Susan's Place Transgender Resources

 Ok I have had a tremendous year, coming out FT and being accepted and feeling very good.

For once I have several projects on the table for next year both work and personal. All look good.

What are you going to do in 2013?

The good the bad and the ugly?

The Good? I will be moving back to California sometime in 2013

The Bad? I am stuck here in Texas for now.

The Ugly? I need to lose 100-150 lbs

The good?
    I finally accepted myself as trans this past July.
    I lost 65 pounds in six months.
    I have begun transition and HRT.
    I came out to my wife and we've amicably separated, which is for the best.
   
The Bad?
    I still need to come out to my grown kids, which is just tearing me up in anticipation.
    I desperately need to find employment that will support me in transition, I am working a job that pays well, but they will fire me if they learn I am transitioning.
    I am trying to do this broke and in debt, albeit with a relatively good income.
    I wasted over fifty years of my life trying desperately to be male, filled with self-loathing and guilt, painfully repressing who I really am.

The Ugly?
    My face, until I can get FFS (maybe not ugly for a male, but ...)

My goals for 2013:
    Find a job with one of the companies who scored 100% on the HRC.org CEI list
    Get FFS in about a year
    Go full time immediately thereafter
    Survive

Quote from: Cindy James on December 29, 2012, 02:14:58 AM
What are you going to do in 2013?

The good the bad and the ugly?

The GOOD: Starting HRT on 1/17 if the bloodwork comes back favorable.

The BAD: I'm planning to go full time at my work which also happens to be the same school my daughter attends (seemed like a good idea at the time, long before I knew I was trans). Totally unclear what that will do to my career or my daughter's life.

The UGLY: Me. When I go out in public en femme, which I do pretty much every chance I get, I get a lot of stares and sidelong glances, and it's not because they're in awe at my beauty. I'm going to need to figure out what cosmetics, a wig upgrade, or learning to move differently might do for my passability, femininity and looks.

And it's not that I have some dysmorphic body thing going - I'm just being honest with myself. I was good looking as a guy and I think I have a decent looking body. It's only from the neck up that I need serious help.

I have my 3rd appointment with the gender clinic this January. They are going to either stop being mean (NHS sucks for this stuff) and give me hormones or I am going to use my money I saved up to go to a private doctor. Either way there will be progress!

Good: hair extensions on the 11th and going full time.   Edit:  Name & gender marker change.

Bad: My SO is content with her stagnant career in Wisconsin while I am not content living the same life I had in my late 20s for the rest of my 30s and beyond.  Even if I get to live that life as a woman.

Ugly: The potential fallout from the bad.

The Good: In my last class before going to extern.

The Bad: Third time tying to pass Anesthesia,  But I think I have a very good shot.

The Ugly: School is in "Teach Out", so I don't know if I will be allowed take Anesthesia again if I don't pass this time. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-1.gif&hash=4a7edb8e10f639196821bd403e6dc36860459f64)

The Good: I'm going to be out at university and going by my chosen name.

The Bad: I still live in this dumb town.

The Ugly: Potentially. I'm trying to navigate transition in this town where information is not available (on anything) and people have a tendency to be old fashioned, conservative, and/or religious.

As a shamelessly unbridled optimist, I have no interest in the bad or the ugly.

From a personal POV, I see myself reaching some of my considerable personal prosperity goals and, probably, improving my residential situation greatly.

In a grand view mode, I also see 2013 as a great year for transgender people in general. Last year we saw, for the first time, the president of the US giving positive recognition to both ->-bleeped-<- and gay marriage. We also saw largely positive public attention to a growing trend of transsexual and crossdressing models in the high profile world of fashion. I'll stick my neck out and predict that in the coming year we'll see a many more gay and transgender persons involved openly in politics and social issues. I also will go so far as to predict that we'll see some transgender person to attain positive public attention in the traditionally slow changing television industry.

~ Lyric ~

I wish I could say I'd done something worthwhile, but sadly, it's been a pretty normal year for me, which is rather unusual.

