Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: tammygirl2 on May 23, 2007, 03:31:03 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Question
Post by: tammygirl2 on May 23, 2007, 03:31:03 PM
Post by: tammygirl2 on May 23, 2007, 03:31:03 PM
a few months back i had told my mum about how i feel and that i want to be a girl i also plucked up the courage to tell my dad a few weeks ago and both my parents think that the reason i feel the way i do is becuase of the loss of my sister when i was only 1 and a half - two years old. My dad also said that there is nothing wrong with the way i am feeling he then went to on say that he thinks it has something to do with the loss of my sister and that he thinks that i would be trying to replace her and he told me he does not want that.
When after my dad telling me that it still does not change the way i feel.
It has left me in a bit of a predicament. I do believe that these feelings i have ,have nothing to do with the loss of my sister but what if my parents are right.
Could a child of 1-2 years old really be affected in such away by loss of a loved one?.
I do not know where to go from here all i know is that i need to get to the bottom of it all as it will not just go away on its own and i cant ignore my feelings i have tried that too many times now and it always comes back to the same thing me wanting to be fem.
When after my dad telling me that it still does not change the way i feel.
It has left me in a bit of a predicament. I do believe that these feelings i have ,have nothing to do with the loss of my sister but what if my parents are right.
Could a child of 1-2 years old really be affected in such away by loss of a loved one?.
I do not know where to go from here all i know is that i need to get to the bottom of it all as it will not just go away on its own and i cant ignore my feelings i have tried that too many times now and it always comes back to the same thing me wanting to be fem.
Title: Re: Question
Post by: rhondabythebay on May 23, 2007, 05:22:53 PM
Post by: rhondabythebay on May 23, 2007, 05:22:53 PM
IMHO, I think seeing a gender therapist would help you sort this out. Having your parents talk to a gender therapist could help too, their reaction seems like an attempt to understand how this could happen. Knowing ->-bleeped-<- isn't caused by some compensatory mental mechanism will stop the search for one.
Hugs,
Rhonda
Hugs,
Rhonda
Title: Re: Question
Post by: tammygirl2 on May 24, 2007, 10:07:53 AM
Post by: tammygirl2 on May 24, 2007, 10:07:53 AM
Quote from: rhondabythebay on May 23, 2007, 05:22:53 PMI went to see my gp today and i have to go back in 2 weeks time as my new gp said he will have to read up about transgender related stuff as he has not come across anyone with this issue so i have to go back in 2 weeks time to talk about it. Hopefully he will refer me to someone that can help.
IMHO, I think seeing a gender therapist would help you sort this out. Having your parents talk to a gender therapist could help too, their reaction seems like an attempt to understand how this could happen. Knowing ->-bleeped-<- isn't caused by some compensatory mental mechanism will stop the search for one.
Hugs,
Rhonda
I just cant ignore my feelings as it does not work.
Title: Re: Question
Post by: rhondabythebay on May 24, 2007, 10:40:24 PM
Post by: rhondabythebay on May 24, 2007, 10:40:24 PM
Quote from: tammygirl2 on May 24, 2007, 10:07:53 AM
I went to see my gp today and i have to go back in 2 weeks time as my new gp said he will have to read up about transgender related stuff as he has not come across anyone with this issue so i have to go back in 2 weeks time to talk about it. Hopefully he will refer me to someone that can help.
I just cant ignore my feelings as it does not work.
Yes I hope he can refer you to someone. My gp said he didn't know anything about it either. He referred me to a therapist and an endocrinologist. From all the posts I've read here, and my own experience, ignoring your feelings just doesn't work.
Hugs,
Rhonda