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How am I not insane? I mean, I'm essentially a man that hates being called a man, would prefer to be called a girl, and wants to dress in women's clothes. A transguy I'm friends with on another forum was telling me about puberty as a girl, and I couldn't help but envy him. He mentioned that he had recently started his period, and I found myself jealous. I might hear girls making jokes about their tampons, and I feel like I should be able to relate; I can't help but wish that I knew what it's like to use them, or to be penetrated during sex, like a real girl. How can anyone read that without thinking that I'm just sick?

How do you consider a guy sane, when he wants to shove a tampon up his vagina?

Some people try to equate LGBT people with pedophiles, and how do I know they're wrong? People will try to console and comfort each other, saying that it's okay, there's nothing wrong with you, you can't help feeling this way... wouldn't pedophiles say the same things? They don't think they're hurting people, do they? And neither do we- so what's the difference between us?

So how can I say that I'm not just insane? Why should I bother- why not just throw myself in a mental hospital for the rest of my life?

If I were sane, I'd be able to look at myself in the mirror without covering my face, I'd be able to shower without trying to ignore my genitals. I wouldn't be jealous of girls for their bodies, their lack of erections when aroused, or their ability to menstruate- even real girls don't want that, so why would I? Unless I'm just completely insane?

I;m disgusted by my body for being so male, and I'm disgusted by my mind for not being male. What else is there?

Well, we're definitely not like pedophiles...pedophiles screw up people's lives. Break kids' trust and foundations for certain things because they took advantage of a vulnerable situation. No one is ever that traumatized by a loved one transitioning.

The way I see it, we can't know why we feel like this...I don't really understand why. But I don't care why. It happens to enough of us, it's real enough to severely impact our lives until we choose to transition. So. That's good enough for me.

Quote from: PrincessKnight on July 01, 2012, 11:16:46 PM
Some people try to equate LGBT people with pedophiles, and how do I know they're wrong?

Because they are crazy, transphobic, stupid nut jobs.

Quote from: PrincessKnight on July 01, 2012, 11:16:46 PMPeople will try to console and comfort each other, saying that it's okay, there's nothing wrong with you, you can't help feeling this way... wouldn't pedophiles say the same things? They don't think they're hurting people, do they? And neither do we- so what's the difference between us?

People are generally disgusted by pedophiles because they actually hurt people. Hurting people is a choice. No one (other than perhaps a pedophile and even most of them know it's disgusting) is going to console and comfort them and for good reason.
The difference is that being trans* doesn't hurt anyone. I would highly recommend not making that comparison in the future as it is insulting not only to yourself, but to other trans* people and people who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse as well.

Quote from: PrincessKnight on July 01, 2012, 11:16:46 PMWhy should I bother- why not just throw myself in a mental hospital for the rest of my life?

Because you would be ruining your life for no good reason, because most hospitals need those beds, and because they probably wouldn't let you stay for the rest of your life. You may want to see someone about the depression though.

I agreee with Edge.

Quote from: PrincessKnight on July 01, 2012, 11:16:46 PM
How am I not insane? I mean, I'm essentially a man that hates being called a man, would prefer to be called a girl, and wants to dress in women's clothes. A transguy I'm friends with on another forum was telling me about puberty as a girl, and I couldn't help but envy him. He mentioned that he had recently started his period, and I found myself jealous. I might hear girls making jokes about their tampons, and I feel like I should be able to relate; I can't help but wish that I knew what it's like to use them, or to be penetrated during sex, like a real girl. How can anyone read that without thinking that I'm just sick?

How do you consider a guy sane, when he wants to shove a tampon up his vagina?

This also describes me. So if your insane than I guess I am also.

Girls get aroused.

What is stopping you going to see a therapist with experince of gender issues?

Or just starting transition by yourself by going to a TV night at a local TV friendly bar?

Bigoted transphobic folks tend to try to rope us in with everyone they don't like in an attempt to sway public opinion into believing that all them queer folks are going to bother their children

We know this is not true and no, we are not pedophiles and we are not insane

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