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Title: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: Alyx. on July 11, 2012, 04:12:04 AM
Post by: Alyx. on July 11, 2012, 04:12:04 AM
Its something I'm curious about.
I tend to do it too, I'm 20 years old so I'm a young woman. I think its probably because it sounds more lighthearted and playful and young. I don't want to think of myself as some stodgy old woman, whenever I say I'm a woman I picture some tough as nails b**** from some cop show! :P
I tend to do it too, I'm 20 years old so I'm a young woman. I think its probably because it sounds more lighthearted and playful and young. I don't want to think of myself as some stodgy old woman, whenever I say I'm a woman I picture some tough as nails b**** from some cop show! :P
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: Cindy on July 11, 2012, 04:37:37 AM
Post by: Cindy on July 11, 2012, 04:37:37 AM
I think this is just colloquial language,
Walk into a room and say: Hi boys or Hi girls or Hi guys compared to Hi men or Hi women or Hi people.
Just rolls of the tongue easier for me at least.
Cindy
Walk into a room and say: Hi boys or Hi girls or Hi guys compared to Hi men or Hi women or Hi people.
Just rolls of the tongue easier for me at least.
Cindy
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: V M on July 11, 2012, 04:38:36 AM
Post by: V M on July 11, 2012, 04:38:36 AM
LOL... "you people?" :laugh:
Girls, gals, Ladies, women and several other Synonyms are used to describe females :)
Cis. women use the same terms
It's just some terms are more appropriate than others at various times
Girls, gals, Ladies, women and several other Synonyms are used to describe females :)
Cis. women use the same terms
It's just some terms are more appropriate than others at various times
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: Padma on July 11, 2012, 04:44:27 AM
Post by: Padma on July 11, 2012, 04:44:27 AM
Some do, some don't - I'm a "don't" :).
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: AbraCadabra on July 11, 2012, 04:55:09 AM
Post by: AbraCadabra on July 11, 2012, 04:55:09 AM
I think being called an 'old GIRL' still sounds better tan being called an 'old WOMAN' yes? :)
Well, - it does to me.
Axélle
Well, - it does to me.
Axélle
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: Carlita on July 11, 2012, 07:13:53 AM
Post by: Carlita on July 11, 2012, 07:13:53 AM
Quote from: Axélle on July 11, 2012, 04:55:09 AM
I think being called an 'old GIRL' still sounds better tan being called an 'old WOMAN' yes? :)
Well, - it does to me.
Axélle
And MUCH better than 'old bat'! :)
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: crazy old bat on July 11, 2012, 07:35:07 AM
Post by: crazy old bat on July 11, 2012, 07:35:07 AM
Quote from: Carlita on July 11, 2012, 07:13:53 AMThere's nothing wrong with "old bat."
And MUCH better than 'old bat'! :)
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: eli77 on July 11, 2012, 08:23:12 AM
Post by: eli77 on July 11, 2012, 08:23:12 AM
Because I want to avoid any claim to adulthood as long as possible.
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: AbraCadabra on July 11, 2012, 08:53:10 AM
Post by: AbraCadabra on July 11, 2012, 08:53:10 AM
Quote from: Jaime on July 11, 2012, 07:35:07 AM
There's nothing wrong with "old bat."
How about 'fruit-bat' then, ::) A cut above 'old bat' , eish!
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: crazy old bat on July 11, 2012, 09:26:05 AM
Post by: crazy old bat on July 11, 2012, 09:26:05 AM
Quote from: Axélle on July 11, 2012, 08:53:10 AMMy username is "crazy old bat." And "fruit bat" brings to mind an old gay person, lol. Kind of like a friend of mine. Maybe next time he makes me mad on purpose, I should call him that.
How about 'fruit-bat' then, ::) A cut above 'old bat' , eish!
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: Miharu Barbie on July 11, 2012, 09:32:57 AM
Post by: Miharu Barbie on July 11, 2012, 09:32:57 AM
I have a lot of reasons for referring to myself as a "girl". I play competitive pool, and most of the people I spend time with in the pool halls are tough-as-nails men. I've noticed that the female pool players who take offense to being called girls tend to be looked upon as hard-asses. (Point of fact, a lot of them are hard-asses.) The men became much more playful, friendly and generally helpful with me once it was established that I actually like being called a girl, and that I'm not easily offended. I guess it's sort of a social perception thing, at least in the circles that I circulate in.
The other thing for me is that I missed out on a lot of the fun, challenge and self discovery aspects of young girlhood as I grappled with gender dysphoria in my teens and 20's. As far as I'm concerned, I'm in my second childhood. By my calculation, I transitioned 14 years ago, which means that right about now I'm in my second adolescence... and I guess I sort of act appropriately... hence the pink and blue hair, body piercings, tattoos, high heels, dramatic makeup, etc. My partner has the patience of a saint as she puts up with my adolescent behavior at times. (She's 11 years older than me.) My boss should be so patient... still, that's what I get for working for the Catholic Church.
Dudette! I'm always going to be a girl.
