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Title: Orientation realization?
Post by: PrincessKnight on June 04, 2012, 11:01:31 PM
Post by: PrincessKnight on June 04, 2012, 11:01:31 PM
So for about a year now, I've considered myself gay, because I like guys but don't really want to have sex with a girls. But now I'm not so sure...
See, I'm usually not all that interested in sex with a girl. When watching videos or looking at pictures, it's easy to imagine myself as the girl who's with the guy- I never want to be the guy. But if there is no guy, just two girls, that's actually rather appealing. If I had a female body, I don't think I'd have a real problem being with a girl. So I guess I'm more bi than gay.
Has anyone else had thoughts like this? Like, I don't like girls- oh wait, yes I do, just not in this body?
See, I'm usually not all that interested in sex with a girl. When watching videos or looking at pictures, it's easy to imagine myself as the girl who's with the guy- I never want to be the guy. But if there is no guy, just two girls, that's actually rather appealing. If I had a female body, I don't think I'd have a real problem being with a girl. So I guess I'm more bi than gay.
Has anyone else had thoughts like this? Like, I don't like girls- oh wait, yes I do, just not in this body?
Title: Re: Orientation realization?
Post by: Edge on June 05, 2012, 04:40:00 PM
Post by: Edge on June 05, 2012, 04:40:00 PM
Yes, I've had thoughts like that. I've also noticed that my interest in girls has increased.
Title: Re: Orientation realization?
Post by: CryssL on June 05, 2012, 05:14:51 PM
Post by: CryssL on June 05, 2012, 05:14:51 PM
Ya... except the opposite. It's like for me, until I transition further, I don't wanna be with a guy just yet... but I certainly don't wanna be with a girl either. I see myself having a relationship with a guy, not a girl... but I'd have sex with a girl until SRS. But then that's a contradiction in itself because I don't believe in one night stands or friends-with-benefits. All in all, for the time being, it's complicated.
Title: Re: Orientation realization?
Post by: SourCandy on June 05, 2012, 05:39:22 PM
Post by: SourCandy on June 05, 2012, 05:39:22 PM
I'd like to theorize that when you start seriously considering something as life changing as transition that you naturally kind of shift your thoughts (with or without noticing), which causes a reevaluation of your preferences in partners. It's not a simple or obvious switch but it's more like your mind is given an opportunity to consider things from a new current and potential future prospective.
Maybe it's as simple as how you view yourself kind of changing, you now viewing your relationships more (or almost entirely) through a real or imagined female "frame"
Maybe it's as simple as how you view yourself kind of changing, you now viewing your relationships more (or almost entirely) through a real or imagined female "frame"
Title: Re: Orientation realization?
Post by: ~RoadToTrista~ on June 05, 2012, 05:40:14 PM
Post by: ~RoadToTrista~ on June 05, 2012, 05:40:14 PM
Nope, I know exactly what I like and it doesn't matter what gender I'm presenting as. Heteroflexibility ftw.