Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi there, I am new to the forums. I am going under deep emotional problems right now. I don't know where else to go to. I am 21 years old. I am a male. I have depression, etc. I don't know what's going on with me. I hope I'm not offending anyone. I am open minded to everyone. I treat everyone with respect. I am just really scared right now.

I don't know if its all in my head. For about 3 years I've been wanting to be a girl. "I don't know why." Every so often I dream about being in a females body. I don't know why I keep having these dreams or such thoughts. I've told my therapist about it and she told me if I ever had the same problem again I could talk with her about it.

I'm afraid of my family shunning me if they found out my condition. I was going through gender identity problems at the time I told my therapist. My parent's don't know at the moment since I'm living with them. I honestly don't know where to turn to. I act really feminine and girly sometimes. I don't like being muscular. And I prefer girls clothing over mens. I honestly don't know what to do with my self anymore. If anyone around here could give me advice I would really be grateful.

Hi Aoura  :icon_wave:

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Hi Aoura,

A big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. It's good of you to drop in and say "Hi". Hope you are able to find answers to your question, and you stay for a while.

There is a mountain of information, resources and friendship waiting for you here, you just need to jump in and start talking.

Firstly, let me put your mind at ease. You are NOT offending anyone here. Most of us in some way, shape or form have been through what you are going through. Don't stress yourself into thinking there is something wrong with you. There isn't.

I may suggest you reconnect with your therapist and discuss both the gender and depression issues. Does your therapist understand transgender issues? If not, find one that is. It will simplify the process. Secondly have a full blood test, particularly with respects to testerone and estrogen levels. An endocrinologist should be able to make sense of the findings.

By this time you should know whether you have GID (Gender Identity Disorder) or something else. Then and only then, you should start discussing your condition with your family. If you tell them any earlier, before you know, it will only serve to scare the hell out of them. Once you can tell them you have been medically diagnosed with whatever, they should be more accepting and supportive.

Keep in touch and let us know how you are coping, but in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.

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Catherine

This is a great site in which to explore your feelings Aoura. I think the hardest thing I ever had to do was to tell my parents that I was transsexual. My parents were accepting but it was very awkward for a few months. Not easy but definitely worth it. You should still see your therapist to help you work your way through your feelings, or just tell us what's on your mind.

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Hi Aoura! I don't know if I have much advice for you, since I didn't come out to my father until about a month ago, and I haven't lived with my parents for some time now (I'm nearly 26). But I can give you my support in what you're dealing with. I knew I was transgendered from the time I discovered the word in the 5th grade, but I was too afraid to tell my parents, even after they split up and went their separate ways. But I recently found out that my dad would always have been very accepting of it, if I had just gone to him about it. So, what I'm saying is. You might be surprised by the reaction you get. I would definitely discuss the situation more with your therapist though.

This is a wonderful community that offers a lot of good advice and support. Take advantage of it. We are here for you.

- Laura

Aoura, first, welcome.  I'm glad you found Susan's Place.

Second, many of our members, including myself, began their journey with a question:  "I wonder if ..."

What you are feeling and thinking may very well be a manifestation of "gender dysphoria," or "gender identity disorder."

It simply means what you feel like on the inside does not necessarily match what you see on the outside.

A good place to start is with a therapist who understands transgender and transsexual issues.

Hi Auora, it's nice to meet you! I live near Boston. You're among friends here, see you around the site. Hugs, Devlyn

Welcome. What you're going through is not unusual, but can be frightening. Continue with your therapist, but make sure the therapist is knowledgeable with Transgender concepts. As to why, there are numerous genetic and hormonal exposures that fit on the transgender spectrum. Non of us wake up one morning and decide to change our sex. If I can be of help contact me here.