Community Conversation => Significant Others talk => Topic started by: Nikki59s~Girl on May 12, 2012, 04:55:05 PM Return to Full Version
Title: On a good note I do kind of have good news!
Post by: Nikki59s~Girl on May 12, 2012, 04:55:05 PM
Post by: Nikki59s~Girl on May 12, 2012, 04:55:05 PM
Hello again! I just wanted to share something that I thought was awesome! Since I was a victim of a crime I have a case worker who helps set up appointments with counselors and gives me different re souraces for anything if need be. Anyways I get new case workers all the time so I recently got a new one who is amazing. She came over and we talked maybe for about an hour about my wife Nikki as I told her right off the bat my wife is transgendered. She was very respectful and said she has a friend who is actually a ftm that she is very close with. She asked me if she ever met Nikki what would she rather go by? My case worker also gave me some links to a transgendered community center which has support groups and everything. I would totally like to go and get more involved and learn more. I told Nikki about this and I told her it would be neat to meet more friends who are transgendered so she could have people relate to. Unfortunately Nikki wants nothing to do with support groups and I wouldn't want to go alone so I guess I'm sol...
Title: Re: On a good note I do kind of have good news!
Post by: Jamiep on May 13, 2012, 12:55:58 AM
Post by: Jamiep on May 13, 2012, 12:55:58 AM
Hi Nikki59s~Girl,
You have your interests and needs for your own support an should not worry about going alone to a session. Nikki could be making a mistake in not being in a support group & if she doesn't, she doesn't speak for you, you do.
Wonderful your "amazing" case worker cared enough about you and provided links to support groups. Do the right thing for you.
Believe
Jamie
You have your interests and needs for your own support an should not worry about going alone to a session. Nikki could be making a mistake in not being in a support group & if she doesn't, she doesn't speak for you, you do.
Wonderful your "amazing" case worker cared enough about you and provided links to support groups. Do the right thing for you.
Believe
Jamie
Title: Re: On a good note I do kind of have good news!
Post by: GypsySoul on May 14, 2012, 08:17:12 AM
Post by: GypsySoul on May 14, 2012, 08:17:12 AM
I agree with JamieP. Although you are with her through her transition and you are doing this together it is still quite a separate journey. The further she gets into her transition the more support you will both need. It may not come from the same place for both of you. While Nikki may not be interested in support groups they may be quite helpful for you individually. Trust me (i am only about 5 months into this with my spouse) having someone outside of the relationship and family is an extremely helpful thing. I guess what I mean is don't write off the benefits of a support group just because Nikki isn't interested.