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Hey all,

I'm 20, FtM and gay, and my chosen name is Henry Sherlock. I am pre-everything because, not only am I poor, but there is no way I am telling my family. One reason is I honestly don't feel it has anything to do with them. This sounds cold and selfish, sure, if you don't know anything about talking to the people I am related to. I am also a little, although probably a lot, emotionally disengaged, a skill I learnt a very long time ago. Perhaps that is why I don't mind if I never tell. Although that involves leaving everything.

In my spare time when I am not overcome with a sense of despair and worthlessness I write science fiction/fantasy/horror. I am saving up to do a course at Light Film School, mainly in order to be the one to adapt one of my stories to television. I am ambidextrous and probably a little bipolar.

Usually I am a shy person, however, I find I communicate rather well through text... Which is far better than talking. I know I seem negative, yeah, its a part of me, but that doesn't mean I can't listen, nor that I am a steretypical angry and bitter egoist. Hmmm, no idea where that came from... *official disclaimer ? :P*

No, if you get to know me you'll find I am sarcastic and, apparently, adorable (not my word).

I'm going to leave that there and find another thread to rant on my fears of coming out.

Until anon,

Henry

Hello and welcome Henry.

Transition is something we have to do for ourselves, not others so there is no reason to involve them unnecessarily if you don't want to.  You have taken the first and biggest step in coming out to yourself, the rest is a matter of waiting until the time is right, for what ever reason.  If you want to rant here, feel free, we won't mind in the least.  Transition is just about the hardest thing you can do so there is no shame in having a day when you want to tell the world to get  whatevered.

Karen.

Hi Henry  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's  :)  Glad to have you here

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Welcome Henry!

I understand about not wanting to tell your family, especially if you think they may react negatively.  Sometimes it is easier to move away from everyone to begin your transition, I know it was for me. Although also, for me, it would have been impossible to go through completely alone.  I was lucky enough to have a really good friend and her family accept me with open arms and were very supportive with everything.  I'm hoping you have a friend, or can find a good gender therapist, or support group in your area.  Anyone that you will be able to put your trust in and lean on during your journey, although this online community is also a great start! I wish I had known about this place before I started :)  I am sending luck your way, and hoping all goes well.

Hi Henry, :icon_wave:

Welcome to our little family. Over 9200 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another brother. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-3.gif&hash=f49e2f86761323f2abd9c33941920389dbb3b10f)

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Wow, thank you everyone for such a warm welcome. I am glad I found this community.

^^ Henry

Want to let you know that keeping your family out of it is not cold and selfish. Given the matter, its very rational to be either afraid, or to know, based on past experiences, that telling them is not important and that they will not accept you.

Its not uncommon to be distant from your parents. The importance of parents in some people's lives varies. Some people depend on them for financial or filial support. But if you feel you should not tell them, its is likely for good reason.

Hi there Henry.  Welcome from southern California.

We have a whole board dedicated to rants and venting!

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,34.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,34.0.html)

Lucky you  ;)

Hi Henry, welcome from Boston! We're glad you found the site. See you around, hugs, Devlyn

Henry, welcome! I don't think you sound cold or selfish either, as you said you've almost had to become that way (maybe due to lack of support from family?).  Either way, I hope you make lots of new friends here & feel more at home :)  good luck