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When Your Boyfriend Becomes Your Ex-Girlfriend: A Nightlife Star Tells All
By Michael Musto Wednesday, Feb 13 2013

http://www.villagevoice.com/2013-02-13/columns/nightlife-star-tells-all/ (http://www.villagevoice.com/2013-02-13/columns/nightlife-star-tells-all/)

During a recent taping of Here TV's sexual gabfest Threesome, DJ/promoter/drag performer Michael Formika Jones blurted a revelation that sounded like the theme of a vintage Maury episode: An old boyfriend of his was now his ex-girlfriend. And they're still friends.

Three hot flashes later, I was on the phone with Formika—who regularly presides at bars like Eastern Bloc and the Phoenix—and got the whole story of timely transitions out of him, all while pretending my eyes weren't popping like fried eggs.

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"Pat was a wonderful boyfriend," Formika told me, but eventually some distance developed. One night, Pat became enthralled by a transsexual friend of Formika, which made the nightclub presence (a/k/a drag personality Misstress Formika) wonder what the subtext was. After months of discussion, it turned out Pat felt trapped in the wrong body and was desperate to transition to physical womanhood. "This was the most shocking news ever," said Formika, "because my closets are full of bras, high heels, and nylons, and in six years I never walked in and said, 'What are you doing in my pumps?' "

Explains Pat: "Through Michael [Formika], I met transsexuals who were 'normal.' Once I met some transsexual role models who weren't just hypersexualized porn stars/hookers or men in dresses, the idea became real to me. (Nothing wrong with those people, it's just not who I am). However, I think Michael and I still have very different views on what it means to be transsexual and how one should be transsexual."