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Title: Trans and seeking progress
Post by: Ravens Congress on November 13, 2012, 09:25:41 PM
Post by: Ravens Congress on November 13, 2012, 09:25:41 PM
Hello everyone!
For the sake of the insanity that is the internet, call me Ravens for the time being. I'm a transgirl, two months out, and REALLY out, but very stuck in transitioning. There's a couple of reasons for this that I am sure I will get into later but for now let's just say I am trying to make sure I have my inner life together before I go making too big of changes to my outer life. I'm 24 and I'm in a graduate program for teachers. I am the first openly trans* individual in my school of education's history, so we are just starting to figure out how we are going to blaze a trail on this. Fortunately my administrators, faculty and staff are all generally very, very supportive of me, and very eager to be inclusive. So I am pretty excited about that!
On the flip side I am struggling with parents who feel somehow betrayed (against their better judgment and I think they know it, but that's still where they are for the time being) and trying to navigate the typical daily issues: taking better care of my appearance, fixing my voice, and figuring out how to exist in less-liberal climates. For example, my roomie and I decided we could both stand to get in slightly better shape, so we started trying to find a gym we could join, when suddenly it occurred to both of us: LOCKER ROOMS. In trying to figure out what we should do about this problem, we actually discovered this site, and here I am.
I'm hoping to make friends in the community who can help me as I start off on this path of self-discovery and advocacy for myself and for others. I'm super excited to be here and I can't wait to get to know everyone!
Sincerely,
Ravens
For the sake of the insanity that is the internet, call me Ravens for the time being. I'm a transgirl, two months out, and REALLY out, but very stuck in transitioning. There's a couple of reasons for this that I am sure I will get into later but for now let's just say I am trying to make sure I have my inner life together before I go making too big of changes to my outer life. I'm 24 and I'm in a graduate program for teachers. I am the first openly trans* individual in my school of education's history, so we are just starting to figure out how we are going to blaze a trail on this. Fortunately my administrators, faculty and staff are all generally very, very supportive of me, and very eager to be inclusive. So I am pretty excited about that!
On the flip side I am struggling with parents who feel somehow betrayed (against their better judgment and I think they know it, but that's still where they are for the time being) and trying to navigate the typical daily issues: taking better care of my appearance, fixing my voice, and figuring out how to exist in less-liberal climates. For example, my roomie and I decided we could both stand to get in slightly better shape, so we started trying to find a gym we could join, when suddenly it occurred to both of us: LOCKER ROOMS. In trying to figure out what we should do about this problem, we actually discovered this site, and here I am.
I'm hoping to make friends in the community who can help me as I start off on this path of self-discovery and advocacy for myself and for others. I'm super excited to be here and I can't wait to get to know everyone!
Sincerely,
Ravens
Title: Re: Trans and seeking progress
Post by: Syne on November 13, 2012, 10:02:57 PM
Post by: Syne on November 13, 2012, 10:02:57 PM
Hello and welcome to Susan's.
Pre-op I would get changed before hitting the gym and then shower and change elsewhere. It meant not going in the middle of the day so the coworkers would not complain but it works.
Good luck with everything and I look forward to seeing more posts from you.
Pre-op I would get changed before hitting the gym and then shower and change elsewhere. It meant not going in the middle of the day so the coworkers would not complain but it works.
Good luck with everything and I look forward to seeing more posts from you.
Title: Re: Trans and seeking progress
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on November 13, 2012, 10:08:55 PM
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on November 13, 2012, 10:08:55 PM
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Title: Re: Trans and seeking progress
Post by: Devlyn on November 14, 2012, 09:05:19 PM
Post by: Devlyn on November 14, 2012, 09:05:19 PM
Hi Ravens, welcome to Susan's Place! I'm from Boston. Grab some snacks and I'll see you around. Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Trans and seeking progress
Post by: gennee on November 15, 2012, 08:03:55 AM
Post by: gennee on November 15, 2012, 08:03:55 AM
Welcome to Susan's, Ravens.
Title: Re: Trans and seeking progress
Post by: Ravens Congress on November 15, 2012, 08:26:30 AM
Post by: Ravens Congress on November 15, 2012, 08:26:30 AM
Thanks everyone!
It's good to know you are all here.
Syne, that's good advice about the gym, I just really wish I could find a place where changing and showering there was somehow an option. Like, maybe a place with a private shower? I know I may be reaching for too much here but I guess it bothers me to just accept that I'm "not going to be welcome" as I am right now. I'm hopeful that I can find a place that will be understanding and welcoming; on the flip side I understand that the sight of my naked body in a public shower for women would be a huge problem and demand an explanation that I'm not really interested in giving, so that is why I'm hoping for some kind of private shower system.
I want to at least try to find such a place before I sign up for one where I know that it isn't even an option. Hope that makes sense.
-Ravens
It's good to know you are all here.
Syne, that's good advice about the gym, I just really wish I could find a place where changing and showering there was somehow an option. Like, maybe a place with a private shower? I know I may be reaching for too much here but I guess it bothers me to just accept that I'm "not going to be welcome" as I am right now. I'm hopeful that I can find a place that will be understanding and welcoming; on the flip side I understand that the sight of my naked body in a public shower for women would be a huge problem and demand an explanation that I'm not really interested in giving, so that is why I'm hoping for some kind of private shower system.
I want to at least try to find such a place before I sign up for one where I know that it isn't even an option. Hope that makes sense.
-Ravens