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I sat down with my mom and tried explaining everything, which just ended up turning into a very roundabout conversation. She is now convinced that I can't see my boyfriend, because he is a boy. Apparently I can't possibly like him for who he is, regardless of gender. He is accepting of me no matter what, and I wish that she could be. Instead of just talking about my gender discontent, it turned into her accusing him of being gay, saying boys don't like boys, and saying that me not liking women means that I am a girl. I tried explaining my lack of sexual attractions, which she said must be a mental disorder.

I give her credit for trying, I guess. Told her that if she wants to learn more about all of it that the information is online everywhere. She probably hates me even more and will add this to her list of reasons to have me locked up, but I did attempt to tell her. Despite my own embarrassment and shame, it had to be done at some point.

Congrats on coming out and having such a supportive significant other :) Hopefully your mother will come around. Her reaction sounds a lot like my moms when I told her that my significant other would be transitioning from mtf. She was like 'omg but what if he wants to be with a guy!! He never cared if you shaved your legs or not, does he want you to be a boy?! I want you to have be with a man that makes you feel like a woman!' I was like UGH! mom, gross! My mother seemed more concerned about my gf leaving me as opposed to the actual transition, which I found a bit amusing. She has begun to come around though, all it took was a documentary showing that people can do this and stay with their partner. I guess just helping educate our parents is all we can do. But if they don't want to understand it they never will.

Thanks. I managed to come out to a friend I trust today- it was amazing how simple it was. He just reacted as if we were talking about the weather, and offered to use male pronouns, asking a couple of questions about what my plans are and the like. In the end, his basic response was, "Okay, cool."

Friends like those are the best to have, especially in situations people aren't always the most accepting of. I consider myself extremely luck to know such people. Going to try telling my close circle of friends tomorrow, which shouldn't be difficult as long as I can find it within me to come out and say it. That's really the hardest part.

Glad your mother came around; disapproval from a parent about who you are (or who your loved one is) can be one of the most painful things. It's sad how they can react at times, but sometimes it just takes saying the right thing to make them understand. I'm very happy it worked out for you and wish the best for both you and your significant other through this.

As for mine? She's trying to understand, but it will definitely take time. I'm not going to even try telling my dad anytime soon, though. He's not the kindest or most accepting of people.