But I have found this:

http://onebillionrising.org/ (http://onebillionrising.org/)

I raise my arms to the sky
On my knees I pray
I'm not afraid anymore
I will walk through that door
Walk, dance, rise
Walk, dance, rise

I can see a world where we all live
Safe and free from all oppression
No more rape or incest, or abuse
Women are not a possession

You've never owned me, don't even know me I'm not invisible, I'm simply wonderful I feel my heart for the first time racing I feel alive, I feel so amazing

I dance cause I love
Dance cause I dream
Dance cause I've had enough
Dance to stop the screams
Dance to break the rules
Dance to stop the pain
Dance to turn it upside down
Its time to break the chain, oh yeah
Break the Chain
Dance, rise
Dance, rise

In the middle of this madness, we will stand I know there is a better world Take your sisters & your brothers by the hand Reach out to every woman & girl

This is my body, my body's holy
No more excuses, no more abuses
We are mothers, we are teachers,
We are beautiful, beautiful creatures

I dance cause I love
Dance cause I dream
Dance cause I've had enough
Dance to stop the screams
Dance to break the rules
Dance to stop the pain
Dance to turn it upside down
It's time to break the chain, oh yeah
Break the Chain, oh yeah
Break the Chain

Dance Break Inst.

Dance, rise
Dance, rise

Sister won't you help me, sister won't you rise x4

Dance, rise
Dance, rise

Sister won't you help me, sister won't you rise x4

This is my body, my body's holy
No more excuses, no more abuses
We are mothers, we are teachers,
We are beautiful, beautiful creatures

I dance cause I love
Dance cause I dream
Dance cause I've had enough
Dance to stop the screams
Dance to break the rules
Dance to stop the pain
Dance to turn it upside down
Its time to break the chain, oh yeah
Break the Chain, oh yeah
Break the Chain

OMG WHAT A YEAR 2013 WILL BE::



1st. First Full beard Electrolysis clearance at the end of Jan-can't wait!!!

2nd. FFS with Dr in LA in early FEB
--Hairline reduction, orbital bony contouring, and brow raising,...they are cutting the mucles which are responsible for forehead wrinkles too, yeahh
--Very complicated rhinoplasty to give me that feminine nose which will flow right into my newly flattened forehead and complete the scope of work for my first session of FFS

3rd.  From here it's HORMONE TIME.  WILL BE STARTING HRT ASAP.

4th.  Little things will be to come out to my Dad, and come out to my little brother who will be looking after me in LA, should be FUN!!!  My Dad, I can only pray for his acceptance:(

Around the end of the month, I fly back to South East Asia to resume running my business.

5. I  will continue to diet and monitor HRT, and make a great effort to get the best possible response from HRT while I am in Asia for the next few months. 

6.  Then I am back to NY for a wedding (as a groomsman?, hehe), and from there I will be booking another full face electrolysis appt and get that done again, can't wait!

7. I may fly to LA and have an Upper Lift Lift done which is the only procedure I've always felt is missing before I can truly sit back and watch the HRT magic run its course.

8. NOW I CAN ENJOY AND CELEBRATE THAT I HAVE MADE IT THIS FAR AND I AM ON COURSE!!! YEAH!!

The balance of my time and all along in general is me busting my butt and working like mad to finish the orders and get them to the client on time <AHHHH.  It's going to be a crazy year but I can't wait!!!!!

The good: Hopefully I can start transitioning in 2013. I feel kind of dumb since I've been wanting to for 5-6 years. However I knew I wasn't ready, but I think I am now.

The bad: College xD and finding my major. Getting my health back from living with heavy smokers and drug users for a year. I did not do any of those, but I probably inhaled a lot of smoke.

The ugly: Trying to find a job , since I have no connections, and not a lot of useful skills I guess. Trying to have a more positive outlook on life xD. Trying to make friends... I'm quite shy and too reserved.

Well, 2012 was crazy. 2013 should be even better.

The good:

• Finally figured out that I'm trans. Started network with local trans groups / people
• Started down the path to transition, first therapy session in couple of weeks
• Started hair removal and body shaping. Lost almost 10kg over the year
• Have come out to most friends & family. So far all supportive

The bad:

• Worries about being able to pass
• Big potential to lose my SO.

