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Title: visiting family - ARGHHH
Post by: the_physicist on December 01, 2012, 05:31:38 PM
Seriously, how do you all get through a weekend with your (unsupportive) family?

ARGHHH! is I think the best way to describe my reaction to having to spend so much time with my mother and her 'views'.
Title: Re: visiting family - ARGHHH
Post by: Arch on December 01, 2012, 05:32:53 PM
I get through it by choosing not to do it in the first place. Is that not an option?
Title: Re: visiting family - ARGHHH
Post by: the_physicist on December 01, 2012, 05:39:36 PM
Quote from: Arch on December 01, 2012, 05:32:53 PM
I get through it by choosing not to do it in the first place. Is that not an option?

i'm hoping they'll come round at some point? :/ my dad isn't even that bad, but my mother - who is actually trans* herself- is just the worst.
Title: Re: visiting family - ARGHHH
Post by: suzifrommd on December 01, 2012, 06:54:39 PM
Quote from: the_physicist on December 01, 2012, 05:31:38 PM
Seriously, how do you all get through a weekend with your (unsupportive) family?

ARGHHH! is I think the best way to describe my reaction to having to spend so much time with my mother and her 'views'.

Make yourself just as annoying as they are by refusing to stop educating them. Keep repeating:

* This is not something we choose
* It does not go away on its own
* Trans people do much better when they have the support of those that love them.
* It's not something we do for "fun". It's a recognized medical condition for which standard effective treatment exists.

Sometimes people have to hear things a bunch of times before it sinks in, even someone like your mother who has a lot of experience with it.

Good luck. Hope his helps.
Title: Re: visiting family - ARGHHH
Post by: Arch on December 01, 2012, 11:36:53 PM
Quote from: the_physicist on December 01, 2012, 05:39:36 PM
but my mother - who is actually trans* herself- is just the worst.

This just boggles my mind. Have you spoken to your father about your mother?
Title: Re: visiting family - ARGHHH
Post by: spacial on December 02, 2012, 04:02:06 AM
I did as Arch. About 20 or so years ago. Not seen nor heard from any since.

I can't begin to describe how good that feels.