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They're about 5-6 yr old boys and don't speak english. Any suggestion? They're kind of becoming aggressive too :-/ 

Stare back.  Or just stick your tongue out at them.

Stare back, wave and smile, flip them off, stare angrily and then charge at them.

Just give them a blank stare. It will probably scare the crap out of them.

Quote from Andy "charge at them" I like that. Is that you in the avatar? If it is, they're just looking a your hair. I'm slightly over the age of five, so I don't stare, I walk over to people with blue, green, purple or bright red hair and tell them I like it. Next time, point at your hair and smile, see what happens. Hugs, Devlyn

Hi Gerard, love the hair. (Actually I'm digging the recent brown more.)  :D
If kids are staring, I usually wave back and make silly faces at them, which usually gets a laugh but if they're being rude, just stare back. They'll probably look away and then start looking again when they think you look away, just stare back a couple times and it'll probably end. Kids have less of a "polite" filter, which is why you get staring and comments like "You have really big boobs/butt/fat!"

No matter what you do kids are going to stare. When I go to pick up my son from daycare I have this liitle girl always come up to me the same every time Girl: You look like a boy... Me: Yeah Girl: but your a girl? Me: Kinda Girl: But you look like a boy? I am sure you get the picture it happens all the time though. I also had a little kid walk up too me on the bus get really close and then ask Are you a Boy?   Note: I live my life as a guy everywhere but my sons daycare where I let them just keep guessing since I know the owner

As long as you don't pass, it's more likely that people will stare at you - especially children, because they're more likely not to "mind their manners".
I'm not sure you can do much to prevent this if that's the reason they are staring at you.

Quote from: partypoison on June 10, 2012, 07:55:10 PM
They're about 5-6 yr old boys and don't speak english. Any suggestion? They're kind of becoming aggressive too :-/

Make loud noises/scare them.

I flip them off, double points if you do it in front of their parents. I've only ever had one parent go off their chops at me for it, and they STFU once i pointed out the rude little c*nt they raised. >_>

Smile your prettiest smile and go about your business. I've had a grown man do a quintuple-take (you know a double take? he did that five flippin' times) because of my hair once, haha, not only kids stare and act weirdly.

Stare back until they look away out of awkwardness. Some kids don't find it awkward, so just say "what?" and look pissed. This usually intimidates them and they stop.

 I think kids just stare. I try not to think about it too much... unsuccessfully at times.

Stare back with a blank face. Then jump at em' if they keep staring back lol.

Happens to me a lot because most of the kids where I live have never seen a white person in real life =/

Quote from: conformer on June 11, 2012, 09:34:16 AM
Stare back with a blank face. Then jump at em' if they keep staring back lol.

You should just talk to them in your android from Alien movie voice. That'll scare 'em off! ;)

Quote from: dalebert on June 11, 2012, 03:13:18 PM
You should just talk to them in your android from Alien movie voice. That'll scare 'em off! ;)

Damn you! xD

What does aggressive mean? What is the context?

I used to get this in bathrooms (when I still used the women's regularly). I just ignore them, my brother is 8 so I know how kids can be. They see things pretty black and white, so (as far as the bathroom goes) when they are in a women's restroom and see someone who might be perceived as male they just get confused and are trying to make sense of you.  Nowadays kids just see me as male, mostly probably an adolescent boy. My brother doesn't know about me yet, we want to tell him after he's done with school especially cause he'll be going to a new school next year. I felt bad (and amused) because I escorted him to a birthday party last week and all his friends thought he was BS'ing them by telling them I was his sister-they insisted I was a boy, hahaha.

Start acting like a dinosaur and declare the area you are in is Sparta.

Ugh. I hate that. I always get nasty looks and comments by my neighbors kids, and randoms kids as well. Especially when I'm driving.
I just try to tell myself to ignore them.  Going to the heart of it by confronting their parents only led to more problems. :/
Kids in their puberty phase are always the worst, most of the time they are only trying to make sense of you and the world, I guess.

