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Title: college classmate problem-called me she instead of he
Post by: kenton_07 on October 11, 2012, 09:35:17 AM
Post by: kenton_07 on October 11, 2012, 09:35:17 AM
So I was in class today and the guy I've had classes with before top surgery called me she to the professor and it was in front of some of my classmates. I pass in all of my other classes and off campus. He is a pretty cool guy but I wanted to correct him and didn't because it would've been awkward . Should I tell him about me or what should I do?
Title: Re: college classmate problem-called me she instead of he
Post by: yasuko14 on October 11, 2012, 10:26:51 AM
Post by: yasuko14 on October 11, 2012, 10:26:51 AM
Just be like:
"Dude really? Not cool"
"Dude really? Not cool"
Title: Re: college classmate problem-called me she instead of he
Post by: FTMDiaries on October 11, 2012, 11:08:23 AM
Post by: FTMDiaries on October 11, 2012, 11:08:23 AM
This is an awkward situation but you probably don't want him to do it again... and if you say nothing, he'll learn nothing.
If he really is a cool guy, the first step is to take him to one side and tell him in a friendly manner that you're a guy now and you want him to call you by the correct name and pronouns. Then take it from there based on his response.
If he really is a cool guy, the first step is to take him to one side and tell him in a friendly manner that you're a guy now and you want him to call you by the correct name and pronouns. Then take it from there based on his response.
Title: Re: college classmate problem-called me she instead of he
Post by: kenton_07 on October 11, 2012, 02:48:03 PM
Post by: kenton_07 on October 11, 2012, 02:48:03 PM
We have emailed back and forth about class and sports. Would it be better to just shoot him an email? I guess I just don't really know what to say or how to go about it.
Title: Re: college classmate problem-called me she instead of he
Post by: anibioman on October 11, 2012, 02:53:18 PM
Post by: anibioman on October 11, 2012, 02:53:18 PM
just email him if thats the only way you comunicate but if you guys talk at all you should tell him in person.
Title: Re: college classmate problem-called me she instead of he
Post by: kenton_07 on October 11, 2012, 05:22:06 PM
Post by: kenton_07 on October 11, 2012, 05:22:06 PM
I found out after I posted this that he isn't going to be in class for the next two weeks so maybe I should just send him an email.
Title: Re: college classmate problem-called me she instead of he
Post by: Nero on October 11, 2012, 08:13:24 PM
Post by: Nero on October 11, 2012, 08:13:24 PM
If he isn't going to be in class for a few weeks, I'd just forget it and let it blow over. Only mention it if it happens again. I think an email would seem like you're making a big deal out of it.
Title: Re: college classmate problem-called me she instead of he
Post by: Darrin Scott on October 11, 2012, 08:19:28 PM
Post by: Darrin Scott on October 11, 2012, 08:19:28 PM
Quote from: Forum Admin on October 11, 2012, 08:13:24 PM
If he isn't going to be in class for a few weeks, I'd just forget it and let it blow over. Only mention it if it happens again. I think an email would seem like you're making a big deal out of it.
This. I wouldn't even make a big deal out of it unless it was someone I knew personally and was friends with.
Title: Re: college classmate problem-called me she instead of he
Post by: kenton_07 on October 12, 2012, 09:30:38 AM
Post by: kenton_07 on October 12, 2012, 09:30:38 AM
Alright thanks for the help everyone!
Title: Re: college classmate problem-called me she instead of he
Post by: Snowman77 on October 26, 2012, 09:17:22 PM
Post by: Snowman77 on October 26, 2012, 09:17:22 PM
Quote from: kenton_07 on October 11, 2012, 09:35:17 AM
So I was in class today and the guy I've had classes with before top surgery called me she to the professor and it was in front of some of my classmates. I pass in all of my other classes and off campus. He is a pretty cool guy but I wanted to correct him and didn't because it would've been awkward . Should I tell him about me or what should I do?
No, no, no, no, no! I'm not going to tell you how to live your life but I personally would have corrected him and put him in his place! (Not physically of course...verbally!) >:-)