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Title: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on November 18, 2012, 01:07:28 PM
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on November 18, 2012, 01:07:28 PM
I was just mulling over some thoughts last. All too often I see a post about how a person can't live without this or that surgery, ,or would just go insane if they could not have hormones or remove body hair (or grow hair for ftm). I think it is important to step outside of yourself for a moment and stop worrying so much about what you cannot do or are unable to do.
Consider that 100 years ago folks who felt different were usually in hiding from the rest of America (and the word really). There was no word called transgender or transsexual then. You would probably be labeled gay or lesbian or bisexual or they would not know what to think about you.
Our ancestors could never do the following:
Take HRT Like we do (the whole gauntlet of medicine)
Laser and Electrolysis like we do
Breast Augmentation like we do
Facial Feminization Surgery Like we do
SRS/GRS Surgery like we do
Feminization Voice Surgery like we do
No in fact all they were limited to was:
Growing Long hair
Wearing Makeup and Perfume
Wearing Womens Clothes
Walking and Talking Feminine
Shaving face and body hair with a crude razor
So you see? Our ancestors managed to live with what they had and even though they deep down wanted something more, It just wasn't there and yet they managed to live and I am sure many had productive lives. So when you find yourself complaining about every little detail and you think it makes you look ugly or you see your old face in the mirror still and feel like you have no hope, just remember those that came before you had it much harder and yet carried on.
Consider that 100 years ago folks who felt different were usually in hiding from the rest of America (and the word really). There was no word called transgender or transsexual then. You would probably be labeled gay or lesbian or bisexual or they would not know what to think about you.
Our ancestors could never do the following:
Take HRT Like we do (the whole gauntlet of medicine)
Laser and Electrolysis like we do
Breast Augmentation like we do
Facial Feminization Surgery Like we do
SRS/GRS Surgery like we do
Feminization Voice Surgery like we do
No in fact all they were limited to was:
Growing Long hair
Wearing Makeup and Perfume
Wearing Womens Clothes
Walking and Talking Feminine
Shaving face and body hair with a crude razor
So you see? Our ancestors managed to live with what they had and even though they deep down wanted something more, It just wasn't there and yet they managed to live and I am sure many had productive lives. So when you find yourself complaining about every little detail and you think it makes you look ugly or you see your old face in the mirror still and feel like you have no hope, just remember those that came before you had it much harder and yet carried on.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 01:12:21 PM
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 01:12:21 PM
Realistically, you could not any of that sixty years ago. Sixty years ago, you would have been a ->-bleeped-<- or a drag queen...
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on November 18, 2012, 01:15:09 PM
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on November 18, 2012, 01:15:09 PM
Yeah That sounds about right, I just wanted to say 100 years ago for The United States case, we were just barely having an industrial revolution in 1912. How long has the term ->-bleeped-<- or drag queen been used?
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 01:27:46 PM
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 01:27:46 PM
Funny that you posted this as I started a bit of research for my book on the history of ->-bleeped-<-. It appears that ->-bleeped-<- began appearing around the mid-20th century. Before that, it was "female impersonator" which I found as early as 1858 in the New York Times.
"Drag queen" first appeared in the New York Times in 1967.
"Drag queen" first appeared in the New York Times in 1967.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on November 18, 2012, 01:35:05 PM
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on November 18, 2012, 01:35:05 PM
Hmm interesting, well I hope your book meets with success, when was the 1st hair removal process done? When did electrolysis get invented and laser hair removal? I am sure you probably already an idea for a chapter about the medical/body image history of transfolk.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: Snowpaw on November 18, 2012, 01:40:27 PM
Post by: Snowpaw on November 18, 2012, 01:40:27 PM
Times change, we have all that and more these days. So it's a little harder to cope with in a time when things can be corrected but are just out of reach. In my case at least. Maybe it will get better? Dunno. All I know is some days I like what I see in the mirror, other times I just want to shatter the mirror.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 02:31:00 PM
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 02:31:00 PM
Quote from: Bella on November 18, 2012, 01:44:31 PM
Electrolysis has been around for over a 100 years.
