Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Dark.Knight on February 02, 2013, 12:32:31 PM Return to Full Version
Title: FTM transitioning, passing, career, military,and setbacks
Post by: Dark.Knight on February 02, 2013, 12:32:31 PM
Post by: Dark.Knight on February 02, 2013, 12:32:31 PM
I'm going Attempt to sum up my rant and questions...
I'm a month away from turning 21, moved halfway across the USA to Texas with my love of 5 years, discovered I wanted to switch majors from architectural engineering to becoming a pilot, realized I did not want to take the long civilian route and will join the Airforce through four year rotc at a college. Now toward my Dilemma. I am pre everything but I have done some research and starting to see being open and gay is a ok now but being trans is disqualifying because its a mental disorder or some ish to the goverment meaning I can't start seeing a doctor, tell anyone outside of a close bubble, start t have any surgery and it depresses me. While my initial plan was to come out and start transitioning while finishing college I can't. Since I have large chest like DDD38 binding with my underworks is ok but not enough yet with out I want to cry. I don't pass, it also is depressing. I also have a heavy body and want to drop pounds over the next two years like dramatic but I need help. I need low body fat to get the hard masculine body I want pre t for now. Does anyone have any idea or helpful steps or words. I have to get in shape for my rotc and Air Force days I plan to start working toward in at least two years. After I serve for five six years and retire I will transition. Does anyone know if for now a breast reduction will disqualify me? How can I get that hard masculine body pre t? A work out, tips, etc.? Does anyone know Ftms who served? Also with passing for now, I need help. I grow hair thick body hair, keep my hair braided and bind. I don't act feminine and here no one knows me so I have the chance to be stealth one day with no question. I hope I didn't ramble to much and get some feedback.
I'm a month away from turning 21, moved halfway across the USA to Texas with my love of 5 years, discovered I wanted to switch majors from architectural engineering to becoming a pilot, realized I did not want to take the long civilian route and will join the Airforce through four year rotc at a college. Now toward my Dilemma. I am pre everything but I have done some research and starting to see being open and gay is a ok now but being trans is disqualifying because its a mental disorder or some ish to the goverment meaning I can't start seeing a doctor, tell anyone outside of a close bubble, start t have any surgery and it depresses me. While my initial plan was to come out and start transitioning while finishing college I can't. Since I have large chest like DDD38 binding with my underworks is ok but not enough yet with out I want to cry. I don't pass, it also is depressing. I also have a heavy body and want to drop pounds over the next two years like dramatic but I need help. I need low body fat to get the hard masculine body I want pre t for now. Does anyone have any idea or helpful steps or words. I have to get in shape for my rotc and Air Force days I plan to start working toward in at least two years. After I serve for five six years and retire I will transition. Does anyone know if for now a breast reduction will disqualify me? How can I get that hard masculine body pre t? A work out, tips, etc.? Does anyone know Ftms who served? Also with passing for now, I need help. I grow hair thick body hair, keep my hair braided and bind. I don't act feminine and here no one knows me so I have the chance to be stealth one day with no question. I hope I didn't ramble to much and get some feedback.
Title: Re: FTM transitioning, passing, career, military,and setbacks
Post by: spacial on February 02, 2013, 05:39:47 PM
Post by: spacial on February 02, 2013, 05:39:47 PM
To get in shape. Karate.
Good luck with everything.
Good luck with everything.
Title: Re: FTM transitioning, passing, career, military,and setbacks
Post by: ford on February 02, 2013, 06:46:57 PM
Post by: ford on February 02, 2013, 06:46:57 PM
Hey there Dark.Knight.
I served. 9 years, Navy + AF. I didn't go into the military knowing I was trans, but I did deal with a lot of depression related to my gender identity while I was in. This may not be true for most folks but for me, the military was actually a tough environment for someone with gender issues. While on some level it strives to equalize the sexes, there are very clear gender demarcations, and try as I might, I was never 'one of the guys.' I have no idea what your goals are for mil. service, but I would suggest thinking about what the highly regulated environment might mean to your dysphoria, if you have any. Also as far as I'm aware, pilots (because of the extra training they get) have an extended commitment...I think 9 years and not the usual 5 (but I didn't commission through rotc so I could be wrong). Just...make sure you do all the homework so you know what you're getting into.
Ok. Fitness. Being in shape is really crucial. I know for rotc they have regular fitness assessments that you do have to be in a semblance of shape for, and these assessments continue throughout your active duty time. I would stress getting comfortable with running above all else. I used to lead fitness assessments and this is by far where the most people have trouble. And frankly the only way you can get in shape to run the assessment fast enough (it's a timed 1.5 mile run) is to run. There are plenty of websites devoted to beginning runners if you are just staring out, and training programs for improving. Runners World has a good site with a forum. Other than that, pushups and situps, and a healthy diet (a lot of fitness forums devote topics to these things). And naturally these things should help you drop pounds over time.
I'm not sure about passing tips...not my forte, lol.
Not sure how useful that was, but welcome!
I served. 9 years, Navy + AF. I didn't go into the military knowing I was trans, but I did deal with a lot of depression related to my gender identity while I was in. This may not be true for most folks but for me, the military was actually a tough environment for someone with gender issues. While on some level it strives to equalize the sexes, there are very clear gender demarcations, and try as I might, I was never 'one of the guys.' I have no idea what your goals are for mil. service, but I would suggest thinking about what the highly regulated environment might mean to your dysphoria, if you have any. Also as far as I'm aware, pilots (because of the extra training they get) have an extended commitment...I think 9 years and not the usual 5 (but I didn't commission through rotc so I could be wrong). Just...make sure you do all the homework so you know what you're getting into.
Ok. Fitness. Being in shape is really crucial. I know for rotc they have regular fitness assessments that you do have to be in a semblance of shape for, and these assessments continue throughout your active duty time. I would stress getting comfortable with running above all else. I used to lead fitness assessments and this is by far where the most people have trouble. And frankly the only way you can get in shape to run the assessment fast enough (it's a timed 1.5 mile run) is to run. There are plenty of websites devoted to beginning runners if you are just staring out, and training programs for improving. Runners World has a good site with a forum. Other than that, pushups and situps, and a healthy diet (a lot of fitness forums devote topics to these things). And naturally these things should help you drop pounds over time.
I'm not sure about passing tips...not my forte, lol.
Not sure how useful that was, but welcome!