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Title: Never been good at these things... but salutations nonetheless.
Post by: Orenildur on June 01, 2012, 11:32:16 PM
Post by: Orenildur on June 01, 2012, 11:32:16 PM
I'm terrible at forum introductions, I never know what to say about myself.
The hard part about this one is that... I think I'm F to M. But I don't know anyone who could back me up on that... so I've been reluctant to join one of these boards. Afraid that someone would see me and -like everywhere else- say "this one doesn't belong with us". I mean, I'm fairly sure I'm right this time, I've read what I can find on it. It makes sense, more sense than thinking I'm crazy anyway. I just kinda... feel it, in my bones; I'm right this time. It explains so much of the -up till now- "strange" things I've felt or thought about.
When I thought about it for the first time, when I first started reading about it, I felt a sense of peace I hadn't felt in ages. And then I thought "now what?" This is a whole new side of my identity and I just don't know what to do with it...
I've come out to my Dad about it, he seemed confused, but supportive. Though he doesn't bring it up or mention it, like ever. Though a few weeks ago he jokingly called me "The good son" while talking to my brother, that felt nice. A little *wink, nod, wink* "I see what you did there" moment. He asked if he could post about it on the message board he frequents, though I don't think he has yet. He said he was proud of me no matter what, though he still calls me by my birth name, but I expected that since I'm named after his mom.
I have an awesome, supportive Girlfriend too; she's my best friend, we started "dating" when we figured out I was Trans. She was actually the one to suggest I might be, said I'd always come off as a guy to her. Funny, most of my friends said that. Guess they were right.
I don't know about SRS... that's for another time... when I've got money put aside to explore that option. But I think I'd like to live publicly as a guy... I just don't know how to go about doing that. I read about getting my sex legally changed, but i'm not 100% on what that means, or how to do it, probably get my name changed too. These things will have to wait till I find a job though; I'm sure you need money for stuff like this.
But I wanted to find a forum like this so I could start learning, and find answers to these questions.
So, salutations; I'm here to learn.
And you can call me Jack.
The hard part about this one is that... I think I'm F to M. But I don't know anyone who could back me up on that... so I've been reluctant to join one of these boards. Afraid that someone would see me and -like everywhere else- say "this one doesn't belong with us". I mean, I'm fairly sure I'm right this time, I've read what I can find on it. It makes sense, more sense than thinking I'm crazy anyway. I just kinda... feel it, in my bones; I'm right this time. It explains so much of the -up till now- "strange" things I've felt or thought about.
When I thought about it for the first time, when I first started reading about it, I felt a sense of peace I hadn't felt in ages. And then I thought "now what?" This is a whole new side of my identity and I just don't know what to do with it...
I've come out to my Dad about it, he seemed confused, but supportive. Though he doesn't bring it up or mention it, like ever. Though a few weeks ago he jokingly called me "The good son" while talking to my brother, that felt nice. A little *wink, nod, wink* "I see what you did there" moment. He asked if he could post about it on the message board he frequents, though I don't think he has yet. He said he was proud of me no matter what, though he still calls me by my birth name, but I expected that since I'm named after his mom.
I have an awesome, supportive Girlfriend too; she's my best friend, we started "dating" when we figured out I was Trans. She was actually the one to suggest I might be, said I'd always come off as a guy to her. Funny, most of my friends said that. Guess they were right.
I don't know about SRS... that's for another time... when I've got money put aside to explore that option. But I think I'd like to live publicly as a guy... I just don't know how to go about doing that. I read about getting my sex legally changed, but i'm not 100% on what that means, or how to do it, probably get my name changed too. These things will have to wait till I find a job though; I'm sure you need money for stuff like this.
But I wanted to find a forum like this so I could start learning, and find answers to these questions.
So, salutations; I'm here to learn.
And you can call me Jack.
Title: Re: Never been good at these things... but salutations nonetheless.
