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 For me it was when going about my daily life, I don't think about it anymore. Yes it's still a small part of my life and certain daily tasks remind me I am trans but it's now a VERY small part of my consciousness.

Quote from: Stephe on November 13, 2012, 11:47:18 PM
For me it was when going about my daily life, I don't think about it anymore. Yes it's still a small part of my life and certain daily tasks remind me I am trans but it's now a VERY small part of my consciousness.

I have always wondered about the point at which we transition.
When is that magic moment that you go from cis gender to transgender and then from transgender transsexual?

I keep thinking that when you drop the first pill or take the first shot of estrogen (for M2F's)you cross the line from transgender transsexual.
Crossing from cis gendered to transgender I think is a little more complicated especially as you get older.

For me, "transitioning" was a second long process. All I had to do was say, "I am female." And that was it, as far as I was concerned I was female.
I personally don't believe in the whole "transgendered, transsexual, or transitioning" ideas; I am female, and I am inventing myself.

for me it was when i could walk around in the ladies locker room naked after a shower

Quote from: Stephe on November 13, 2012, 11:47:18 PM
For me it was when going about my daily life, I don't think about it anymore. Yes it's still a small part of my life and certain daily tasks remind me I am trans but it's now a VERY small part of my consciousness.

I tend to agree. If you are no longer thinking about it, you are there.

To put it another way, that little nagging devil voice way in the back of your head is no longer whispering "You are just some guy in a dress". How ironic it is that it's the same voice that was always telling you "You're really a woman faking being a guy"

Quote from: Tristan on November 15, 2012, 07:23:08 PM
for me it was when i could walk around in the ladies locker room naked after a shower

In a sense I agree. The discomfort of tucking and worrying about it is a total daily reminder. In that sense, I haven't yet fully transitioned! Damn, I'm so jealous. Soon though!

I am constantly growing and changing. Therefore, I will not stop transitioning until I die (hopefully that will be in about 70 years).

Quote from: Brooke777 on November 16, 2012, 10:04:27 AM
I am constantly growing and changing. Therefore, I will not stop transitioning until I die (hopefully that will be in about 70 years).

This.

For me, I knew when I was living day to day as me.  I no longer see the "guy in a dress".  I do look forward to the day when I can walk through a woman's locker room naked.

Quote from: Ms. OBrien on November 16, 2012, 11:43:35 AM
I do look forward to the day when I can walk through a woman's locker room naked.

Hmm I would never have wanted to walk thru a locker room naked as a guy (and never did..), so I guess doing it as a woman isn't a high priority to me :)

Yeah its not for everyone. But for me its nice to know its ok now. Not to mention I can finally lose my virginity to a straight guy in the way I see as natural. Like any other woman.

From reading all the post I would say that transitioning is really about completing a series of milestones, with SRS perhaps be the last one.

Quote from: peky on November 17, 2012, 02:43:53 PM
From reading all the post I would say that transitioning is really about completing a series of milestones, with SRS perhaps be the last one.

If that's true, I'll never 'transition'. Funny that I feel I already have?

Quote from: Stephe on November 17, 2012, 06:45:44 PM
If that's true, I'll never 'transition'. Funny that I feel I already have?

True, good point. There are many of us who either cannot get SRS (because lack of monies or health issues) or would not do it because we just do not want to get SRS (for fears or spausal issues or plain do not want to deal with the mainance issues, etc).

So yeah, I stand corrected just because you do not get an SRS does not mean you have not completed the transition.

Yet,  I I cannot help but feel that deep down we all yearn for havind that so important vagina

I think it depends on each individual persyn.

For some, that's HRT and surgery.

And for others that's coming out to one's self or to others.

I think that it should always be a persynal decision as to what means "transitioned" for a persyn. There have been folks in my own life that have said transition only means HRT (in my case T) and surgeries. Which can cause a lot of problems for trans* folks that can't, nor want to, transition physically/medically.

I think if other trans* folks told me they have transitioned, then they have. And I think that should be respected (there are trans* folks that don't respect folks that don't do HRT and don't get surgeries but say they've transitioned [which is totally wrong to say]).

[I hope I'm making sense here].

I think there are a whole range of psychological transitions that take place also.
I haven't taken any formal hormones yet nor do I plan on having surgery but many thoughts and feelings have already changed.

I see men and women in a different light. When I see a woman now I don't think I'm a male she's a female, I think of her more like a sister.

When I look at most other men I see aspects of them that I can no longer become and maybe never could become. And I see myself as being in between both male and female, masculine and feminine. Sometimes it feels good I really like it other times I feel like I should just make up my my mind.
I've also disposed of my man programming. All the little things society says men/women should be or shouldn't be Ived re-examined.
If I want to wear makeup and nail polish I can.
I can wear as much or as little as I want I don't feel I have to conform to society's standards as much anymore.