100 years ago, finding an electrologist that would work on a female impersonator would have been problematic.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: eli77 on November 18, 2012, 02:40:24 PM
Post by: eli77 on November 18, 2012, 02:40:24 PM
I can think of other things our ancestors could have done with a crude razor. Like slit their throats. Our suicide rates are horrifying now. I can't imagine what they would have been like then. I think it's a little presumptuous to assume that they "managed to live." I'm sure lots of them didn't.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 03:05:56 PM
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 03:05:56 PM
Quote from: Sarah7 on November 18, 2012, 02:40:24 PM
I can think of other things our ancestors could have done with a crude razor. Like slit their throats. Our suicide rates are horrifying now. I can't imagine what they would have been like then. I think it's a little presumptuous to assume that they "managed to live." I'm sure lots of them didn't.
They could join the circus. I found a story about an 1850s equestrian "female impersonator" circus performer who was quite famous.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: kathy bottoms on November 18, 2012, 03:21:21 PM
Post by: kathy bottoms on November 18, 2012, 03:21:21 PM
Quote from: Sarah7 on November 18, 2012, 02:40:24 PM
I can think of other things our ancestors could have done with a crude razor. Like slit their throats. Our suicide rates are horrifying now. I can't imagine what they would have been like then. I think it's a little presumptuous to assume that they "managed to live." I'm sure lots of them didn't.
And what about persecution, insane asylums, and just flat out murders. I'm sorry for anyone who went through those times.
I'll never be pretty, and may not pass very well when I get to that point. But at least I won't be locked away or killed (I hope) for it.
K
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: Nicolette on November 18, 2012, 03:46:51 PM
Post by: Nicolette on November 18, 2012, 03:46:51 PM
Castration? Become a unich?
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: tekla on November 18, 2012, 04:01:37 PM
Post by: tekla on November 18, 2012, 04:01:37 PM
we were just barely having an industrial revolution in 1912
Our 'Industrial Revolution' (which began in 1776, just like it did in England, BTW) was pretty over by then.
And such things were often based on class and social status. One thing that is almost impossible to realize in our day is how truly and deeply 'private' private life was, both in terms of what others knew, as well as in terms of what you shared with others. But I'm sure any number of Victorian groups like the Hellfire Club existed in the larger cities in the US, as they did in London going back to the 1880s. Certainly there were numerous cases of women passing themselves off as men.
Our 'Industrial Revolution' (which began in 1776, just like it did in England, BTW) was pretty over by then.
And such things were often based on class and social status. One thing that is almost impossible to realize in our day is how truly and deeply 'private' private life was, both in terms of what others knew, as well as in terms of what you shared with others. But I'm sure any number of Victorian groups like the Hellfire Club existed in the larger cities in the US, as they did in London going back to the 1880s. Certainly there were numerous cases of women passing themselves off as men.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on November 18, 2012, 04:24:41 PM
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on November 18, 2012, 04:24:41 PM
Hmm I meant to say that technology was starting to advance faster here in America in the early 1900's than it had in previous centuries.
I guess i was really referring to this:
I guess i was really referring to this:
QuoteThe Second Industrial Revolution, also known as the Technological Revolution, was a phase of the larger Industrial Revolution corresponding to the latter half of the 19th century until World War I. It is considered to have begun with Bessemer steel in the 1860s and culminated in mass production and the production line.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 04:39:00 PM
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 04:39:00 PM
A Florida Enchantment (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0U7YkH8TPJs#)
The novel, A Florida Enchantment, upon which this film is based, was written in 1882.