The other thing for me is that I missed out on a lot of the fun, challenge and self discovery aspects of young girlhood as I grappled with gender dysphoria in my teens and 20's. As far as I'm concerned, I'm in my second childhood. By my calculation, I transitioned 14 years ago, which means that right about now I'm in my second adolescence... and I guess I sort of act appropriately... hence the pink and blue hair, body piercings, tattoos, high heels, dramatic makeup, etc. My partner has the patience of a saint as she puts up with my adolescent behavior at times. (She's 11 years older than me.) My boss should be so patient... still, that's what I get for working for the Catholic Church.
Dudette! I'm always going to be a girl.
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: crazy old bat on July 11, 2012, 09:43:27 AM
Post by: crazy old bat on July 11, 2012, 09:43:27 AM
Where I work there are only women and most other women will call us girls as a group and most guys seem to prefer to use ladies.
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: Natkat on July 11, 2012, 10:19:30 AM
Post by: Natkat on July 11, 2012, 10:19:30 AM
I hope it okay to give my viewpoint..
as a ftm I tend to feel more confortable being a "boy" or "guy" than "man"
I also usunally say "transguy" insteed of "transman"
I think the reason is because I really feel more like a boy-guy than a man..
when I heard the word Man I think of adulthood, a grown up person who is over his years of being a child and being a teen, I might tecnically be grown up since I am more than 18, but I dont feel much like a grown up, I dont look like a grown up, and barbie also mention before I kinda miss alot of my "childhood-teens" from disphoria and trans issues. what most teens did when they where 16 I can first really experience now and feel good about. I first got into my puberty now and get to parties, buying the right clothes without worrying about hidding my cheast and all those things.
I been longing for trying those so I feel I need to have some late "teens years to enjoy being a boy and a guy" before I settle down to become a man XD
as a ftm I tend to feel more confortable being a "boy" or "guy" than "man"
I also usunally say "transguy" insteed of "transman"
I think the reason is because I really feel more like a boy-guy than a man..
when I heard the word Man I think of adulthood, a grown up person who is over his years of being a child and being a teen, I might tecnically be grown up since I am more than 18, but I dont feel much like a grown up, I dont look like a grown up, and barbie also mention before I kinda miss alot of my "childhood-teens" from disphoria and trans issues. what most teens did when they where 16 I can first really experience now and feel good about. I first got into my puberty now and get to parties, buying the right clothes without worrying about hidding my cheast and all those things.
I been longing for trying those so I feel I need to have some late "teens years to enjoy being a boy and a guy" before I settle down to become a man XD
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: Madison Leigh on July 11, 2012, 10:36:08 AM
Post by: Madison Leigh on July 11, 2012, 10:36:08 AM
Quote from: alyx. on July 11, 2012, 04:12:04 AM
Its something I'm curious about.
I tend to do it too, I'm 20 years old so I'm a young woman. I think its probably because it sounds more lighthearted and playful and young. I don't want to think of myself as some stodgy old woman, whenever I say I'm a woman I picture some tough as nails b**** from some cop show! :P
I never really put much thought into that. I tend to use the term "ladies" in lieu of either girls or women; but to me it really doesn't matter.
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: Randi on July 11, 2012, 12:10:24 PM
Post by: Randi on July 11, 2012, 12:10:24 PM
Girls are apprentice women.
Since I've only been female a few years, I'm not experienced enough to call myself a woman.
Randi
Since I've only been female a few years, I'm not experienced enough to call myself a woman.
Randi
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: Jenny_B_Good on July 12, 2012, 06:44:09 AM
Post by: Jenny_B_Good on July 12, 2012, 06:44:09 AM
Quote from: Miharu Barbie on July 11, 2012, 09:32:57 AM
.... for me is that I missed out on a lot of the fun, challenge and self discovery aspects of young girlhood as I grappled with gender dysphoria
+1 ... Exactly, second childhood stuff.
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: Padma on July 12, 2012, 06:46:40 AM
Post by: Padma on July 12, 2012, 06:46:40 AM
I wouldn't have wanted to be called a girl when I was a girl if I'd been born one (if you can follow that) - but then I'm a tomboy ;D.
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: justmeinoz on July 12, 2012, 07:02:43 AM
Post by: justmeinoz on July 12, 2012, 07:02:43 AM
Well a Bi-girl friend says , "you are such a girrrlll!" I laugh. :laugh:
Karen being only 3 years old, although she called herself Sandra for the first couple, I am in my own mind a girl in many ways. I feel like I am 58 going on 15.
Karen.
Karen being only 3 years old, although she called herself Sandra for the first couple, I am in my own mind a girl in many ways. I feel like I am 58 going on 15.
Karen.
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on July 12, 2012, 07:13:28 AM
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on July 12, 2012, 07:13:28 AM
hehe. 58 going on 15. I love it. I have the body of a 16 yr. old. And if she ever finding out what I have don't with it, she's going to kill me. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-9.gif&hash=42bd2ee88d4ddc91007b3b25799f543e9ee358f1)
I tend to use 'girl' as a form of endearment.
I usually always say "Man. I love being a woman" (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-3.gif&hash=f49e2f86761323f2abd9c33941920389dbb3b10f)
Shania Twain - Man! I Feel Like A Woman (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJL4UGSbeFg#)
I tend to use 'girl' as a form of endearment.
