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Title: Thank you, Therapy!
Post by: Liminal Stranger on February 13, 2013, 09:59:02 PM
Post by: Liminal Stranger on February 13, 2013, 09:59:02 PM
It's nothing physical like a letter for hormones or anything (someday...), but what it is is a start. I very awkwardly disclosed being trans to her briefly during the intake visit, and today I went in with the intention of talking to her about it. Boy was I nervous, but she was so awesome about it. All therapists should be like her- she listened to me, really listened! And she didn't write it off as me being too young or not knowing before or being a closeted lesbian or something like that. She reassured me that my mom can't have me locked up in a psychiatric hospital for mental observation like she's been threatening, told me I wasn't crazy (sometimes I really need to hear that after being around my mother), and said that really it's up to me- my decision when I'm old enough, because it's my body.
Thank you.
She also offered to call me by a preferred name, and I balked just because I get sad knowing I'd hear the name and then have to go by my birth name in school and at home. I don't think my mom would just agree to calling me Max. The therapist was cool with that too and said I can get back to her on it. Starting to think I should have her call me that, just to have a real-life safe space in which I can really be myself. Even though she's not a gender therapist, she was really understanding and I'm thrilled to know that I can talk to someone in person about everything without being judged or shamed.
Thank you.
She also offered to call me by a preferred name, and I balked just because I get sad knowing I'd hear the name and then have to go by my birth name in school and at home. I don't think my mom would just agree to calling me Max. The therapist was cool with that too and said I can get back to her on it. Starting to think I should have her call me that, just to have a real-life safe space in which I can really be myself. Even though she's not a gender therapist, she was really understanding and I'm thrilled to know that I can talk to someone in person about everything without being judged or shamed.
Title: Re: Thank you, Therapy!
Post by: King Malachite on February 13, 2013, 10:02:56 PM
Post by: King Malachite on February 13, 2013, 10:02:56 PM
That is wonderful, Liminal! It's great that you have such a cool therapist!
Title: Re: Thank you, Therapy!
Post by: Devlyn on February 13, 2013, 10:15:51 PM
Post by: Devlyn on February 13, 2013, 10:15:51 PM
Have her call you Max, by all means. It's going to come to everyone calling you that anyway, right? Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Thank you, Therapy!
Post by: aleon515 on February 13, 2013, 10:52:08 PM
Post by: aleon515 on February 13, 2013, 10:52:08 PM
I agree-- go for it! I don't think you'll regret it at all. Somewhere you can be who you really are.
--Jay
--Jay
Title: Re: Thank you, Therapy!
Post by: ford on February 13, 2013, 10:58:19 PM
Post by: ford on February 13, 2013, 10:58:19 PM
Glad you had a good session!
I agree with the name...use it!
I agree with the name...use it!
Title: Re: Thank you, Therapy!
Post by: Proton on February 14, 2013, 09:20:14 AM
Post by: Proton on February 14, 2013, 09:20:14 AM
I also chose not to have my therapist call me by my preferred name for now. I can only see myself asking her to change that once I ask the people on my everyday life to stop calling me by my birth name.
Personally, the idea of having two different names makes me uncomfortable.
Personally, the idea of having two different names makes me uncomfortable.
Title: Re: Thank you, Therapy!
Post by: Constance on February 14, 2013, 11:27:55 AM
Post by: Constance on February 14, 2013, 11:27:55 AM
A good therapist is worth their weight in gold (or hormones, as the case might be).
Congrats!
Congrats!