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I'll go first...

So, I finally got to go out as MYSELF!  What an amazing joy it was for me. I had to walk down Hollywood BLVD. in the skimpiest of outfits. I was scared but I have to admit having my spouse with me made a huge difference. Lucky for me she always encourages me to go as myself. I haven't gone full time but I think I'm about too. I recently got my new hair extensions and people seem to love it. It also seems to help me pass as well. I'm tall so I stick out. But I'm also lucky that I am curvy too.  I had men coming up to chat with me to no end and I got so many compliments from women as well. I did think, OMG I'm going to get killed out here. But, I didn't. I had this one guy tell me that he loves tall girls (I'm 6 ft) and  then on another block I had one of the door men at a club in Hollywood walk up to us and ask if we wanted to go in that he could give us VIP passes to get in.. and then handed them to us! LOL  You don't know how amazing it was for me. I've been dying doing a very slow transition because of my daughter being sick and in and out of the hospital. So this was a great change for me.
We then went to a gay club where I ran into a lesbian that HAD to POINT out that I was probably and ->-bleeped-<-! Well, my spouse told me to ignore and said she was probably a jealous chunky girl with no friends. LOL  Some of the DRAG queens came up to me and complimented my "RAVE BUTTERFLY" outfit. And then said you're a pretty girl. I wore a corsett as well that really made my cuves even more curvy.  I'm sorry, I just keep typing..it's just most of you have experience this and I haven't and I've been on cloud 9 since then. It makes me actually see a better future for me.The truth is I really don't think I am there yet, and I don't completely pass yet BUT it was a lot of fun. My spouse looked very very very hot and I had to drag her away a few times because the boys AND girls were salivating around her. LOL  She's a looker that's for sure.

I also got my letter for my ORCHIE so I am amazingly happy now and it's going to be fully covered by my insurance! I couldn't ask for a better week!

I'll try to post pics later.

Would you share YOUR experiences here too?

Have a HAPPY HALLOWEEN!

Stephie!

So awesome!!! Glad you had a great time! :)



It was my first time going out for Halloween too! It was amazing probably one of the best experiences so far of my transition. I went out with my friend Jake and met up with a girl he has been dating in old town Scottsdale. When I got there I was a little nervous being around a cis-woman and her girlfriend. So I remained quite for the first 15 minutes or so. Then her and friend came over and started a convo with me. We ended up laughing the whole night, sharing stories and talking about boys. What was great was I didn't have to get drunk because in years past I would drink till I couldn't walk just to get my mind to stop. I only drank one mojito. :)

Here's a couple pics. My tan lines are bunk. Almost finished with laser on my legs.

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I was never very Halloween, because I always hated to attract attention. The last time I put on a disguise was, I think, 5 years ago. I did it to support my class because there was a draw for prizes at school for Halloween, and only classes where 100 % people were disguised were eligible. I brought a cape. A few people asked me what I was supposed to be. I said: "Psssh, I have a cape, I'm in disguise. Dark something." Oh how cheerful I can be.

However, that's a great story to read. Maybe when I'm full-time and with my girlfriend I'll try something out. The more that amazing girl talks with me, the more outgoing things I want to do, so. I just, a couple of months ago, decided that I'd like to wear a skirt that's less than knee-length. "Omahgosh!"

Anyway. I have no idea what kind of disguise I'd wear, but I'm looking forward to trying that one day.

PS: Is that guy... smoking inside? Ew. I'm so happy it's prohibited in all public buildings here. x_x

Quote from: Serena Lynn on October 29, 2012, 08:44:19 PM
So awesome!!! Glad you had a great time! :)



It was my first time going out for Halloween too! It was amazing probably one of the best experiences so far of my transition. I went out with my friend Jake and met up with a girl he has been dating in old town Scottsdale. When I got there I was a little nervous being around a cis-woman and her girlfriend. So I remained quite for the first 15 minutes or so. Then her and friend came over and started a convo with me. We ended up laughing the whole night, sharing stories and talking about boys. What was great was I didn't have to get drunk because in years past I would drink till I couldn't walk just to get my mind to stop. I only drank one mojito. :)

Here's a couple pics. My tan lines are bunk. Almost finished with laser on my legs.



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You look soooo adorable!!!  I'm trying to find a decent one of me. LOL Some of the shots that were taken inside look very shadowy and it eventuates my brow and stuff.  :)

Quote from: A on October 29, 2012, 09:45:58 PM
I was never very Halloween, because I always hated to attract attention. The last time I put on a disguise was, I think, 5 years ago. I did it to support my class because there was a draw for prizes at school for Halloween, and only classes where 100 % people were disguised were eligible. I brought a cape. A few people asked me what I was supposed to be. I said: "Psssh, I have a cape, I'm in disguise. Dark something." Oh how cheerful I can be.

