:14 AM
Post by: dalebert on April 18, 2012, 08:30:14 AM
Ah, so many more famous Lysanders! It bought to mind Lysander Spooner (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lysander_Spooner) for me.