The novel, A Florida Enchantment, upon which this film is based, was written in 1882.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: peky on November 18, 2012, 04:53:51 PM
Post by: peky on November 18, 2012, 04:53:51 PM
Quote from: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 01:27:46 PM
Funny that you posted this as I started a bit of research for my book on the history of ->-bleeped-<-. It appears that ->-bleeped-<- began appearing around the mid-20th century. Before that, it was "female impersonator" which I found as early as 1858 in the New York Times.
"Drag queen" first appeared in the New York Times in 1967.
what would be the novel angle? There are so many books on the topic
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 04:59:18 PM
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 04:59:18 PM
Quote from: peky on November 18, 2012, 04:53:51 PM
what would be the novel angle? There are so many books on the topic
I don't write novels although I would like to. This would be a historiographical account and what I have in mind would be unlike anything ever written. Not to denigrate anyone but if the people at the trans forum can get anything published, I sure can.
And without looking it up, how many MtF transsexual historians can you name?
I just did a search of the entire UC library system and I did not see any historical accounts of ->-bleeped-<-. I would concentrate on 1800s to present, my area of expertise. It would historical with a lot of feminist theory. I really want to rip that Raymond person.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: JoanneB on November 18, 2012, 08:03:50 PM
Post by: JoanneB on November 18, 2012, 08:03:50 PM
Think 300 years ago:
Edward Hyde, 3rd Earl of Clarendon (28 November 1661 – 31 March 1723), styled Viscount Cornbury between 1674 and 1709, was Governor of New York and New Jersey between 1701 and 1708, and is perhaps best known for the claims of his cross-dressing while in office.
Since I was born and raised in NJ, I maintain that there is something in the water ;D
Edward Hyde, 3rd Earl of Clarendon (28 November 1661 – 31 March 1723), styled Viscount Cornbury between 1674 and 1709, was Governor of New York and New Jersey between 1701 and 1708, and is perhaps best known for the claims of his cross-dressing while in office.
Since I was born and raised in NJ, I maintain that there is something in the water ;D
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: AmyBee on November 18, 2012, 08:29:33 PM
Post by: AmyBee on November 18, 2012, 08:29:33 PM
Quote from: Sarah7 on November 18, 2012, 02:40:24 PMBack in the day, you might not have even had to go that far - plagues or any number of wars would do the job for you, and I guess throwing yourself into battle/tending the sick if you don't think you're worth saving is not big stretch.
I can think of other things our ancestors could have done with a crude razor. Like slit their throats. Our suicide rates are horrifying now. I can't imagine what they would have been like then. I think it's a little presumptuous to assume that they "managed to live." I'm sure lots of them didn't.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 09:09:31 PM
Post by: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 09:09:31 PM
The Flu epidemic in the early 2oth century killed a 100 million. Then look at all the wars and the genocide six million Jews..countless Armenians...well...speaking of genocide, in 1994, 800,000 Rwandans were killed or 20% of the population. Hutus killed their own countrymen, Tutsi and Tutsi sympathizers. Then there was Bosnia...Srebrenica...Kosovo....oh the humanity...
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: tekla on November 18, 2012, 10:35:16 PM
Post by: tekla on November 18, 2012, 10:35:16 PM
And without looking it up, how many MtF transsexual historians can you name?
One, Susan Stryker, who has had both written several books as wellas put a film out, and basically started the LGBT history project in SF serving as executive director of the GLBT Historical Society for a number of years.
How many are needed?
One, Susan Stryker, who has had both written several books as wellas put a film out, and basically started the LGBT history project in SF serving as executive director of the GLBT Historical Society for a number of years.
How many are needed?
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: mementomori on November 19, 2012, 07:30:28 AM
Post by: mementomori on November 19, 2012, 07:30:28 AM
COCCINELLE 1er transexuel (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hVbnyl3BDIU#) no some of them looked way better than me! haaha
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: peky on November 19, 2012, 08:51:02 AM
Post by: peky on November 19, 2012, 08:51:02 AM
Quote from: UCBerkeleyPostop on November 18, 2012, 04:59:18 PM
I don't write novels although I would like to. This would be a historiographical account and what I have in mind would be unlike anything ever written. Not to denigrate anyone but if the people at the trans forum can get anything published, I sure can.
