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I've just written the final draft of my coming-out letter to my parents. It's a lot shorter than the original one. I don't know if I'll give it to them tomorrow or not. I hope I can make myself do it. I feel so nervous, which I expect is natural. Any tips?

With love,
A female

Sorry, no tips. But, I do hope things go well for you. Just keep in mind that it will probably be a rather large shock to them. Give them time to think it through before you ask for a true response.

I drafted an email today for all my brothers and sisters, nieces and nephews.  Too many of them to send letters or hand deliver.  It's a bit too long and like you it needs to get shorter.

Good luck.

Kathy

I sent letters to family and friends who were distant,  and it seemed to go well. It gives people a chance to think things over more than a conversation I think.  Hope yours goes as well.

Karen.

I spoke to my sister last night. It was terrifying and I just had to talk to her with my heart pounding like crazy. Luckily it went well even though my sister probably didn't understand most of it. Hope it goes well for you *hugs*.

Best of luck!

I'm a coward, so my tip is:

1. Put it on the table.
2. Put on your shoes and jacket and stuff.
3. Say: "I'm off! I've left something on the table for you, okay?"
4. Flee as soon as you hear some sort of acknowledgement that they heard you.
5. Come back home later and let them do all the work.

Quote from: A on October 11, 2012, 08:28:32 PM
I'm a coward, so my tip is:

1. Put it on the table.
2. Put on your shoes and jacket and stuff.
3. Say: "I'm off! I've left something on the table for you, okay?"
4. Flee as soon as you hear some sort of acknowledgement that they heard you.
5. Come back home later and let them do all the work.

I like that! Thats going in the old memory bank for future usage. Thanks!

Quote from: A on October 11, 2012, 08:28:32 PM
I'm a coward, so my tip is:

1. Put it on the table.
2. Put on your shoes and jacket and stuff.
3. Say: "I'm off! I've left something on the table for you, okay?"
4. Flee as soon as you hear some sort of acknowledgement that they heard you.
5. Come back home later and let them do all the work.

If I decide to go the letter route, I think I'll do this with my mum.

well the good thing about the letter route you can include more information to help them better understand. I included informational pamphlets about it. It helped tremendously. literally I gave them a letter allowed a few days to let everything digest and proceed from there.

I'd leave it on the table and check into a motel for a week.... I'm a total chicken.

A week... now you'd worry them that you're dead. xD

I think two or three hours are sufficient.