I usually always say "Man. I love being a woman" (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-3.gif&hash=f49e2f86761323f2abd9c33941920389dbb3b10f)
Shania Twain - Man! I Feel Like A Woman (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJL4UGSbeFg#)
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: justmeinoz on July 12, 2012, 07:34:54 AM
Post by: justmeinoz on July 12, 2012, 07:34:54 AM
I feel like a woman too, but a lot of them are hung up on bodily organs. :(
Karen.
Karen.
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: peky on July 12, 2012, 09:57:03 AM
Post by: peky on July 12, 2012, 09:57:03 AM
In a serious conversation I refer to myself as a woman, but I think of myself as a young lady -albeit only young at hart-
Since my daughters are teenagers, I find difficult to refer to myself as a girl. My daughters and my youngest son refer to me as a woman or lady and use the correct pronouns. My other sons on the other hand refer to me with the male pronouns. All of them, at my own request, call me dad in public and in private, which usually results in some funny situations.
Since my daughters are teenagers, I find difficult to refer to myself as a girl. My daughters and my youngest son refer to me as a woman or lady and use the correct pronouns. My other sons on the other hand refer to me with the male pronouns. All of them, at my own request, call me dad in public and in private, which usually results in some funny situations.
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: A on July 12, 2012, 10:01:28 AM
Post by: A on July 12, 2012, 10:01:28 AM
It's pretty normal, really. If you're a "girl" or a "guy", you're young and/or don't quite consider yourself an adult yet. If you're a "woman" or a "man", you're older or consider yourself more of an adult. When I think "woman", the image in my head is a 30-35+ year old woman. It's quite a common thing, really. I rarely hear someone below 25-30 be referred to as a "woman" or a "man".
I'm neither old nor do I consider myself an adult yet, so I call myself a girl, and I'd see it as pretty weird, even insulting maybe, if I called someone my age a woman.
I'm neither old nor do I consider myself an adult yet, so I call myself a girl, and I'd see it as pretty weird, even insulting maybe, if I called someone my age a woman.
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: Adrasteia on July 12, 2012, 11:07:00 AM
Post by: Adrasteia on July 12, 2012, 11:07:00 AM
It's all I can do to not use 'female' or 'male' as a noun around biologists, anthropologists, or grammar pedants. Beyond that, I've used girl/lady/woman fairly interchangeably.
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: supremecatoverlord on July 12, 2012, 11:36:32 AM
Post by: supremecatoverlord on July 12, 2012, 11:36:32 AM
Quote from: Jaime on July 11, 2012, 07:35:07 AMThis made me laugh.
There's nothing wrong with "old bat."
:)
Good inside humor.
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: pretty on July 12, 2012, 11:38:19 AM
Post by: pretty on July 12, 2012, 11:38:19 AM
Lol honestly who cares :)
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on July 12, 2012, 05:16:20 PM
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on July 12, 2012, 05:16:20 PM
It all depends on context. Girl used in a certain way can be hip-hop slang. I hate when people say, "you go girl!" another kinda hip expression. My girlfriend and I joke about being called guys or ladies. In California, guys is a non-gender specific word (when used in the plural) It is also very common for younger women to call one another "dude." Calling someone "lady" is rude in the US.
"Old girl" is very common colloquial British, like "old chap." OK enough, I am starting to sound like a linguist!
"Old girl" is very common colloquial British, like "old chap." OK enough, I am starting to sound like a linguist!
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: noeleena on July 13, 2012, 01:25:20 AM
Post by: noeleena on July 13, 2012, 01:25:20 AM
Hi,
Spos ill have to say im just a woman with age on my side. 65 next month.
I can be refered to as a girl if its in the group context or say like , ( come on girl we gota go. )
point of issue is im one strong woman im not a push over i can handle my self on the building sites & make no mistake on that & can pull rank when needed,
As to Lady well , when im dressed as a Chateline = Lady of the Castle, then yes. other wise i dont use it, our Renaissance group.
Really being born female, intersex, & then growing in to a woman , i dont mind what people call me , its how your accepted that counts,
...noeleena...
Spos ill have to say im just a woman with age on my side. 65 next month.
I can be refered to as a girl if its in the group context or say like , ( come on girl we gota go. )
point of issue is im one strong woman im not a push over i can handle my self on the building sites & make no mistake on that & can pull rank when needed,
As to Lady well , when im dressed as a Chateline = Lady of the Castle, then yes. other wise i dont use it, our Renaissance group.
Really being born female, intersex, & then growing in to a woman , i dont mind what people call me , its how your accepted that counts,
...noeleena...
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: Naturally Blonde on July 13, 2012, 06:53:02 AM
Post by: Naturally Blonde on July 13, 2012, 06:53:02 AM
Being called Girls or Women is fine by me!
Title: Re: Why do you people tend to call yourself girls instead of women?
Post by: TGnatasha on July 20, 2012, 05:52:23 AM
Post by: TGnatasha on July 20, 2012, 05:52:23 AM
Im only [young] so its bit soon to be called a woman isnt it??