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on June 01, 2012, 11:38:50 PM
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on June 01, 2012, 11:38:50 PM
Hi Jack, :icon_wave:
(Dang, just scared the hell out of the TSA)
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(Dang, just scared the hell out of the TSA)
Welcome to our little family. Over 7105 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
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But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another brother. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-3.gif&hash=f49e2f86761323f2abd9c33941920389dbb3b10f)
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Title: Re: Never been good at these things... but salutations nonetheless.
Post by: Devlyn on June 02, 2012, 07:22:32 AM
Post by: Devlyn on June 02, 2012, 07:22:32 AM
<bandana over face> HiJack! Oh, I love that! Welcome to Susans, Jack, leave your doubts at the door. Everyone is welcome here, there are no tests to pass. We just expect you to be yourself. See you around, hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Never been good at these things... but salutations nonetheless.
Post by: justmeinoz on June 02, 2012, 07:33:58 AM
Post by: justmeinoz on June 02, 2012, 07:33:58 AM
Hello and welcome aboard. It sounds like you are a perfect candidate for this scurvy crew!
It's human to have doubts and second thoughts.
It took me over 50 years to untangle sexuality and gender. I finally know for sure now that I am a woman, and 100% lesbian, but I have been tossing the idea of SRS vs Orchi vs Non-op around for the past couple of years and am still not a lot closer to a final decision. Nothing is going to happen for a while anyway, so I try not to be too stressed about it. Things tend to happen when they are ready to.
You will meet a lot of guys here who will become your best mates in time, so post away.
Karen.
It's human to have doubts and second thoughts.
It took me over 50 years to untangle sexuality and gender. I finally know for sure now that I am a woman, and 100% lesbian, but I have been tossing the idea of SRS vs Orchi vs Non-op around for the past couple of years and am still not a lot closer to a final decision. Nothing is going to happen for a while anyway, so I try not to be too stressed about it. Things tend to happen when they are ready to.
You will meet a lot of guys here who will become your best mates in time, so post away.
Karen.
Title: Re: Never been good at these things... but salutations nonetheless.
Post by: Brooke777 on June 02, 2012, 11:52:19 AM
Post by: Brooke777 on June 02, 2012, 11:52:19 AM
Glad to meet you Jack. Everyone is welcome here. It does not matter if you are trans or not. You are a person, and are welcome.
Title: Re: Never been good at these things... but salutations nonetheless.
Post by: Felix on June 02, 2012, 06:59:34 PM
Post by: Felix on June 02, 2012, 06:59:34 PM
Welcome to Susan's, Jack! Great name. This is a good place to figure yourself out. It's okay to change, evolve, experiment, whatever.
Title: Re: Never been good at these things... but salutations nonetheless.
Post by: Orenildur on June 03, 2012, 01:11:19 AM
Post by: Orenildur on June 03, 2012, 01:11:19 AM
Thanks for all the kind words guys ^_^
I'd love to stick around and chat, but my girlfriend is here and we're about to settle in to Pride and Prejudice with some libations courtesy of The Captain ;)
See y'all around.
~J
I'd love to stick around and chat, but my girlfriend is here and we're about to settle in to Pride and Prejudice with some libations courtesy of The Captain ;)
See y'all around.
~J
Title: Re: Never been good at these things... but salutations nonetheless.
Post by: Jamie D on June 03, 2012, 01:30:31 AM
Post by: Jamie D on June 03, 2012, 01:30:31 AM
Jack, I don't want to keep you from your main squeeze, but welcome from southern California.
Title: Re: Never been good at these things... but salutations nonetheless.
Post by: gennee on June 05, 2012, 02:52:58 PM
Post by: gennee on June 05, 2012, 02:52:58 PM
Hi Jack and welcome.
Title: Re: Never been good at these things... but salutations nonetheless.
Post by: Justin 21 on June 05, 2012, 04:20:11 PM
Post by: Justin 21 on June 05, 2012, 04:20:11 PM
g'day man. good luck :)