The ugly:

• Nothing yet :o

Good:
-I came out. Yay!  :icon_woowoo:
-I'll be on HRT in February!  :icon_woowoo:
-I'll be out of high school! Gosh, I detest that place.  :icon_woowoo:
-I'll be EMT-certified by March.  :icon_woowoo:
-I'll have a job, and I'll be able to move out.  :icon_woowoo:

Bad:
Well, I'd rather not harsh on my own mellow.  :P

Ugly:
What did I just say about harshing my own mellow?!  :icon_peace: :icon_pelvic_thrust2: :icon_geekdance: :icon_dance: :eusa_dance: :eusa_whistle: :icon_boogy: :icon_bumdance-nerd: :icon_cool: :icon_smile: :icon_woowoo: :icon_yes:

The good:

Came out to my sister and father

Went to 2 therapy sessions

The bad:

Borderline high blood pressure and probably other health conditions
Carrying a lot of weight

The ugly:

I will be graduating in either April or May and I'm still pretty sheltered-got to work on that

What I will be doing in 2013 (hopefully)

Exercising more/eating better

Getting my license and a car

Getting a job (so I can afford more therapy sessions)

Getting a bank account

Grow up

2013

The good:
1. More IPL on the upper Lip - Three sessions so far and 5 to go. The progress is great. So No shadow by June 2013
2. Meet up with Cindy
3. An Aussie girls get together in Sydney
4. More and more clothes and Shoes!., I love my heels
5. A Deportment & Poise course
6. Visible waist & curves
7. Continue to lose weight another 10kgs by winter.
8. The Summer sales - Oh David Jones & Myer here I come!
9. Widen my circle of Lesbian friends
10. Achieve B Cup

The Bad
1. Must watch the blood pressure

The Ugly
1. How to come out at work

2013 for me

The Good:

The start of my new life!

Laser on facial hair (and body hair if I can afford it)
Learn how to do make up.
Shopping for new clothes and shoes.
Hope to experience and survive being en femme in public

The Bad:

Still having to spend too much time in boy mode  :(

The Ugly:

The roll of fat still clinging to my tummy that is reducing but still persistently lingering

Hope 2013 is a great year for everyone

Nicki xxx

Since I have a naturally optimistic personality, this will be crafted in a positive manner.

The good: 
Everything that's happened to date. Finding my Susan's family and a couple local friends I adore.
Looking forward to my journey, every minute of it.  I feel this at my core.

The bad:
Can't think of anything.

The ugly:
My boy clothing that I must wear. But, I have a solution........shop shop shop.

2013 is going to be the best year of my life. I'm so excited to jump on this ride.    I see life in me again.

Bless all of you.

The good: I see an endo and maybe go on t.  And I retire in May!

The bad: being in between.

The ugly: having to tell my sister. Not thinking her reaction will be so good.


--Jay

Quote from: Cindy James on December 29, 2012, 02:14:58 AM
The good the bad and the ugly?

The good: School, work, and more transitioning! Ideally, I'd like to squeeze top surgery in by end of the year.
The bad: Too much school and too much work, thus too much stress.
The ugly: I'm too optimistic for this.

I've had a long term plan going for some time so I hope I can keep to it.  For this year:
First I am going to work on my voice.  I bought a voice instruction program from Kathe Perez.  Wish me luck with that.  Second I am going to start laser on my face later in the year.  I'm excited for the changes this year will produce.

The good: 

Started HRT this year.

The Bad:  Nothing I can think of.

Ohh. Almost forgot...got my ears pierced (the good).  Big deal, right?  It was for me!

Quote from: Cindy James on December 29, 2012, 02:14:58 AM
Ok I have had a tremendous year, coming out FT and being accepted and feeling very good.

For once I have several projects on the table for next year both work and personal. All look good.

What are you going to do in 2013?

The good the bad and the ugly?

So far for your good Cindy, how about your bad and ugly?

The bad and ugly for me are both personal in that I think I'm going to lose someone I love.

Quote from: Cindy James on December 31, 2012, 01:55:22 AM
The bad and ugly for me are both personal in that I think I'm going to lose someone I love.

I cannot begin to tell you how much I feel for you now Cindy.

Take care love.

I forgot another good-- I got a girl friend!
Jay

Quote from: Cindy James on December 31, 2012, 01:55:22 AM
The bad and ugly for me are both personal in that I think I'm going to lose someone I love.

That is a very though one, OOO

The good: Came out full time and started HRT. Basically happy and doing well in school.

The bad: I'm sleeping on a couch.

The ugly: Having to fight my ex and my family every step of the way.

During 2012, I returned to living full time as Z (had previously transitioned in 1993 and de-transitioned a year later), started electrolysis and HRT. There have been occasional minor difficulties, but mostly things are going better this time.