However, that's a great story to read. Maybe when I'm full-time and with my girlfriend I'll try something out. The more that amazing girl talks with me, the more outgoing things I want to do, so. I just, a couple of months ago, decided that I'd like to wear a skirt that's less than knee-length. "Omahgosh!"

Anyway. I have no idea what kind of disguise I'd wear, but I'm looking forward to trying that one day.

PS: Is that guy... smoking inside? Ew. I'm so happy it's prohibited in all public buildings here. x_x

the smoking guy=really cute

*cough* Anyways, I don't usually *do* Halloween,  kids my age don't really dress up that much, or maybe they do at a party, but usually no. Usually I'll buy some candy for kids who knock on the door, but mostly I hang with my lil bro's on Halloween and take them out and then at night we watch som scary (kids) movies.

How do you post pics again? I have them on Picassa (host site). Help.  :(

I didn't put a lot of thought into my costume this year, so I just grabbed a bandana, my tie-dye dress, and my Gumby earrings so I could be a hippie chick.

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The thing is, I'm known to dress like this anyway, whether or not it's Halloween.

Groovy!

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My little butterfly outfit.
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I just saw on FB that my former boss and his wife dressed up as each other and renewed their wedding vows on Halloween!

@Constance,

That is so funny and yet romantic about the vows. Ironic, if my wife had been able to Halloween costume up (she couldn't go because of a cold), she said seeing as you are going as a girl I  guess I will have to go as a guy. I went to our local fav pub Halloween night by myself.

Your hippie outfit, peace sister.

Cheers

Jamie

I hope the image comes through.

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I was off from work so I just slept through most of Halloween.

I spent most of the day researching... 19th century European (ostensibly) humanitarian interventions in the Ottoman Empire as well as miscegenation laws in the Jim Crow South and the Scottsboro Boys Trial... and going to class. I would have liked to have gone to the SF Giants World Series Victory Parade. I went in 2010...it was intense!

Anyway, I have a definite shot at getting a 4.0 GPA in my first semester at Cal, the number one public university in the world.  :'( >:-) 8)

I dressed up as Cat Woman (Michele Pfeiffer/Batman Returns era) to pass out treats  :)  Unfortunately I had only one Trick or Treater  :P

Oh well, other folks who saw me said they loved my costume and one lady even said I was beautiful  :)

Quote from: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 01, 2012, 10:12:30 PM
I spent most of the day researching... 19th century European (ostensibly) humanitarian interventions in the Ottoman Empire as well as miscegenation laws in the Jim Crow South and the Scottsboro Boys Trial... and going to class. I would have liked to have gone to the SF Giants World Series Victory Parade. I went in 2010...it was intense!

Anyway, I have a definite shot at getting a 4.0 GPA in my first semester at Cal, the number one public university in the world.  :'( >:-) 8)

You're a real hoot, but seriously,

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no offense meant :angel:

Yay! My Haloween was sooo different from everyone else! ;D I drove 7 hours round trip to take a 3 hour interview after I got to work early so i could work an 8 hour shift. I HOPE its going to be worth the 18hr non stop day. Its for the same job I have now but in a bigger city (La Verne CA) and for 15/hr more than I make now. It also has a little less for me to oversee. Soo not so much a holiday for me  ::)

I would have liked to have gone to the SF Giants World Series Victory Parade. I went in 2010...it was intense!

It was a lot more intense than the last one.  I'll post on it later.  And besides, it's always Halloween in Berkeley, even if some of the people don't know it.

My halloween experience, stuck at home.

no way to get more pills till monday, already started splitting my spirol pills in half to keep it in me even if at a lower amount.

since holloween fell on a wednesday this year and being the day of the week i get electrolysis................ugh, i did nothing! My neighborhood is usually a busy one on that night too!!!!

I was thinking of heading out... but (ironically) I got scared ;3

Quote from: Ave on November 01, 2012, 10:23:09 PM
You're a real hoot, but seriously,



no offense meant :angel:

No offense taken. Much of what I post here has an underlying humor that a lot of people probably don't get.

This weekend is going to be more fun: nine essays to read and an essay to write on The Children's Hour for GWS125 plus finishing and starting two other research papers. BTW that 1961 film is a MUST SEE. It details two women whose girl's school gets shut down over allegations of Lesbianism but the way the issue is danced around is a "real hoot."

Halloween used to be fun during the "dress up" stage but now, not so much.

I just found the entire film (The Children's Hour) on you tube:

http://youtu.be/fTv6bnOjE04 (http://youtu.be/fTv6bnOjE04)

wait, when was halloween

I remember somewhat older man telling me that he sometimes forgot his birthday. this is obviously my future

Don't worry, Carbon, it will come around again next October 31st. Halloween, that is. Not your birthday.

