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I don't know if I can explain this correctly - but, what I have noticed is, that people seem to 'respond' to me, even when I am dressed androgynously, seemingly, because I am acting in an outgoing and inclusive, manner.  Does that make sense?  I don't mean that one has to always 'be nice', but, I just find that, if I engage others, then they respond, in kind, to me - even when I feel that I 'look strange' (sorry to say the word strange, but I am still trying to accept the 'new me', myself!).  It helps me, to feel that way, because I feel that it helps me to find the 'middle ground', in society.  I hope this makes some sense - thanks for listening.  JinJan.

Open body language, projecting an air of friendliness, and generally treating people as you want to be treated yourself usually carries a lot more weight in your interactions with others than the way you look. Folks pick up far more on a subconscious level than you realise. Lots of subtle cues go into the way someone responds to you, both positively and negatively.

I'm not so sure its necessarily being accepted more, but most people will treat you more respectfully if you tend to be kind, polite and friendly.

people who look beyond my appearance tend to be friendly if they get to know who I am then they accept me as I am.

Since beginning transition, I've felt that I am a "nicer" person. Since I no longer have the stress of trying to "be a man" and I'm just being me, I feel "nicer" and more friendly.

I think that people are indeed picking up on this and are more accepting and more friendly to me as a result.

Do you feel more "you" when you present androgynously? If so, that could be affecting the way you carry yourself. As Sephirah mentioned, this will be noticeable in your body language. At least, that certainly seems to be the case for me.

Quote from: Connie Anne on April 26, 2012, 01:41:46 PM
Since beginning transition, I've felt that I am a "nicer" person. Since I no longer have the stress of trying to "be a man" and I'm just being me, I feel "nicer" and more friendly.

I think that people are indeed picking up on this and are more accepting and more friendly to me as a result.

Do you feel more "you" when you present androgynously? If so, that could be affecting the way you carry yourself. As Sephirah mentioned, this will be noticeable in your body language. At least, that certainly seems to be the case for me.

I agree with that assessment.  It is true for me, even on a low dose of E.  It was the abandonment of maledom, I think, that helped me mellow.

Quote from: Jamie D on April 27, 2012, 05:01:49 AM
I agree with that assessment.  It is true for me, even on a low dose of E.  It was the abandonment of maledom, I think, that helped me mellow.

Yes, "the abandonment of maledom" made a big difference. When I was out and about en femme even before starting HRT I felt better, happier, more content.

Quote from: Connie Anne on April 27, 2012, 10:59:57 AM
Yes, "the abandonment of maledom" made a big difference. When I was out and about en femme even before starting HRT I felt better, happier, more content.

It's only been a little while for me, but as I've given myself permission to act however I feel (as opposed to hewing to the deep voiced, emotionally restrained male I tried to imitate) it has made me more friendly and less inhibited.

I think for me, it was the giving myself permission that has made me a more friendly and open person.