Community Conversation => Significant Others talk => Topic started by: Master Yoda on September 04, 2012, 05:09:54 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Loving my fiancé ...
Post by: Master Yoda on September 04, 2012, 05:09:54 PM
Post by: Master Yoda on September 04, 2012, 05:09:54 PM
First of all, I know it has been a very long time since I last posted here, so consider this a sort of re-introductory post.
A lot has happened since I joined here, so forgive my brevity.
As most of you know, my fiancé is Walter ... From what I can gather, he is a well known poster, so most of you may know him.
He recently told me he wrote a re-introductory post, and he suggested I do the same. He tried showing me his post, but apparently it is in a hidden part of the forum that members have request access to, so I can't see it. But the gist of it was the reason why he kinda stopped posting was he got involved with a ex-coworker of his, whilst still being with me, and a few months after we had got engaged ( how we got engaged, I might have said; if not, I can write about it in a separate post ... ). They were together for about four months. Walter described him as an a**shole, and from what I have learnt, he was ... It was bad enough that he denied Walter's gender identity, he was pretty abusive, both mentally and physically.
As for me, well I was pretty devastated. Learning about the affair was bad enough, but finding out my fiancé had gotten involved with a total and utter jerk was a bit too much ...
But here is the funny thing.
I never stopped loving him. Despite being an ocean and most of continental America apart, I still believed he loved me, and I held onto the hope, despite everything, that he would have seen the idiot for what he was, and would come back to the one person who does truly love him ...
And so it was ... I am not saying it has been easy, but we are re-discovering the love that we had for each other, and the reasons why we got engaged. In a few days time, on the 9/8, we would have been together for 30 months and engaged for a year. He is planning to come over for the whole of December, which will cover not only his birthday, but Christmas, and New Years ...
I can't wait to have him in my arms again ...
So anyway, that is what has being going on ... I will try and post more, but it is nice to be back.
Oh, and admods, I am not sure I posted this in the right fora, so feel free to move it if it isn't.
A lot has happened since I joined here, so forgive my brevity.
As most of you know, my fiancé is Walter ... From what I can gather, he is a well known poster, so most of you may know him.
He recently told me he wrote a re-introductory post, and he suggested I do the same. He tried showing me his post, but apparently it is in a hidden part of the forum that members have request access to, so I can't see it. But the gist of it was the reason why he kinda stopped posting was he got involved with a ex-coworker of his, whilst still being with me, and a few months after we had got engaged ( how we got engaged, I might have said; if not, I can write about it in a separate post ... ). They were together for about four months. Walter described him as an a**shole, and from what I have learnt, he was ... It was bad enough that he denied Walter's gender identity, he was pretty abusive, both mentally and physically.
As for me, well I was pretty devastated. Learning about the affair was bad enough, but finding out my fiancé had gotten involved with a total and utter jerk was a bit too much ...
But here is the funny thing.
I never stopped loving him. Despite being an ocean and most of continental America apart, I still believed he loved me, and I held onto the hope, despite everything, that he would have seen the idiot for what he was, and would come back to the one person who does truly love him ...
And so it was ... I am not saying it has been easy, but we are re-discovering the love that we had for each other, and the reasons why we got engaged. In a few days time, on the 9/8, we would have been together for 30 months and engaged for a year. He is planning to come over for the whole of December, which will cover not only his birthday, but Christmas, and New Years ...
I can't wait to have him in my arms again ...
So anyway, that is what has being going on ... I will try and post more, but it is nice to be back.
Oh, and admods, I am not sure I posted this in the right fora, so feel free to move it if it isn't.