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on November 03, 2012, 07:13:20 PM
Don't worry, Carbon, it will come around again next October 31st. Halloween, that is. Not your birthday.

oh if halloween is on the thirty first that means it's november already -__-

Yes, and don't forget to set your clocks back an hour tonight!

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on November 03, 2012, 08:05:46 PM
Yes, and don't forget to set your clocks back an hour tonight!

don't worry I use an atomic alarm clock and my computer automatically syncs with time.gov

now I don't get to be confused about why I'm not more tired when I wake up though

Yes, and don't forget to set your clocks back an hour tonight!

Yeah, because if you don't you'll be late for church and that will really piss god off.

Quote from: tekla on November 03, 2012, 11:37:17 PM
Yes, and don't forget to set your clocks back an hour tonight!

Yeah, because if you don't you'll be late for church and that will really piss god off.

Didn't they learn you to capitalize God, for God's sake!

I must have been sick that day, I was only in Catholic School for 12 years, maybe I wasn't there long enough for them to get around to spelling.   They were so busy telling me this fairy tale that, well, lots of other stuff got lost.

Who made me?

God made me

Why did God make me?

God made me because...I can't remember the rest...something about making someone in His image. Being God must be really boring, eh?

Hi friends  :police:

Halloween is over and this is not the Religion/Spirituality Forum

Stay on topic

Thank you

V M

Quote from: V M on November 04, 2012, 12:35:15 AM
Hi friends  :police:

Halloween is over and this is not the Religion/Spirituality Forum

Stay on topic

Thank you

V M

So you want us to keep talking about Halloween?

Yes! Candy, little girl?

Since I had decorated my house with four blowup devices, 3' witch, 3.5" skull, 9' ghost and 9' stack of pumpkins, and a lighted spider web and ghost show throughs in the windows, I stayed home and gave out mini candy bars.  I had on a black top and ankle length black skirt with red pumps, and a black wig, which caused the funny story of the night.  The wig was "too pretty" even though I had on zombie white or goth white makeup base, and one little male about 9 years old said I was actually a boy, because only a boy would look that pretty on Halloween.  His mother had not had any time to really tidy herself up, and she gave her son the absolute deadliest look that did not actually kill the kid.  I gave her a smile and told her I could have expected that from one of my GK's.  She grinned back at me girl to girl. 

A couple of my spouses co-workers invited us to go out for drinks on Halloween.  Once upon  time I would have prettied myself up for the event, but getting prettied up when you've lived FT for several years really is kind of anti climactic, so I opted instead to sew my own costume and went as a... skunk.  The black outfit itself was pretty easy to put together, but my tail ended up being a royal pain in the butt.  Reminder to self:  Next Halloween, NO FAUX FUR. 

Anyway, we started the evening easy, giving out candy.  We really stocked up this year, but only had 3 kids show up at the door.  That's ok though, because I planned accordingly and only purchased chocolate candy this year... the kids loss is my gain.   Yay for lots of leftover chocolate candy!

About 9pm we headed out to meet the others at a local dive bar. The place was slightly busier than normal, with 1 or 2 open tables.  As we make our way towards the closest table I turned, side swiped a vampire, and the tail I worked so hard on ripped off and fell to the floor.  I bent over to pick it up, and while bent over heard a voice next to me say...  "Hi... nice tail."  I stood to face a really cute, well dressed guy.  I blushed, thanked him with a grin, then asked "it's Halloween... where's your costume?"  His response:  He held up his left hand, showed me a gold wedding band, then told me that this year he was pretending to be a faithful husband.  OMFG  By that point the rest of my party realized i was missing, and my spouse was working her way back to me.  He then looked at my left hand (I wear a diamond wedding/engagement set) and quipped "Oh wow... I thought I was the only one who would ever come up with the faithful spouse idea!"  OMFG x2.   We shared a few quick laughs before I got dragged away to our table, but a few minutes later the waitress delivered to me a glass of wine, smiled and told me my friend had sent it.  This wasn't my first experience flirting with a guy, but certainly the most fun encounter to date. 

Quote from: Vicky on November 04, 2012, 10:50:29 PM
only a boy would look that pretty on Halloween

I like this part!

I took my 2 year old trick or treating....I'm a boring mom.

My Halloween was dare I say it...amazing? So I dressed up as a cowgirl and went into work extremely nervous. I went in to put my jacket on my chair and noticed everybody looking at me. The girl who sits in my chair before I come in looked at me startled when I first laid my jacket down.

Her response?

