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Well, I sure did just this today, and it sure is embarrassing when it happens.
I had done it in the one or other post in a more roundabout/odd way and that was embarrassing too - but quite some time back. Learning?

I mention this mishap, as we tend to get sometimes a bit uppity if others do it to us - so now I did it to myself calling myself the "uncle" off this druggy-nephew of mine that ODed last Friday. Reading it now as I type it is quite ridiculous, giggle.  :D

The funeral was yesterday. I was not invited despite asking... so now we had yet more embarrassments... oh my...

Go figure!

All I know it was embarrassing, no question... now I just feel to laugh it off. What else to do? Eish!

Axélle

Yes I have. When I first met my roommate he had a little trouble with the pronouns. Of course I kept getting on to him about it, but 1 day I called myself a he or something like that. He was like UH HUH SEE!! NOT SO EASY IS IT!! lol... but now I don't really do it anymore. When I talk about myself in 3rd person it's natural for me to refer to myself as a she now.

 I remember that I misgendered myself once. I don't remember the circumstances, or even how I reacted, but I was surprised that I had actually done that. When I'm talking to myself, I always say "we", so I had to be with someone else - that would have made it "fun", for sure.

It was some ages ago, though - a good six months, at least. I haven't done it since then, lol.  :P

Also. 666th post of EVIL.  >:-)

I did it at first, lol. Shows how deep some habits run.

I never really thought about this until now, but why is the first person singular and plural that is I and we not gendered? In English, "they" used to be used when he or she was not known or not clear up until recently--19th century I believe, then some academic decided to change it.

Anyway, if we are misgendering oursleves in the third person, I might question why we are using the third person to refer to ourselves in the first place.  :D

I feel forced to misgender myself around most family members (since I am only out to a few of them)...it's like living the lie all over again. Sigh.

Quote from: UCBerkeleyPostop on August 09, 2012, 12:57:53 PM
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Anyway, if we are misgendering oursleves in the third person, I might question why we are using the third person to refer to ourselves in the first place.  :D

If that did not come clearly across in the post - I said to the mother of my girlfriend's boyfriend, when talking about the recently deceased nephew of mine: "I'm his UNCLE"..." ugh!!!
Instead of:  "I'm his -AUNT-..."
Is it a bit easier to slip like that?
Like how can I say I'm my son's MOTHER – really I happen to be his FATHER.

Like: Hello may I introduce myself "I'm Sasha's (the dead nephew) uncle ----- ehhhhhhhh gosh, sorry I mean AUNT, or "I'm Thomas' (my son) MOTHER..." ->-bleeped-<-e, ->-bleeped-<-e, ->-bleeped-<-e! That be a FAT lie to boot, not so sure how it now works with the AUNT though?

How about I WAS his... because he is now dead or because I now have a vj? Grrrr, let me say there ARE some traps in all of this ::)

Anyone?
Axélle

I've never misgendered myself but others do it for me, especially some close relatives or so called friends who relish in calling me 'he' to a complete stranger who perceives me as a cis female in order to gain maximum embarrassment for me.

Quote from: Naturally Blonde on August 10, 2012, 04:50:27 AM
I've never misgendered myself but others do it for me, especially some close relatives or so called friends who relish in calling me 'he' to a complete stranger who perceives me as a cis female in order to gain maximum embarrassment for me.

Lovely. Pinch their butts everytime they do. They will change their minds.

One small addition, that actually happened and relating to "Naturally Blonde"s post.

My ex and BFF never to my knowledge misgendered me ever in my presence - yet her speaking to our son on the phone the other day, referring to me: "Your dad is here, and HE wants to speak to you..."

I immediately noticed and later on asked her about it. She said: "Well, so you the dad... and dads are HE, or?"
I did not argue and try telling her that there just might be 'SHE dads', like maybe... SHE goats?
In any case, the point I try to make is, our situation is not ALWAYS completely, intuitively and instinctively obvious --- not even to ourselves says your UNCLE, err... AUNTY ::)

Thank you for sharing,
Axélle

I've been trying to think of ways around this. It don't look good seems somethings just are. :-\

Quote from: Naturally Blonde on August 10, 2012, 04:50:27 AM
I've never misgendered myself but others do it for me, especially some close relatives or so called friends who relish in calling me 'he' to a complete stranger who perceives me as a cis female in order to gain maximum embarrassment for me.

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