Thanks everyone who commented! I won't have to deal with the kids anymore - they just moved out! But many thanks to you since I learned how to prepare myself in case :)

  Carbon@ It felt like I was getting bullied or something. They didn't just stare to make sense out of me. On top of the usual throwing things/ making lousy sounds at me, the older one tried to trip me over his feet-was unsuccessful of course, but it was an wakeup call that I should've done something about that then keep ignoring - once they approached me and deliberately started jumping on both sides just to get me off of the couch. Just plain rude.

  Geek@ I would do it if I could. Their mom's also a total obnoxious bitch she ate manners with her ass.

  Bradán@ I'm sorry you get nasty looks and comments. Hope things get better for you.

  Travis@ JasonRX @ I agree.

  Devlyn Marie@ It's not me in the pic!  thank you *hugs back*

  Frank @ hi Frank, thanks! I like how your hair's getting longer again ;) and thanks for your awesome advice on kids!

  PixieBoy@ Ms. OBrien@ Brooke777@ haha I'll try that next time. If kids stare just out of curiosity.

  Nygeel@ I did something like that. It was good for a while but didn't completely get them off.

  Poptart@ Thank you! I think this will work with nasty boys like those.

  Conformer@ Dalebert@ A.T@ I don't know I could scary enough for kids but good point.

  Andy8715@ LOL can't wait to try that when I get a chance

  Kelly J. P.@ that's what I was doing.. in this case it didn't do any good.

  BMXJake@ agreed. Sometimes it's scary how gender thing is so embedded even for fairly young kids. Thant's cool that you're passing very well with kids. I hope coming out to your brother goes smoothly next year :)

 
 

 

 
 

Actually I found out the other day that I might be passing with little kids. In no way do I at all look enough like a guy. I think at a young enough age, they sort of accept the short haircut, guy clothes, etc.= guy. I've heard a lot about kids asking "are you a boy or a girl"? If you experience that, they just want to know. Perhaps they are just mixed up about it.

At a certain age though perhaps the little censors come out and they would be worse about it than adults who tend to look away when  they dislike/don't understand something. I'd guess it to be around age 12 or so. They can be VERY obnoxious at a certain age.

I totally understand the feeling of being sort of "reverse bullied". There were a couple kids in the middle school I teach in who were standing around making inappropriate comments. I didn't know them but I went to the trouble of finding out who they were and stopping them.
In triggered in me the feeling of being bullied as a child.

--Jay Jay

Being in a wheelchair, I've dealt with this problem my whole life. When I was young, my Mother used to snap at them, but that was just MORE embarrassing. The more respectful ones ask questions ("Are you a robot?") and I politely answer ("Yes"). Otherwise, I just ignore them. Being stared at by kids is the only thing about transitioning that will be standard fair for me! Who cares what a 10-year-old thinks anyway?

My partner and I are the only foreigners in my neighborhood, so we get stared at a lot. I look more foreign then him though, so I get eyeballed by pretty much everyone. Kids, adults, teenagers, old guys, everyone. I have had kids ask their parents a variety of questions and their parents always look mortified when they realize I understand. ("Why does that man have white hair? Why does that man have things in his face? Why does that man look so funny?") Two elementary school girls stopped me when I was walking down the street to ask me why I looked so funny and if I was really old because my hair is so light.

Kids are kids. If they are that young, I doubt they can cause any harm. Just ignore them. If they are staring at you all the time, they are just brats. Like Emma said, who cares what kids think?

I care what kids think, guess who will run the country when you're old.

Quote from: LordKAT on June 27, 2012, 11:12:32 PM
I care what kids think, guess who will run the country when you're old.

We're in deep trouble.

--Jay Jay

a lot of it has to do with parenting and hopefully there will be more open mind people in the future. Part of why my son doesn't stare is because he was raised around all kinds of people gay, straight, drag queens, trans, ect.... but only time will tell but i have hope to the future, seeing my son and some of my friends kids give me that.