"Holy crap I didn't recognize you!" I smiled at her and went out to the lunchroom. One of my coworkers walked passed me and I said Hi in my guy voice. He stopped in his tracks. Spun around and says my boy name. Totally puzzled. Needless to say this happened many times that day, with most people thinking I was a new girl.

At the end if the day, this really sweet girl I love to death at work [ platonically ] says to me. " You know, you're really pretty and don't take this the wrong way, but I don't think you were meant to be a guy." That comment alone made me love that girl that much more. Oh. And I am not out publicly yet.

I'll post pics later :-)

Quote from: Scribbles on November 05, 2012, 10:01:01 PM
" You know, you're really pretty and don't take this the wrong way, but I don't think you were meant to be a guy."

That must have been great to hear!

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I hope the image comes through.

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Brooke!

You look great! Total cutie :)

Quote from: Michelle G on November 06, 2012, 12:47:04 AM
Brooke!

You look great! Total cutie :)

Aww, thank you!  :)

At home, drinking beer, Watching Harvey Birdman and preparing for work next day.

Quote from: Brooke777 on November 01, 2012, 08:33:24 PM
I hope the image comes through.

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So cute Brooke! I hadn't seen it earlier.... :)

Quote from: Shantel on November 06, 2012, 10:11:29 AM
So cute Brooke! I hadn't seen it earlier.... :)

Thank you. I appreciate the compliment  :)

I didn't realize what a little doll you are Boo-Boo!  :)

Quote from: Shantel on November 06, 2012, 10:14:22 AM
I didn't realize what a little doll you are Boo-Boo!  :)

:embarrassed: :embarrassed:

Quote from: Shantel on November 06, 2012, 10:14:22 AM
I didn't realize what a little doll you are Boo-Boo!  :)

No kidding!

The elusive Brooke is a lil' hottie :)

Quote from: Michelle G on November 06, 2012, 10:34:04 AM
No kidding!

The elusive Brooke is a lil' hottie :)

You two have put the biggest smile on my face!!! Thank you!

Quote from: Constance on November 05, 2012, 10:43:49 PM
That must have been great to hear!

It was a surprise that's for sure. Some of the comments I got on Halloween gave me a LOT of confidence towards starting transition.

[snip]

Me, on Halloween.

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Me, on Halloween.

Cute!

Thank you Brooke!

Quote from: Shantel on November 06, 2012, 10:11:29 AM
So cute Brooke! I hadn't seen it earlier.... :)

That outfit is ridiculously cute. Did you make it?
@brooke

Quote from: Scribbles on November 06, 2012, 03:44:38 PM
That outfit is ridiculously cute. Did you make it?
@brooke

:embarrassed: Aww. Thanks! No, I bought it off of a Cos Play website. It is from an anime my son watches. He picked it out for me. It is cold here, so I added the socks  ;D

this was my first Halloween as a girl! I wanted to be slutier but I lack the confidence :( I'm a gypsys!
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Looking real cute and slutty enough oZma!

I think you look great. And, no need to go slutty IMHO

but a naughty nurse? corrupt police woman? you only get one day to be a slut and have an excuse all year! LOL

Totally loving the gypsy outfit too. Looks like everybody had a ball thus far, which is AWESOME!

if you couldn't be slutty at least you could be racially offensive

I thought gypsy was more of a culture/community than a race

Quote from: Scribbles on November 06, 2012, 07:39:47 PM
I thought gypsy was more of a culture/community than a race

Hey Scribbles,
      Unfortunately some people have to reduce everything in their minds to some kind of racial offense. Hopefully they can give us a break, and we can all just be people for a change.

@Ozma,

Adorable.

Jamie

Quote from: Scribbles on November 06, 2012, 07:39:47 PM
I thought gypsy was more of a culture/community than a race

No, it refers specifically to the Romani people the vast majority of the time, is considered a slur by many (although some Romani self identify this way, especially to non-Romani who often only know the term "gypsy"), and these sorts of costumes play heavily on stereotypes of Romani, including the idea of Romani women as being especially sexualized.

As some background the Romani are an ethnic group that originated from India but traveled throughout europe and mixed with various countries. In eastern europe they live in conditions sometimes approaching Jim Crow levels and have a history of being widely targeted and discriminated against throughout europe.

Hi friends  :)

I'm fairly certain no harm was intended, let's review rule 15 of the ToS

Quote15. Items under discussion shall be confined to the subject matter at hand, members shall avoid taking the other users posts personally, and/or posting anything that can reasonably be construed as a personal attack.

Please stay on topic and let's all make the effort to all get along and be understanding and respectful of each other

Thank you

V M

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this was my first Halloween as a girl! I wanted to be slutier but I lack the confidence :( I'm a gypsys!
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CUTE!!!