And without looking it up, how many MtF transsexual historians can you name?
I just did a search of the entire UC library system and I did not see any historical accounts of ->-bleeped-<-. I would concentrate on 1800s to present, my area of expertise. It would historical with a lot of feminist theory. I really want to rip that Raymond person.
Look, i do not want to get in a "cat fight," so I am going to try to be as delicate as possible:
You really do not know the credentials or lack thereof of people in this forum. You are bit presumptions, you have not graduate yet. An yes, your university is great but that is all. It is not the University who makes the scholar, it is the other way around.
As far as "transsexual historians" and feminism goes, the concept is not new at all, Susan O'Neal Stryker (a tg person) and Leslie Feinberg (a lesbian) have published some seminal work on this area, the Transgender History, Present and Future
(Transgender History, Seal Press, 2008.Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergman, eds. Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation, Seal Press, 2010.) and "Transgender warriors," respectively. This is just to mention a few.
Even in you own backyard there is a transwoman, Dr. Julia Serrano, who has published some pretty avant work on Feminism and ->-bleeped-<- (Whipping Girl). http://www.zoominfo.com/# (http://www.zoominfo.com/#)!search/profile/person?personId=422636241&targetid=profile
Finally, so yeah, please go ahead and write your book, persue your dream, keep that high self-steem, but a little bit of modesty may go a long way my dear Young Jedi
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: tekla on November 19, 2012, 09:52:52 AM
Post by: tekla on November 19, 2012, 09:52:52 AM
Susan Stryker was in her backyard too for a long time, Cal grad (Stanford Post-Doc), LGBT History Center in SF for a long time - I think she is in Arizona now teaching.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on November 20, 2012, 09:59:15 AM
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on November 20, 2012, 09:59:15 AM
Well, I happened to be at the Tom Waddell clinic in San Francisco a while ago and a transgirl friend that was also there was having a heated discussion with another transgirl who was overly concerned about her facial surgeries, its all she could talk about, my friend was intent on trying to show this other gal how beautiful she already was and that she didn't need facial surgery, that she should be more focused about her personality and how she carries on about her daily life.
What would make me female is not my body anyways but my heart and mind and soul. I think we just get too wrapped up on appearance instead of paying attention to our emotions.
What would make me female is not my body anyways but my heart and mind and soul. I think we just get too wrapped up on appearance instead of paying attention to our emotions.
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: eli77 on November 20, 2012, 10:48:11 AM
Post by: eli77 on November 20, 2012, 10:48:11 AM
Quote from: Shawn Sunshine on November 20, 2012, 09:59:15 AM
What would make me female is not my body anyways but my heart and mind and soul. I think we just get too wrapped up on appearance instead of paying attention to our emotions.
Depends on the person I guess. I feel like the only thing about me that is female is my body. My heart and mind have little to do with gender. And I'm fairly sure I don't have a soul.
My emotions were pretty unhappy with the previous form of my body. That's why I transitioned. Why would I physically alter myself if it WASN'T about appearance? If it's your heart and mind and soul that are female, what does it matter what the container looks like? Why bother with hormones or surgery or makeup or clothing or electrolysis or laser or hairstyles or...?
Title: Re: Do you worry too much about looks and body image? Consider your ancestors...
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on November 20, 2012, 11:41:36 AM
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on November 20, 2012, 11:41:36 AM
My point here is not to say that I don't want a female body, no instead it is to remind myself and others that people have had it worse in the past and we should be thankful for the strides of our ancestors or we would not have anything today. Oh and yes today is Transgender Remembrance day!
Let us take a moment to pray for those who were murdered and abused and those who fought the good fight before us. Pray for the families of transfolk who have lost their love ones.
Let us take a moment to pray for those who were murdered and abused and those who fought the good fight before us. Pray for the families of transfolk who have lost their love ones.