Susan's Place Transgender Resources

I'm a 25 year old transguy. I transitioned (socially) 4 years ago. I'm separated with a naturally conceived & delivered 11 month old baby and one on the way. Neither was planned, but contraception doesn't always work. My marriage is ending because I cannot tolerate my in-laws (minus my mother in law who was wonderful but passed away a little over a year ago) and how they treat me. (I'm often called a freak, they're racist and I'm half-black, they refused to come to our wedding because they're "embarrassed" of me, my partner's stepmother actually said that she wished my [first] baby would result in a miscarriage, and they find new ways to insult me whenever they talk to me.) My partner wants to keep them around because he loves my father in law... Okay, I can understand that (SORT of - I would have left my parents behind a long time ago if they acted that way), but I refuse to be a part of it.

I went to college for business law and accounting and also started working on a degree in culinary arts, which I would like to someday get back to. (It was a lot of fun!) I'll probably buy a restaurant one day. I have social anxiety, but you probably wouldn't know it unless you talked to me on a really, really, really bad day.

So I've got a lot of baggage, but I'm a VERY kind and understanding guy... I just haven't had the opportunity to talk to anyone who understands me, ever. I don't have any transgender/bi-gender/intersex/neither/other friends, so I've been on my own throughout all this. I hope this forum changes that. Thanks, all of you, just for being here and making me feel not so alone for once. :)

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Hey! We're both newbies here lol.

Your story is really touching and I know it must be hard dealing with people who can be so hurtful. I can't speak from experience but I know my boyfriend (who is also FtM) has gone through a lot as well. He hasn't joined the forum yet but I'm hoping he does soon! Hopefully he'll make a lot of new friends, since it's hard for him to find trans friends without putting himself completely out there (he's pre-everything). BUT if you ever need a shoulder to lean on, figuratively of course lol, I'm here.
I joined to get advice mostly on how to deal with the transition and to make sure I keep my boyfriend happy during the difficult times. I have a lot to learn, and slowly but surely I have been. I read a lot of people's stories and posts on this forum and it helps a lot with my side of the relationship as well as understanding what my boyfriend goes through as a trans guy.

I commend you for separating yourself from the negative aspects in your life. Some people will just never understand, but I assure you that you're not a freak, but in fact a gift from God. Stay positive and stay true to yourself!

MSG me anytime!
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Hi Danny, welcome to Susan's Place! Glad you found us! I'm up around the Boston area. Hugs, Devlyn

Welcome Danny, from southern California.  We have a professional chef on site here as a member.

Good luck in your future endeavors.

Dannyxd, hi & welcome.  I'm so glad you're here, especially when you seem to have a lot of stuff going on.  I'm sorry to hear how unsupportive your inlaws were of you & the disrespectful things they said to you. I will say congratulations on your baby & the one on the way, children are precious whether they were planned or not! I hope that this forum will be comforting and helpful to you & that you have a stess free (or as much as possible) pregnancy!

Hi Danny, welcome.

I'm so sorry that you have not been treated with the respect you deserve. I hope that you will feel better coming here.

Aethan