Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi, I am brand new here. I Have a family. A grown daughter, a daughter in college and a son in high school. Last fall I put on makeup for the first time and thought I was a crossdresser. I got on a crossdresser forum and fairly quickly was kind of, "Uh oh, this is not me," and again "Uh oh. I think I would really like to be a girl." I was swept away by waves of beautiful wistful emotions. The thought that I was transgender seemed to explain alot. I had told my wife I was CD- almost no reaction. And then that I was transgender. Almost no reaction. I have spoken to my younger daughter. She says she loves me and wants me to be happy, and that of course it would be weird. I am in counseling. I obviously have raging gender identity issues. My question to my consellor is "Does my life suck because I want to be a woman or do I think I want to be a woman because my life sucks?" She feels my GID is real and says she would be surprised if I don't transition. Which I would love to do. I have some reservations.  But as you all know, it is very compelling everyday to be surrounded by these other women and want to be like them. Also, this is a very new development in my life. Looking back, many things make sense now, or seem to. I won't rush into anything this serious. I want to see how I feel in another year. But come on, if it feels like this or even stronger down the road, it will be very hard to resist. I am very much at peace with it and am prepared for the consequences and inevitable losses. Time will tell. And I am pretty sure half measures would never be enough. Anyway, hi from Gina.

And WHAT does the 'home-councillor' (spouse) NOT say?

Have you ANY idea?

It seems strange to have 'no' reaction – it sure is waiting to surface, more sooner then later. And THEN what will happen? Will happen with you?

A spouse, not "getting with the program..." is one big issue as you well might know. And it is VERY understandable for a spouse feeling that way.
Plenty being said about just that around here ... of late.

Just my 2 cents for now,
Axélle
PS: Gosh dear, AND WELCOME TO Susan's!!!

Hi there, Gina, and welcome from southern California.  Me or another mod will be back shortly with a links to some of the site rules, which we post for all of our new members.

The moderators have little blue squares beneath our names.  Feel free to ask us any questions.

Enjoy browsing the site and do join in the discussion.

Welcome from Australia

Hi Gina,

Here is a list and link to the rules etc


Hi, and welcome to Susan's! We have people come to visit us from all over the world, expressing different points of view, and you are likely to find someone to help you along your way   

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Our mission is to be a support site for gender dysmorphic people of any situation, so feel at home and feel comfortable. You are now family.

You seem to have started out of the right for by getting counselling, but it isn't an easy road for any of us.  But I have to admit I have never been happier in my life until I came out and started living as me. However as Axelle mentioned there are very few couples who survive this transition. There are several on this site who have kept their relationship working and It might be worthwhile suggesting that your wife looks at the SO section. If she in interested.

Anyhow welcome and ask the questions join in the topics and meed lots of new friends

Hugs

Cindy, in Australia as well.

Cindy, I'm going to start calling you "Johnny"

Johnny on the spot!

Just 'Psychic Cindy'

Hi Gina,
Another big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. As Cindy said, you've started out on the right track with a counselor. Such a labyrinth of emotions and feelings to navigate, you need a strong support group to help you along the way.

Have a look around and you find a mountain of resources to keep you occupied. Hope you enjoy your stay with us and it is long. Keep in touch and let us know how you are coping, but in the meantime, be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

Hi Gina, :icon_wave:

Welcome to our little family. Over 7249 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

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Hi Gina, it's nice to meet you! This is a great place to hang out and make new friends. There are a few bad apples, but we're easy to spot, they put blue boxes under our names! See you around! Hugs, Devlyn from Boston

Hi Gina!  I also am just starting the trip ... I have the advantage of having know for some time, but my excuses officially ran out a few months ago... there's a bunch of us new girls here, so grab a bean bag and some popcorn, it's gonna be an awesome ride!