For 2013, I hope to continue progressing forward.

Wishing everyone well for being yourselves in the New Year!

Z

Quote from: HthrRsln on December 29, 2012, 05:12:57 AM
The good?
    I finally accepted myself as trans this past July.
    I lost 65 pounds in six months.
    I have begun transition and HRT.
    I came out to my wife and we've amicably separated, which is for the best.
   
The Bad?
    I still need to come out to my grown kids, which is just tearing me up in anticipation.
    I desperately need to find employment that will support me in transition, I am working a job that pays well, but they will fire me if they learn I am transitioning.
    I am trying to do this broke and in debt, albeit with a relatively good income.
    I wasted over fifty years of my life trying desperately to be male, filled with self-loathing and guilt, painfully repressing who I really am.

The Ugly?
    My face, until I can get FFS (maybe not ugly for a male, but ...)

My goals for 2013:
    Find a job with one of the companies who scored 100% on the HRC.org CEI list
    Get FFS in about a year
    Go full time immediately thereafter
    Survive

Oh, and I have another Good that is in fact Great! I have posted about this separately, but just hours after I wrote this I found the nerve to come out to my younger son (21 years old) and he was TOTALLY supportive! He was way beyond wonderful! He read pages and pages of my writing about transsexualism, and my history with it, and his only concern was to ask what he could do to help, and hoping I would be okay. He said what I wrote was very clear and helpful and answered all the questions he could think of. This week he is going to meet with my gender therapist for an hour, just to meet her, and I thought, in case he has some questions he doesn't want to ask me.

I think this qualifies as at least GOOD! I am not exaggerating when I say it was one of the best days of my life, to have my son accept this with so much love and compassion.

Times like that make a parent very proud.

I am still giddy.  ;D

The big thing for me is that the court date for my legal name & gender change is set for January 25. Assuming the change is granted, I'll then have a boat load of paperwork to do.

The Good: finding this board and my new friend Jill

The Bad: trying to find a way to come out to everyone.

The Ugly: me and the way I am and how to change it all.

2013: starting to explore the inter girl that has been locked up so many years.

The good: Having my orchi at the end of the month. Yay!!!

The bad: I can not afford SRS yet.

The ugly: I can not afford SRS for at least another 3 years.

The Good: helping start an LGBT community choir
The Bad: inner meerkat
The Ugly: electrolysis face

While most people spend New Year's eve drinking and partying, some, here in the UK, regularly stay in to watch Jools Holland's Hootenanny.

It's an eclectic mix of live musical acts. Some well know, some not so, some unknown. But all, brilliant.

Anyway, this is an excerpt from the 2012-13 show. Each year, the broadcast lasts about 2 1/2 hours, each preformer does one song, though most come back later. It's never about a single act, even if that act is as big as Paul McCartney. (2008).

http://youtu.be/4NenAp7Jhf8 (http://youtu.be/4NenAp7Jhf8)

For some reason it's not embedding. Hope you click on the link. It's worth it.

The Good: moving soon, going back to school, hopefully start "putting myself out there" more

The Bad: not sure where I'm moving too has much in the way of LGBT kind of stuff

The Ugly: getting my man-cherry popped (haven't been laid post-transition)

Cindy you are a wonderful role model, thank you.
2013 is going great.  I have started transitioning mtf with counseling and support.  I cam out en femme with friends and they are loving me still.  I am coming out to family slowly, its a big group and I fear telling my two adult kids most of all.  This feels like I have stepped off a cliff and found I do have wings.  I did a couple of weekend sessions learning paragliding years ago and this is the emotional equivalent.  Tessa takes off!

The Good:
- having come out at work to general acceptance and lack of weirdness.
- going on hormones sometime this year.
- regaining my independence.
- starting to like myself once again.
- being able to look in the mirror without crying. Eventually.
- realising that hubby has been taking me for a ride for many years, and putting my foot down to stop it.

The Bad:
- being forced to throw away 16 years of marriage against my will, simply because I need to be able to live in my own skin and he can't deal with what it's going to take for me to do so.
- my kids are embarrassed by me and want to separate from me because of it.

The Ugly:
- the custody battle for our kids, who are at that age when having a trans parent is one of the most embarrassing things that could ever happen to them, so there's no way they'll stay with me.

Hey! It looks like the good outnumbers both the bad and the ugly, so I must be doing something right. ;)